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Maeve

(43,456 posts) Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:41 PM Mar 1

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For my friends and fiends, fellow DUers--I have not been around much lately

And will not be posting much for the next while, but I do miss the camaraderie

However, I could use a few as my almost 95 year old mother passed suddenly today after a fall yesterday. She is at peace and I have expected something like this, but still need a little time. I have been a caregiver for her the last 15 years or so (although she lived in assisted care the past three years) and I have a helluva lot to do the next few weeks.
Thoughts and prayers gratefully accepted.

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For my friends and fiends, fellow DUers--I have not been around much lately (Original Post) Maeve Mar 1 OP

Coming your way. It's tough losing a loved one. Be at peace, also. CurtEastPoint Mar 1 #1

Thank you. She's at peace, so I can be Maeve Mar 2 #84

That sucks, even when it's expected. buzzycrumbhunger Mar 1 #2

It does, indeed, suck. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #85

Sending you strength... Drum Mar 1 #3

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #86

My sincere condolences, Miss Maeve. 💐 Deuxcents Mar 1 #4

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #87

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Mar 1 #5

Thank you and hugs back Maeve Mar 2 #88

Your mother Clouds Passing Mar 1 #6

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #89

My dear Maeve UpInArms Mar 1 #7

I wish I could say how much that means to me. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #90

My sincere condolences, Maeve. greatauntoftriplets Mar 1 #8

Appreciated, a chara Maeve Mar 2 #91

Deepest sympathy Maeve malaise Mar 1 #9

Thank you. I knew I'd get group hugs here! Maeve Mar 2 #92

One more malaise Mar 2 #98

💔☮️🌺🌻🕯️🕊️💜 Cha Mar 1 #10

It was expected yet so sudden at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #93

I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Mar 1 #11

That is exactly the right phrase for an Irish wake. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #94

Take care of yourself. Hugs. Srkdqltr Mar 1 #12

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #95

I'm so sorry! cate94 Mar 1 #13

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #96

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Maeve. 💙 sheshe2 Mar 1 #14

I'm just glad I was there with her at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #97

Wow, that's tough Maeve CountAllVotes Mar 1 #15

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #99

May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern Mar 1 #16

Beautiful. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #100

Big hug. ananda Mar 1 #17

I'm glad I was there for her. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #101

My sympathy to you and your family Maeve. May livetohike Mar 1 #18

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #102

Blessings on you, Maeve* mcar Mar 1 #19

You are right, it will be a long process. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #103

I'm so sorry Maeve JMCKUSICK Mar 1 #20

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #104

Hey, Maeve, it sounds like you gave all. calimary Mar 1 #21

You are too kind. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #105

So sorry for your loss. Dear_Prudence Mar 1 #22

Thank you. I appreciate it Maeve Mar 2 #106

My deepest condolences, Maeve. brer cat Mar 1 #23

I'm glad I was there at the end. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #107

Dear Maeve, I send my love and understanding. ShazamIam Mar 1 #24

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #108

Sending! 2naSalit Mar 1 #25

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #109

Hugs and wishes Figarosmom Mar 1 #26

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #110

Goodness. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I pray for strength for you. LoisB Mar 1 #27

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #111

You know we all are with you. mercuryblues Mar 1 #28

That's why I posted. DUers are amazing! Maeve Mar 2 #112

Even at 95 years old, and having years to prepare, I know it will be hard to deal with. patphil Mar 1 #29

What a great reminder, patphil! calimary Mar 1 #56

Slowly and then all at once. Yes, the next couple of weeks will be difficult. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #113

Sorry for your loss SocialDemocrat61 Mar 1 #30

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #114

I am so sorry. pandr32 Mar 1 #31

Appreciated. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #115

Hugs SallyHemmings Mar 1 #32

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #116

So sorry for your loss, Maeve 70sEraVet Mar 1 #33

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #117

Blessings to you. I'm so happy you had her for that long!💜💜💜💜 1WorldHope Mar 1 #34

