My girlfriend's husband died tonight from Covid

[samplegirl]

A three month battle trying to get well. Even survived being on a ventilator. But could not rally I am beyond words Trump's dreadful disease still lurks and kills, and I hold him liable.

[DURHAM D]

1. Was he vaccinated?

[Irish_Dem]

6. One of my neighbors was extremely sick from Covid pneumonia.

Last November. Was heading for a bad ending.
But she rallied and pulled through.

She was vaccinated.

[DURHAM D]

8. I recently tested positive for covid.

I had no symptoms at all / ever. The only reason I took a covid test was because i had some about to expire and I had a dental appointment coming up. After I tested positive I went to a walk-in clinic and was tested again and given Paxlovid.
Never had any symptoms.
I believe I had 8 shots all together for covid.

[Irish_Dem]

9. I had nine vaxes so far, got covid in Nov.

Was quite sick, took the Paxlovid, got Covid Rebound and was sicker than with the original covid.
Took two months to get back to 100% feeling better.

But just found out today I have some long Covid problems.
I have always had normal cholesterol and inexplicably shot to a very high number in
recent blood work.

I exercise every day, eat mainly protein and fruits/veggies.
Do not smoke or drink.
And I am low to normal weight.

I did some online research and found out that this is a symptom of long covid.
So now I am on a meds to bring the cholesterol down.
Other than that I feel fine now.

[DURHAM D]

10. Hope your cholesterol gets right. nt

[Irish_Dem]

117. Tnx.

[LoisB]

13. Gracious! I hope your cholesterol goes down.

[Ms. Toad]

24. Same here.

9 vaccinations.

I've had COVID twice - long COVID after the first one. Most of the identified problems have resolved. The one continuing problems - blood glucose is higher and less predictable. I used to be able to control it very precisely with diet - now it is all over the place.

Pretty sure I've been exposed at least twice this week. On Monday I was told one of my professors had COVID so I shouldn't expect to see him this week . . . but I've seen him twice. I'm still masking virtually all the time, so I'm relatively safe. But I hope we aren't starting a little wave through the school.

And - I am expecting to be told I shouldn't continue to vaccinate (I get a month of severe headaches after each vaccination - the last one sent me to the ER).

[IbogaProject]

52. Look into Novavax for your next shot

Way milder as in no soreness and no after effects and I feel the coverage has been sustained for a longer period.

[Ms. Toad]

57. I'm not fond of the risk profile.

It contains added adjuvants - and I already have a wack-a-doodle immune system. Both autoimmune disorders and immune deficiencies. Currently, I react very strongly to vaccines (not just COVID). I've run a 103 temp for several hours after the last several I've gotten. I've fount mixed reviews about the comparative heart risk between the two types of vaccine - but that is an issue because I've had a lifelong heart murmur and am at risk for cardiovascular disease. (I know the risk is higher from COVID than from the vaccine - which is part of why I've had 9 vaccinations already. But the issue here is whether I can continue to live with spending two months a year largely in bed with my blankets over my head - in between running to worship the porcelain throne.)

[electric_blue68]

70. Ohhh, boy. : ( Good luck!

[IbogaProject]

138. Just relaying my expierience

I got really sore from the Pfizer. I still take them as even if I wasnt too at risk I want to reduce any spreading I could do.

[Ms. Toad]

161. After the first one or two, I had no soreness.

Just the intense fever and month of severe headaches.

[John1956PA]

26. My work manager has that very same spike since her COVID bout.

She exercises, keeps her weight down, and is otherwise healthy. Her labs were always right on the money before COVID. After she recovered from COVID, she found that her cholesterol readings were elevated. They still have not yet returned to normal.

[Irish_Dem]

120. When did she have covid? Is she taking a statin?

Some research is saying the spike might only last a year.

[bdamomma]

30. Glad to hear

you're feeling better. Keep up doing what you're doing to stay well. Yes, Covid is still out there lurking. But those vaccines help. The Shingles vaccine is another preventative one to get.

[Irish_Dem]

119. Yes I have all of the vaxes.

Every one that I can get.

[mahina]

53. Good luck! In case something my doc taught me last month might help, here are two studies on almonds and cholesterol.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21457263/
Effects of almond consumption on the reduction of LDL-cholesterol: a discussion of potential mechanisms and future research directions


https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26269239/
Dietary Almonds Increase Serum HDL Cholesterol in Coronary Artery Disease Patients in a Randomized Controlled Trial

[ananda]

112. And organic food

After that article on the effect of glyphosates, I went
all organic.

I have never had Covid even after I know I was exposed.

[Irish_Dem]

118. Thank you!

I will look into it and see if it works for covid cholesterol.

