I've been having a bad case of Melancholy lately

[William769]

Due to 01/20 fast approaching. I haven't felt like this since I lost my dear sweet life partner David & our son Phillip oh so many years ago. I just can't shake it. Someone told me that I'm overreacting and I hope they are right but I fear they are not.

I am at a loss on how to deal with this.

[Skittles]

1. DU is how we deal with it

[William769]

2. Thank you for that.

[Skittles]

6. although I do admit I'll be on blackout the first few days of that fascist fuck

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I cannot take seeing anything right at the start, no INDEED......

[YoshidaYui]

22. You could always join IMVU.com make an avatar, and come to my birthday party

It shouldn't be too hard to make a nice avatar of yourself and join a bunch of ladies and maybe a few guys, while i celebrate my birthday
playing music i like and lots of dancing.


MY avatar on IMVU.

[PortTack]

17. Yes DU very helpful....also try some B12...very helpful

[Prairie_Seagull]

42. Like many I take a b complex daily.

I will get some B-12 today and give it a shot. Need something, Valium can be addictive. haha

[Karadeniz]

3. I think we all here are feeling the same way. If i were in a city, id volunteer at an

animal shelter. That's been my go to way to help others, lifting a sense of depression. I hope you can find an activity that is comfortable to you. Good luck!

[William769]

4. Thank you for those kind words & suggestion.

[Prairie_Seagull]

43. Like your idea of doing what one can.

If I worked at an animal shelter. I would have at least 10 dogs, some exotics and a divorce. haha

[Karadeniz]

45. Guaranteed to happen !!!!

[LeftInTX]

5. If you are feeling alone, get involved with your local Democratic Party or Stonewall Democrats group.

It keeps me productive, so I'm actually "doing something about it".
Although I'm awfully sore because I've been doing this non-stop for 8 years now!

[William769]

10. Great idea. Thanks!

[brer cat]

7. I don't have an answer for you, dear Bill.

The pain of losing David and Phillip will probably always be with you and make every other crisis worse. This is a crisis; I am very afraid for our country and the world with this lunatic and his unqualified friends in charge.

All I can suggest is that you stay with us here and together we will endure.

[William769]

11. Your words are always welcomed & comforting. Thank you.

[Pototan]

8. You feel that way because that which you love is ailing

America

[William769]

12. Oh so true.

[usonian]

9. Jan 20 is Martin Luther King day, and national parks are free to enter.

Plus, there are observances and volunteer activities.

I have a veteran and senior pass, but might go anyway.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100219908061

So sorry for your losses.

[William769]

13. Thank you for your kind words & ideas.

[KitFox]

14. Hey there, William, I think you are already tackling

that feeling of melancholy by acknowledging it! Times like these really do dredge up the memories of incalculable losses that you have endured. Having lost my dear husband 8 years ago, I hope I have a bit of understanding of what you are experiencing. Sometimes we just fall back into barely inching along instead of getting along okay. My heart goes out to you. The suggestion of your local Democratic Party is a good idea. I became more active in mine and it does help. If you can find out who your precinct committee person is , they will have information for you of active Dem voters that live near you. I found out this way and we go as a group to events. Instead of depressing ourselves by watching the inauguration, we are going to a Martin Luther King march that starts at a park and ends at a theater for an event. Please keep posting and updating us through thick and thin. Sending gentle hugs.

[William769]

15. Very kind words. Thank you.

Phillip our son was the first loss (17 years old hit & run drunk driver), then the love love of my life David two years later (from complications of AIDS).

It does feel good to open up & say it out loud instead of bouncing around in my head.

Once again thank you for nudging me to open up.

[KitFox]

16. Oh William, losing your precious son in such tragic circumstances is

Itself a life sentence for you and then so soon after to lose your dear partner! Oh my heavens you have endured exponential grief!!! Thank you for sending the message with photo and remembrance of beautiful David. Sending hugs, peace and caring thoughts!!!!!

[madaboutharry]

20. I am so sorry.

May their memories forever be a blessing.

[William769]

25. They are precious memories.

[Hekate]

18. Hang in there, William. In fact, come hang out with us, and we'll all do our best ...

Melancholy is appropriate, under the circs — we just don’t want to have it cripple us. I admit my native level of low lying depression has a way of staining not just the present but the past and the future — and that’s just not healthy.

So turn off the tv starting Sunday, if not sooner, and let us adjourn to the imaginary DU party room. I’ll bring tortilla chips and homemade guacamole. Maybe some Sangria as well. Other people will show up as the word spreads.

[Walleye]

21. Yes. We should enjoy our guacamole now before the trade war with Mexico starts.

Damn, it seems everything is tainted with an orange stain

[William769]

26. Music wise in my head I am stuck in the 70's classic rock

Listening to that & hanging out on DU is my plan for 01/20. Thank you for your encouragement.

P.S. I'm a Wild Turkey kind of guy so that's what I'll bring.

[sheshe2]

19. In times of trouble

You have friends

You lost your family and there is no easy way back from that. None. However you have us because that's what friends are for.

This new time ahead of us, I don't know, I just don't. I'm scared.

[William769]

27. We go back such a long way & you most of all know my history

Trials and tribulations. We'll jump into the abyss together.

[sheshe2]

46. Now that is what friends are for.

Luv ya.

[UpInArms]

23. I'm right there with you, William769

We shall hold our virtual hands together as we go into the abyss of the TFG do over.

(((((Hugs)))))

[William769]

28. Thank you.

[Danmel]

24. I share your sentiments

I am just so sad. For our country, for the world, for my kids, for all of the creatures who are stuck having to share the planet with us.
I alternate between depression, fear and foreboding, anger and disgust with the people who voted for this.
I'm at a loss.

[William769]

29. At least we all have each other here.

We'll be in good company.

[SheltieLover]

30. Yale's Science of Well Being course is free for 7 days

It certainly won't change our circumstances, but will teach you new tools for coping.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being

[William769]

31. Thank you for the link.

I will check it out.

[SheltieLover]

32. Yw. Those who have tried it reported feeling better after

Watching just the 1st video.

[Paladin]

33. Please stay afloat, William769.

I'm becoming more and more convinced that trump's boundless stupidity and evil will end up being our salvation. Even the millions of idiots who voted for trump won't be able to handle what's coming, in terms of the utter failure and degradation of our nation. We Democrats just need to be ready to take decisive advantage of the clusterfuck that trump provides.

Wishful thinking? Maybe---but it seems to be working for me. Best wishes to you.

[William769]

34. I always preach hope but on occasion do run ito doubt

I hope you are correct. Sometimes we just need a kind word from a friend & a nudge to get through the day.

Best wishes to you too!

[Paladin]

35. Anybody not running into doubt isn't paying attention, these days.

Be well.

[greatauntoftriplets]

36. I'm with you.

I just intend to take it one day at a time, and not watch news.

[William769]

37. Believe it or not, you my dear are one of the reasons that's makes my day a little brighter.

You do more good just by being present than you'll ever know.

[yardwork]

39. That is so true!

[greatauntoftriplets]

44. Aw, that's so nice of you.

You always bring brightness and cheer to my life and to DU.

[yardwork]

38. Self care.

Treat yourself. Turn off the news. Tell yourself that you've done what you can, and you don't need to follow the daily news about Trump.

Throw yourself into doing things you like.

Hugs to you, dear William.

[William769]

40. Right back at you.

You help make my day a fabulous day!

[yardwork]

41. That's because we ARE fabulous!