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #119

Stay strong and find peace. NoMoreRepugs Mar 1 #35

I will. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #120

Deepest condolences to you on the loss of virgdem Mar 1 #36

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #121

Prayers said for your family. hamsterjill Mar 1 #37

And I am lucky to have family to help. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #122

Holding you in light and love, dear Maeve. hugggggggggggggs niyad Mar 1 #38

DUers are the best! Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #123

So sorry for your loss! senseandsensibility Mar 1 #39

It comes in waves and yes, that makes it hard. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #124

I am so very sorry to read this irisblue Mar 1 #40

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #125

I understand. I've been a caregiver over a decade now, and I often think that should my love die, PatrickforB Mar 1 #41

Yeah, my week will lose some of its shape with her gone. Take care of yourself as well. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #126

(((gentle hug))) 🫂 mwmisses4289 Mar 1 #42

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #127

I'm so sorry. MontanaMama Mar 1 #43

I knew she wouldn't live long, but she went so fast it was a shock. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #128

You've got it! Sincere condolences. paleotn Mar 1 #44

My dad's been gone 46 years, but he still pops up in my dreams now and then. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #129

I'm so sorry, Maeve. I lost my mother several years ago, after years of being her caregiver (including highplainsdem Mar 1 #45

Thank you--quick story about signs Maeve Mar 2 #130

How perfect, to find that now. She'll appreciate it. highplainsdem Mar 2 #184

That was beautiful. Thank you again Maeve Mar 2 #187

So sorry for your loss, Maeve LNM Mar 1 #46

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #131

I'm so sorry, Maeve. swimboy Mar 1 #47

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #132

My deepest sympathies bamagal62 Mar 1 #48

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #133

So sorry, you're in my thoughts. CaptainTruth Mar 1 #49

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #134

Sorry for your loss hibbing Mar 1 #50

I'm glad I could be there but it did get trying at times. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #135

Oh, so sorry bdamomma Mar 1 #51

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #136

Sorry for your loss Tree Lady Mar 1 #52

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #137

(((BIG HUGS))) BumRushDaShow Mar 1 #53

Thank you, my friend Maeve Mar 2 #138

Take your time BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #148

And I have family to help, too Maeve Mar 2 #151

When my mom passed just over 10 years ago BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #155

Mom was in assisted care, so little property Maeve Mar 2 #158

Understood BumRushDaShow Mar 2 #176

Deepest sorrow for your mom and you. May the memories of your mom be a blessing to you, Sweet Maeve. debm55 Mar 1 #54

That is so sweet. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #139

... Aristus Mar 1 #55

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #140

Comforting warmth headed your way Lifeafter70 Mar 1 #57

I will, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #141

Hi Maeve berniesandersmittens Mar 1 #58

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #142

I am so sorry mgardener Mar 1 #59

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #143

.. BlueWaveNeverEnd Mar 1 #60

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #144

So sorry for your loss ornotna Mar 1 #61

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #145

I understand so well. Staph Mar 1 #62

Oh, my! Blessings on you, as well! Maeve Mar 2 #146

Sending gentle hugs and strength as you deal with your sad loss and inch your way through this. 🩷 KitFox Mar 1 #63

It does feel like a slog, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #147

So sorry for your loss ms liberty Mar 1 #64

Thank you I knew DUers would step up Maeve Mar 2 #149

Dear Maeve, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom Grim Chieftain Mar 1 #65

Thank you. I'm glad I was there at the end Maeve Mar 2 #150

You have my sympathy KT2000 Mar 1 #66

Thank you. And my dear Hubby will help take care of me! Maeve Mar 2 #152

My condolences on the loss of your mother MustLoveBeagles Mar 1 #67

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #153

My heart is with you. Hope22 Mar 1 #68

I will, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #154

Comforting hugs, Maeve radical noodle Mar 1 #69

Thank you. DUers are the best! Maeve Mar 2 #191

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Mar 2 #70

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #159

You are loved. mr715 Mar 2 #71

I feel it. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #160

Sending all sorts of positive thoughts and prayers Laurelin Mar 2 #72

Appreciate it. This thread has helped Maeve Mar 2 #161

More tan an ice for you Stinky The Clown Mar 2 #73

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #162

I am so sorry, Maeve. My condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Mar 2 #74