[samplegirl]

65. Good

I'm glad your better.

[electric_blue68]

68. Dang! Good luck on getting normal numbers again!

[Irish_Dem]

116. It is up to the meds, I already have a strict diet and exercise every day.

I weigh 117 and only fluctuate up one pound to 118.
Eat salads, fruit and lean meat.

I did splurge on croissants 6 months on vacation but my blood work was fine after the trip.
It only spiked after covid.

[lonely bird]

164. Just a note...

If someone has clotting issues like I do (factor 5 Leiden and PGM 2) Paxlovid is not a good choice. According to my PCP Paxlovid can cause bleeding issues.

[Irish_Dem]

170. Interesting, I did not know that.

I don't have clotting issues.
But Paxlovid might be connected to long covid symptoms.
I don't think they know yet.

[lonely bird]

183. Yeah

I got CoVid at Christmas and asked my PCP about Paxlovid and that was when he told me that it wasn’t good for me.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

72. I am at 8 vaccinations

I am the only member of my family who has not had COVID

[Sundance1220]

113. Same here

Vaccines up to date and have never had covid. My whole family is vaccinated but I'm the only one who has never had it. None had serious cases and even my 84 year old mother sailed through with minor symptoms. We're very fortunate.

[in the stacks]

155. Were we told

it would be like a flu shot? I don't recall having that impression. As a matter of course, I remember after the first shot, the second shot (think it was referred to as a "booster" ) was recommended very soon afterwards. Some people balked at that because it didn't make sense to them. But then it just settled into more and more shot because the flu virus morphs.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

156. It was my understanding that they hope that some day it will be like the flu shot

Right now, they are dealing with a still mutating virus and so more shots are needed

[in the stacks]

157. The flu shot is like this.

You get vaccinated for one strain of virus 🦠 but since it morphs it has a poor efficacy rate. In other words, getting the flu shot doesn't prevent a person from getting the flu during flu season. And what bugs me since the Covid jabs were rolled out is that the past few summers we've had flu epidemics long before fall! 🥴

[Evolve Dammit]

194. Right. They came out with a newer, reformulated booster a few months ago due to the new strains. Keep up I guess?

[AkFemDem]

130. I was miserably sick and am vaccinated

I also took Paxlovid. Vaccinated people can get very sick, and yes some die from Covid.

[Jit423]

61. Some are saying those who were vaccinated are now getting sick and dying. Is that true? Anyone else heard this?

Trying to find out but not much info on that.

[Irish_Dem]

115. The vaxes saved one of my friends.

She is 82, not in great health, and was very ill with covid pneumonia but rallied and pulled through.
We all think it was the vaccine that saved her.

If she had not been vaxxed we think she would have died.

The research is showing that the vaccines saves lives.

[Bernardo de La Paz]

132. Not much info because it is a reich-wing myth promulgated by self-styled "purebloods"

When the mRNA vaccines came out, the nitwits claimed people would be dying in droves in six months.

When six month passed, the nuts continued in two ways: a claim that massive deaths were being covered up, but showed up in statistics, and separately that the mass die-off would be in full swing after 3 years. When you look at their statistics, it is not hard to see how they misinterpret them.

It's more than three years now.

Don't waste your time with unscientific nonsense.

[mdbl]

154. It's the same stupid mindset as religious zealots

They make all these dumb predictions that never come true then make stupid rationalizations as an excuse for their stupidity.

[mahina]

133. There are a small number who have a bad reaction to any shot. More than 8 billion doses have been given worldwide.

55 have died from side effects of the shot. 8 billion, 8,000,000,000. Eight thousand millions. For perspective, 1.8411 billion is the entire population of China. The entire world population is 8.025 billion. If it killed people, a *lot* of people would have died of it.

I've had friends who are firmly convinced that the shot causes death because they are being told so by people on Fox or on social media who do not have this country's interests at heart- the opposite. I will never understand why anyone would sell our people that idea. It makes me so sad that so many have lost their lives or have long term health problems because they didn't take the shot. Thank you for asking this question. It's 3 am here and I need to get some sleep before work but here is one study that may be useful.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8875435/
Death after the Administration of COVID-19 Vaccines Approved by EMA: Has a Causal Relationship Been Demonstrated?Abstract
More than eight billion doses of COVID-19 vaccines have been administered globally so far and 44.29% of people are fully vaccinated. Pre-authorization clinical trials were carried out and the safety of vaccines is still continuously monitored through post-commercialization surveillance. However, some people are afraid of vaccine side effects, claiming they could lead to death, and hesitate to get vaccinated. Herein, a literature review of COVID-19-vaccine-related deaths has been carried out according to the PRISMA standards to understand if there is a causal relationship between vaccination and death and to highlight the real extent of such events. There have been 55 cases of death after COVID-19 vaccination reported and a causal relationship has been excluded in 17 cases. In the remaining cases, the causal link between the vaccine and the death was not specified (8) or considered possible (15), probable (1), or very probable/demonstrated (14). The causes of deaths among these cases were: vaccine-induced immune thrombotic thrombocytopenia (VITT) (32), myocarditis (3), ADEM (1), myocardial infarction (1), and rhabdomyolysis (1). In such cases, the demonstration of a causal relationship is not obvious, and more studies, especially with post-mortem investigations, are needed to deepen understanding of the possible pathophysiological mechanisms of fatal vaccine side effects. In any event, given the scarcity of fatal cases, the benefits of vaccination outweigh the risks and the scientific community needs to be cohesive in asserting that vaccination is fundamental to containing the spread of SARS-CoV-2.

https://omh.ny.gov/omhweb/covid-19-resources/vax-infographic-letter.pdf

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10880230/
I am sure there are better videos but I don't have time to search for them right now, though I hope you do.

?si=EJcbKoCxytJIXIx8

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/coronavirus/coronavirus-vaccines-infographic

“I have nothing against RFK Jr. from a human perspective, he should probably be an environmental leader, that's the kind of thing he's trained for — but under no circumstance should he be a health secretary. So his health secretary position, or the potential position, will doom us to outbreaks for our kids.”

~ Gov. Josh Green on President-elect Donald Trump’s pick to lead the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
Read and listen to this story

hope this helps. good night!

[MadameButterfly]

180. Thanks for this thorough and scientific response nt

[Mariana]

160. Vaccinated people have always gotten sick and died.

It's much less likely if they're vaccinated, but it does happen.

[LymphocyteLover]

176. Yes, the vaccine lowers your chances of severe disease and death significanrtly but is not bulletproof protection

[AllyCat]

23. I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine.

All our medicine still doesn’t save some of our friends. My heart goes out to you all.

[SunSeeker]

46. Unfortunately, covid vaccines lose much of their effectiveness against infection after 6 months.

“We begin to see within 60 days that the quality of your protection against infection starts to decrease. And, in fact, by six months or so, you have very little protection against infection. 

https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2022/booster-shot-immunity.html?cmp=KNC-DSO-COR-Health-COVID-NonBrand-Phrase-42027-GOOG-HEALTH-BoosterShotImmunity-COVID-Phrase-NonBrand&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-aK8BhCDARIsAL_-H9l-QQiwJbSm9FATRPeG9sYLe1HvdGyPkMGsBGMsXxGXtR6lFcwX8IsaAk65EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

[C Moon]

49. My wife and I caught COVID b4 Christmas. I was due to be vaccinated, she had been vaccinated at Costco in Oct.

Neither got a fever, but I was completely drained on day 1. She had a horrid sore throat. We both had coughs that persisted for 4 weeks.

I'm going to get another vax, regardless.

[Scrivener7]

2. I'm so sorry.

[FirstLight]

3. omg that's horrible... so very sorry...

If I may ask, how old was he?

My Dad died from Covid complications in 2023. He had recovered from the disease but within a week, his gallbladder literally died (coagualtion issues most likelly) and though they were pumping him full of antibiotics to bring down the swelling for an othroscopy, he went septic within 24 hours. He went within 4-5 days...

I still bllame the fucking Care Facility for not following protocol when they KNEW they had Covid in there. He collapsed outside on the patio and they "lost" him for 30 mns before calling for EMT's when he had the disease... if they had been more careful, maybe he wouldn't have suffered. But then again, memory care IS truly suffering...long and drawn out disaster

[samplegirl]

16. 66

I'm so sad he was getting better off oxygen and took a turn for the worst.

[Iris]

48. Oh, gosh. Much to young to die that way

[Ms. Toad]

28. A friend of mine was just diagnosed with cancer.

He was hospitalized, getting him stable, and was exposed to COVID while in the hospital. He went in yesterday to get a port for chemo - and tested positive for COVID diagnosed with pneumonia and readmitted. The port will have to wait for another day.

I speculated to him that most of his care team probably wasn't masking up, even though he has COVID that he caught while hospitalized the first time. He said it's about 50-50.

So irresponsible.

[stollen]

59. I'm sorry about your dad

That's awful.

[rasputin1952]

66. I'm sorry for your loss...

The staff is overworked and thin in most of these facilities.

While those in direct contact with individuals who need care are dedicated to those under their care, it is the "upper caste" who do everything they can to cut costs. Those who need care suffer, usually in silence.

Most states could care less and do little to ensure proper care. I worked for a few after I got out of the Army (I was a Medical Plt Sgt) and had no problem calling the "powers that be" at the state level. There are some companies that own virtually all of the Care Facilities in a state. It came down to "if you save a dollar, do it."

[FirstLight]

86. Yeah, My sister picked the place, and it was because of her own greed, IMO

She didn't want dad's prolonged care to eat up our inheritance... The place had billing and management issues from the get-go. And the staff was lazy at best, not even really overworked, just didn't care enough to make the effort.

I hated visiting him there and the food they served was a fucking joke. We tried to get them to give h8im better options, even went out of our way to buy/provide things he liked because they "said" they would give it to him. The staff put it in their refrigerator instead and they disappeard ...

I'm glad he's crossed over, he didn't deserve that at all. His last year after Mom passed was hell for him, and even with dementia, he was aware enough to know he wasn't home or in a "normal" place...

[Evolve Dammit]

195. So sorry to hear that. Awful. Some places are worse than just dying at home. If only "house calls" were still a thing.

[Diamond_Dog]

4. What sad news! I am so sorry for your friend and her family.

[samplegirl]

17. I called her as I did to check on her

And he went back to the hospital the day before.
He was at nursinghome for rehab.
I've had enough.

[Hekate]

5. I'm so damn sorry...

[Irish_Dem]

7. The damage Trump did and will do is incalculable.

Sorry sample girl.

[samplegirl]

19. It's nonstop

Sadness ever since Trump went in office!
Covid is horrible here again.

[stollen]

60. Everything Trump touches turns to shit

to include the US and its citizens.

[Irish_Dem]

114. Can you do some artwork for your friend?

Your artwork is imbued with love, it shows in every brush stroke.

[niyad]

134. What a beautiful thing to suggest. Her artwork is indeed imbued with love,

and light, and joy.

[Irish_Dem]

147. Yes I can feel all you describe when I look at her work.

I thought perhaps I was the only one who noticed it.
Love, light, joy.
The emotional component of samplegirl's art is palpable.

Samplegirl reported I think sending some of her art work to another friend experiencing a loss.
I hope she does as well with this current friend.
I know it would be healing for the friend.

[LoisB]

11. I am so sorry, samplegirl. Please convey my sympathies to your friend. I agree with you on

where the blame lies. So many needless deaths.

[samplegirl]

20. Ty

I'm in shock.

[rasputin1952]

50. Understandably. n/t

[LoisB]

62. I understand.

[gab13by13]

12. So sorry sample girl,

I had Covid shots about 8 months ago, I didn't realize there are any more to get. I got the Pfizer shot.

I had something 2 months ago, I think it was that stomach virus. I had chills for 2 months but finally got over it.

The new administration will make it hard to get vaccinated I'm afraid.

[CentralMass]

18. I just got a Covid booster and a flu shot yesterday.

[yellow dahlia]

14. I am so sorry to hear this.

You and your friend have my condolences.

Covid is such a "crap shoot". Some skate by with sniffles, while others can't rally against it. I have a good friend with Long Covid which has changed his otherwise healthy life.

I concur with you assessment that this is the fault of The Felonious Grifter.

I feel like we live with a collective angst as a result of his incompetence. I have more I could say, but will save it for now.

Again - please relay my condolences to your friend.

[samplegirl]

21. Even more horrible when you had to listen to your neighbor, tell you, he lost his friend

Because of a virus from China!

[LuvLoogie]

27. It's not trump's incompetence; it's his malevolence.

This country is succumbing to greed that is aided and abetted by racist-addled stupidity. Civil society allowed trump to gain the highest office twice. The powers that be smell blood. Their victory is at hand.

[Cirsium]

175. He is extraordinarily competent

He is a destroyer and he is very good at it.

[rsdsharp]

22. I'm very sorry. My brother died of covid at the end of November.

He caught it in a skilled nursing facility.

[AllyCat]

25. I'm so sorry for your loss. Tragic illness that

Continues to take our loved ones.

[Ms. Toad]

32. Medical facilities have almost completely stopped using transmission reduction protocols.

A friend recently diagnosed with cancer caught COVID while hospitalized. Is hospitalized again because it is now COVID pneumonia (delaying his cancer care). And still - the very facility that gave him COVID, and knows he is positive now, is largely not masking around him.

[SocialDemocrat61]

29. Your girlfriend's husband?

So she was cheating on her husband with you while he was sick with covid?

[ColinC]

31. Girlfriend, like: "friend who is a girl"

[SocialDemocrat61]

79. The term usually refers to

“ frequent or regular female companion in a romantic or sexual relationship”.

[ColinC]

122. It has been used both ways, especially by those of a specific generation

Women have often called their friends "girlfriends." One of the clues as to how normal this usage is would be the responses in the thread.

[SocialDemocrat61]

123. Ok

Never heard it before but thanks for clarification

[Irish_Dem]

150. We all knew what SG meant. And the fact the girlfriend has a husband gives it more context.

[ColinC]

200. I honestly was slow on the uptake

There has been a running meme/ joke on the internet over the last couple years that went along the lines of "my wife's boyfriend is.. (insert random event here)" or "my husband's girlfriend is...blah blah blah"

At first glance I thought that's what this was until I spent five 5 seconds seeing the comments and seeing that the person posting is a woman. It didn't take long to know what she meant, and that it isn't a joke or funny.

My heart goes out to her and her friend.

[JI7]

33. Some women refer to their female friends as girlfriends

It's just friends.

[SocialDemocrat61]

84. Ok

Thanks for the clarification. Never heard that before

[niyad]

90. Merriam webster: girlfriend: 1: A woman who is a friend.

"Girlfriends" multiple season tv sitcom

[SocialDemocrat61]

99. Never heard of it.

[soldierant]

37. What part of "samplegirl" don't you understand?

Asking for a friend.

[SocialDemocrat61]

74. So?

Women date each other.

[niyad]

78. Please delete your appallingly insensitive post, and apologize.

[SocialDemocrat61]

80. You're free to report it

I found the statement confusing.

[niyad]

87. Really? Most of the rest of us understood it perfectly.

[SocialDemocrat61]

88. Most is not all

[niyad]

89. Continuing to defend the indefensible is not helping you.

[SocialDemocrat61]

98. With whom?

I asked a question because I found the op confusing. Sorry if questions offend you.

[Judi Lynn]

107. English is your first language? The post seemed clear to everyone else.

If you seek clarification, try to be respectful and serious asking for help understanding.

[SocialDemocrat61]

128. Thanks for the advice

[Cowpunk]

158. I admit that I thought the same thing at first.

I know that a female friend is often called a girlfriend, but my male brain took a while to get there.

[niyad]

159. That is just bizarre to me.

[Pompoy]

166. Same here, first thought was that his gf's ex died.

As you say, male brain? But was quick to realize my mistake.

[JonAndKatePlusABird]

109. Which I reported

Sorry if English isn’t your first language, but, colloquially, my entire life (36yo) I’ve heard my female friends refer to their female friends as “girlfriends”.

Here’s the kicker: I (and every other guy) don’t call my guy friends “boyfriends”.

English is weird like that.

[SocialDemocrat61]

127. Well good for you

And yes language sometimes don’t make sense.

[obamanut2012]

187. Because women have been traditionally judged and associated with their husbands and boyfrineds

And men not their wives and girlfriends.

It is rooted in misogyny, like most things, but many women now embrace it as he opposite.

[defacto7]

191. I would call it a cultural thing opposed to a language thing.

Why shouldn't a guy call his male friends their boyfriend or a manfriend? Logically, there's no linguistic reason ... except our culture says, "don't do it."

[Wonder Why]

135. Ignore them. If the post said "My friend's husband...", itwould have been much clearer.

I misunderstood too but by the time I read it, there were a lot more posts so I didn't question it. Some people will attack if you don't get something right away. Not uncommon on this site.

[SocialDemocrat61]

139. Yes it would have

But in this day and age there are many different kinds of relationships out there.

[Irish_Dem]

152. Yes the comment was in very bad taste and poor judgment.

To accuse sample girl of having an affair with a woman who just lost her husband.
And sample girl is grieving the loss as well.

SMH

[obamanut2012]

42. What in the heck

Is this really the time? And it is obviously she means her friend, but let's say it's more: thruples exist.

[SocialDemocrat61]

77. Maybe

But saying girlfriend which is typical defined as “frequent or regular female companion in a romantic or sexual relationship” vs friend is confusing.

[niyad]

91. Merriam webster: girlfriend: 1 (as in FIRST definition) A WOMAN WHO IS A FRIEND.

[SocialDemocrat61]

101. Never heard someone use

the word that way before.

[niyad]

103. Keep trying. We need the laughs.

[SocialDemocrat61]

104. Ok. I once shot an elephant in my pajamas

How it got in my pajamas I’ll never know

[niyad]

106. Groucho Marx.

[Pompoy]

168. Lol.

[JonAndKatePlusABird]

110. Guess what, I have

And now you have too!

Sorry not sorry for piling on.

[SocialDemocrat61]

126. Yes

I noticed piling on is popular here

[TBF]

165. Perhaps you are young?

I am in my 50's and growing up all of our female friends were referred to as our girlfriends. Now I think it may refer more to "girlfriend" as a romantic/sexual partner, no matter gender. But at the time, many decades ago, it was more generic.

[SocialDemocrat61]

167. Thank you

for taking the time to explain.

[FullySupportDems]

43. That was not funny, it was mean

"...cheating on her husband..."
Nope, not funny at all.

[Deuxcents]

54. It is not funny. There are a couple of comments that are insensitive and childish while our friend,

Samplegirl is in distress. 🌺

[FullySupportDems]

56. It sure would be cool if some apologies happened

I really hope so. I'm holding back expletives.

[niyad]

97. Considering the defensiveness and justifying of said posts, please

don't hold your breath waiting for apologies. I had to double-check, make sure I was still reading DU, and had not been accidentally switched to another site.

[FullySupportDems]

190. Sadly, you are right

[SocialDemocrat61]

81. Not meant to be funny

The statement is confusing

[niyad]

93. Keep defending the indefensible. You are not helping yourself.

[SocialDemocrat61]

102. I don't really care

[niyad]

105. If that were true, you would not keep defending your posts.

[JonAndKatePlusABird]

111. You care so little that you posted to tell us how little you care

Since it’s NBD, hopefully you’ll see EVERY SINGLE REPLY to your posts and realize the term “girlfriend” is hilariously innocuous.

The best part is if you continue defending your stance of “girlfriend = romantic partner”, after all of us straight up telling you that that is not necessarily the case, every word you type is wasted. You have a biiiiiiiiiig uphill mountain to climb to convince me you’re not being disingenuous.

[SocialDemocrat61]

125. No

I don’t care the other poster is offended.

[FullySupportDems]

140. I'm kind of curious as to why you don't care

If others think what you asked seemed out of place and rude, you don't care? I don't get that. This thread was about a very sad loss and you appeared to be joking at the use of the word girlfriend.

[SocialDemocrat61]

142. No I was confused about the usage

And asked a question.

[FullySupportDems]

169. You didn't answer my question

I know you asked a question. I asked why you don't care. When your question included asking if her friend had been cheating on her dying husband, it went beyond merely being a question about their relationship. Don't you think that was a hurtful implication?

Kicking people when they're down? Have you ever heard of that?

[SocialDemocrat61]

177. I asked a question

Any implication is your projection which is your issue.

[FullySupportDems]

181. No, it's not projection

By me or anyone else here confronting you about it. You asked a shitty question that had nothing to do with the grief being expressed about somebody dying. I'm sure you know what grief means.

You ought to feel badly about it. It's your issue you think it's no big deal.

[SocialDemocrat61]

184. Yes it is

[FullySupportDems]

185. You asked if her friend was cheating on her dying husband

You shouldn't have asked a question like that and you aren't adult enough to even admit it. People tell you you are being mean and you don't care? Yeah, I got nothing. It's all name calling from here.

[SocialDemocrat61]

186. Your opinion and issue

[FullySupportDems]

188. Yes I'm aware u don't care

It's such an evolved philosophy really. Just don't give a shit. Here I am giving it a go. Bye.

[SocialDemocrat61]

189. Bye. Have a nice day

[obamanut2012]

145. I am embarrassed for you tbh

What a thing to keep defending.

[SocialDemocrat61]

149. Good for you

[rasputin1952]

47. Really? n/t

[niyad]

75. Your post is simply beyond the pale. Please delete, and apologize.

[SocialDemocrat61]

82. Sorry

But the statement is confusing

[niyad]

83. No, it is not.

[SocialDemocrat61]

85. It is to me

The term girlfriend usually means “ frequent or regular female companion in a romantic or sexual relationship”.

[PCIntern]

121. I'm laughing...

Last edited Fri Jan 17, 2025, 08:38 AM - Edit history (1)

I had the exact same thought when I saw the title…

But I apologize: my condolences. Awful stuff

[SocialDemocrat61]

124. I know

It’s a very confusing wording

[Irish_Dem]

148. Back in the day, women called their female friends "girlfriends."

Perhaps you are young and didn't realize that fact.

[SocialDemocrat61]

151. Thank you

I did not. And I appreciate the clarification

[MustLoveBeagles]

173. Good grief

She didn't mean it like that.

[SocialDemocrat61]

178. As has been explained

[alcuno]

198. What an Odd Initial Response to Someone Grieving.

Doesn't matter who they are. Accusing someone of "cheating" through the use of a question? And to keep it going after multiple people called you on it. Odd.

[SocialDemocrat61]

201. Well I'm an odd person

who doesn't like being bullied by the outrage police.

[yorkster]

34. Gawd how awful.

And goddamn Trump. I have had a couple of mild run-ins with maskholes. I know I may let loose if it happens again. Very distressing to hear this. So sorry about your friend's husband and so worried for all of us.

[NotHardly]

35. Girlfriend's husband? Would I be presumptive to ask a question.

No harm, no foul in either instance.

[orangecrush]

51. What the hell is wrong with you?

[niyad]

94. A smiley face? A smiley face, in your incredibly boorish, rude post?

This is not freeperville, or x or meta.

[MustLoveBeagles]

172. Girlfriend meaning friend

[debm55]

36. So sorry, samplegirl , May his memories of him be a blessing to his wife and you.

[bdamomma]

38. My sympathy

to your girlfriend losing her husband from covid, a horrible disease.

[SheltieLover]

39. Deepest condolences to you & your friend.

[LilElf70]

40. My brother checked out during the orange bastard's first tour

I blame him 100%. I'll never forget how he downplayed the entire situation. Let's do some bleach. No need to wear a mask. And so on, and so forth.

[JohnnyRingo]

41. So sad. Steve was a good guy

I'll have to get a card this weekend.

[samplegirl]

67. Keith

[JohnnyRingo]

69. Oh yeah. I knew that.

I don't know where Steve came from. Glad I didn't write that on the card.

[rasputin1952]

44. So sad...

Grief is one emotion that is hard to overcome.

My heart goes out to all who have lost a loved one regardless of the initiating circumstances.

[FullySupportDems]

45. I'm glad she has a nice friend like you samplegirl

I'm very sorry for her loss. So awful.

[William Gustafson]

55. I lost my wife three years ago, when Covid was just starting...

... She had been battling a brain tumor for more than 15 years. We did two surgeries', Kemo, and Radiation, and every time we thought they finally got it all, it would come back. Her last hope was to try Gene Therapy.... All was going well, until she got a blood clot in the brain, and had a stroke.... (side effect of the medicine from the Gene Therapy)
She went into emergency, and they were not able to remove all of the clot, due to them piercing her blood vessel with the tool they remove clots with... thankfully, she didn't bleed long, but they couldn't get all of it out....
About that time, Covid was ramping up... They closed the hospital to all visitors...
The last time I seen her in the hospital, she was being transferred to a Therapy wing. After 2 1/2 months of not seeing her, because of the Covid restrictions, they realized she would not recover from her stroke, so they sent her home...
I was her soul caregiver all the way to the end. She was bedridden, up to the day she passed.... On February 14, she passed away.
Because of Covid, I was not able to help her in her therapy, visit her, or even just hold her while she was in the hospitals.
I have learned to accept things out of my control, but I know that she is no longer suffering. Life is pretty lonely at times, but I know that we will be together again, someday.
Give your friend a hug, and let her know that in time, the pain will subside, she will find things that make her happy, it just takes time. The loss can never go away, but if we hold them in our hearts and minds, this is how we honor them...

[Cassidy]

144. I am so sorry.

I hope that the pain continues to subside and you will have the good memories in its place.

[William Gustafson]

204. it has, but there are days that this whole ordeal comes creeping back...

I know that I did everything I could to try and keep her alive, but in the end, God had different plans for her...

When Covid was ramped, and all the hospitals closed their door to visitors, that was the worse time.... not knowing what she was going through, how they were treating her and her being alone in all of this... it was heart wrenching to watch...

Sadly, I was not alone in this, as many families that lost their loved ones to Covid, were in the same boat as me...
It's nothing I would wish on my worst enemy, then to go through that again...

and thank you for your thoughts... I appreciate it...

[JMCKUSICK]

58. I'm so sorry Samplegirl

Covid will forever be known as the time where the genius of science was met by the ignorance of social media users creating one of the greatest self owns in human history.

[sheshe2]

64. Aren't we pleasant.

Bye.

[niyad]

92. JFC, you mean there was something worse than some of the appalling posts

here???

[sheshe2]

95. Yup. It was bad.

I am glad you did not see it and I am hoping samplegirl did not see it either.

Hugs.

[niyad]

96. Yikes. Unfortunately, there are still a number of truly disgusting posts

that are still here. I am stunned.

[mercuryblues]

203. What a POS that creep is

The only way I would invite him to a party is if we can play pin the tail on the donkey. With him being the donkey.

[electric_blue68]

71. Condolences for her, and her family. A {hug} for you.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

73. I am sorry for your friend's loss

[niyad]

76. My dear SG, holding you and your friend in love and light in this horrific time.

Is there anything we can do for either of you?

[sheshe2]

108. I am so sorry for your friend's loss.

[sueh]

129. I'm so sorry for your loss.(((hugs)))

[radical noodle]

136. I'm so sorry samplegirl

Comforting hugs.

[Quiet Em]

137. I'm so very sorry for your loss

[Clouds Passing]

141. Your girlfriend's husband

[pandr32]

143. Such a sad and needless loss.

I am so sorry.

[Cassidy]

146. Covid was the 4th leading cause of death in the U.S. in 2024.

I plan to wear my mask every public place every winter for the foreseeable future. I also plan to wear them places like grocery stores year round. It stuns me that medical personnel do not wear masks. If someone gives me grief, I pretend that I am sick and offer to cough on them.

[CrispyQ]

153. My sympathies.

That's a long time to suffer. I still mask & last week in the grocery store a woman said to me as we crossed in the aisle, "Covid's over." I coughed really loud inside my mask & she hustled away. It's not over!

[Evolve Dammit]

192. No it's not

[Deep State Witch]

162. So sorry

This disease is a scourge.

[Jarqui]

163. I've had Covid 5 times

The first time, there wasn't a safe testing method for it so my doctor recommended against testing.
I came back with it from travelling.
I had ordered N95 masks in Jan '20 when I first heard about it - from two different places fearing an order would get stolen. Both orders never made it.
But early on, I got N95 masks. I have worn them in public ever since.
I've never missed a vaccination.
We socially distanced. etc.
My doctor and I came up with an anti covid cocktail - much of what they gave Trump when he got it.

In spite of all that, I've had it 5 times.
I have immediate family in retail.
Got it once from my dentists office.
2024 was long Covid. After a month of it in Jan, it morphed into a 12 week pneumonia and then into some sort of chromic gout-like arthritic attack (I don't drink, etc). Blood tests did not clear up until Sept.
Put on a bunch of weight from being idle so long. I still have 10 lbs to lose.

I think what Trump (& Reps like DeSantis) did about it was horrific - they killed a lot of people.
I think Dr. Fauci and others like him were heroic and wonderful - they saved lives.

A dear friend's wife nearly died from it last week. Paxlovid appears to have helped save her.
My daughter's family of four may be fighting it now. They seem to be coming through it ok. Everyone's test kits have expired and new ones haven't been easy to find.

[Evolve Dammit]

193. The ones we got from the gov't were expired. I guess they have extended the dating and kits are still good?

[Jarqui]

196. I've heard they're probably still pretty good after the expiry date

If you have nothing, it might be better than nothing

but it still leaves that uncertainty "what if the test is wrong because it is past its best before date?" ...

A top 10 killer ought to have a decent supply of those tests

[Evolve Dammit]

197. Yes. I'm not sure what's going on.

[Katinfl]

171. After reading all the the responses to this thread, I am even more afraid of what is to come.

With trump and RFK Jr. In office we are screwed if something like this happens again. We were lucky because Biden was able to get us back on track after Covid but we will not have an incoming democratic president this time. I am fearing bird flu will become a thing in time.

[maxsolomon]

174. The Covid Pandemic probably won't return.

Another Pandemic from whatever disease this close to Covid probably won't happen. The last one prior to Covid was during WW1.

Covid is now Endemic. A portion of the population who would have previously died from Flu or Pneumonia are now dying from Covid.

[Nittersing]

179. I'm so sorry samplegirl

[PortTack]

182. So sorry! It's beyond the pale the red idiots voted once again for this menace. Forgetting all about covid

They all have ppl that died, or are now long covid victims. They never learn!

[love_katz]

199. I'm glad to see that a couple of vile comments were removed.

I have been on DU for many years. My profile may not reflect that, but I lurked here for a very long time before deciding to join. There used to be some really bad flame wars here, back in the early days. I also lost my original posting identity, back during one of the change overs in versions of DU.

I have never had to alert on someone's comments in all the years that I have been a member. This thread changed that for me. Thank you, MIRT, for deleting the comments.



As democrats, I know we need to be able to disagree with each other and have tough discussions. But the removed comments were cruel and contained personal attacks on the commentator for the original OP. She doesn't deserve those kind of attacks.

The attacker also seemed to be spouting false information about COVID-19.

Thank you MIRT, and thank you EarlG and Elad for keeping DU the decent place it is, to hold discussions.

[samplegirl]

202. Yes, I think it's a little tamer now. People still like to start Snark.

I just ignore it. If you're going to joke about the death of somebody's friend, that's pretty bad.
And you must be an attention getter!

I wish that Ohio would use their head with Amy Acton, running for governor instead of Ramaswami after all she was the one that backed wearing masks and Fauci!
If you're not safe in a hospital from Covid then where are you?????
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