Appeciate it Maeve Mar 2 #163

So sorry, Maeve. summer_in_TX Mar 2 #75

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #164

My condolences. You think you're ready, but you're not. DFW Mar 2 #76

I have Hubby to see I don't overdo Maeve Mar 2 #165

Dear Maeve, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Mar 2 #77

I just had time to realize she was at the end and she was gone Maeve Mar 2 #166

Maeve, my heart is with you. ❤️ Silver Gaia Mar 2 #78

Thank you so much Maeve Mar 2 #167

Surrounding you in Emerald Green healing energy Bread and Circuses Mar 2 #79

It is the season for the green, true Maeve Mar 2 #168

♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 a kennedy Mar 2 #80

No words needed! Thank you, my friend Maeve Mar 2 #169

Restorative Thoughts headed you way. SleeplessinSoCal Mar 2 #81

Appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #170

🙏 my deepest sympathy 🙏 TommieMommy Mar 2 #82

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #171

Sending good vibes your way! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Mar 2 #83

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #172

I am sorry for your loss JoseBalow Mar 2 #118

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #173

deepest condolences ... sarchasm Mar 2 #156

Appreciate it. I will Maeve Mar 2 #174

This message was self-deleted by its author jfz9580m Mar 2 #157

I have been in charge of Mom's finances for several years Maeve Mar 2 #175

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Nevilledog Mar 2 #177

Just the love y'all have shown in this thread is sufficient Maeve Mar 2 #189

I am truly sorry for your loss. Erda Mar 2 #178

Appreciated, thanks Maeve Mar 2 #190

Very sorry for your loss dlk Mar 2 #179

I feel you MaineNative Mar 2 #180

Welcome to DU, MaineNative. calimary Mar 2 #185

Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #192

Just remember to give yourself some time Old Crank Mar 2 #181

I will, thank you Maeve Mar 2 #193

(((BIG HUG))) proud patriot Mar 2 #182

Thank you, I needed that Maeve Mar 2 #194

Thoughts and prayers on their way, air mail special delivery. Permanut Mar 2 #183

We often think it will be easier, knowing they lived so long. Not so. Thank you Maeve Mar 2 #195

Thanks for letting us know, Maeve. calimary Mar 2 #186

I've known some of you for the better part of 25 years. I trusted that you'd lift me up, and I was right! Maeve Mar 2 #196

My sincere sympathy at the loss of your mother. No matter how old we are we will always miss them. pazzyanne Mar 2 #188

Much appreciated Maeve Mar 2 #197

I am so sorry, Maeve FemDemERA Mar 6 #198

Actually, having taken your time was a good thing Maeve Mar 7 #199

CurtEastPoint

(20,010 posts)

1. Coming your way. It's tough losing a loved one. Be at peace, also.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:42 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

84. Thank you. She's at peace, so I can be

Reply to CurtEastPoint (Reply #1)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:04 AM

Mar 2

buzzycrumbhunger

(1,921 posts)

2. That sucks, even when it's expected.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:42 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

85. It does, indeed, suck. Thank you

Reply to buzzycrumbhunger (Reply #2)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:05 AM

Mar 2

Drum

(10,666 posts)

3. Sending you strength...

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:44 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

86. Appreciated. Thank you

Reply to Drum (Reply #3)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:05 AM

Mar 2

Deuxcents

(26,795 posts)

4. My sincere condolences, Miss Maeve. 💐

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:44 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

87. Thank you

Reply to Deuxcents (Reply #4)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:06 AM

Mar 2

SheltieLover

(80,270 posts)

5. Deepest condolences

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:45 PM

Mar 1

Healing vibes on the way to you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

88. Thank you and hugs back

Reply to SheltieLover (Reply #5)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:06 AM

Mar 2

Clouds Passing

(7,893 posts)

6. Your mother

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:47 PM

Mar 1

take good care of yourself.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

89. I will, thank you

Reply to Clouds Passing (Reply #6)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:07 AM

Mar 2

UpInArms

(54,925 posts)

7. My dear Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:47 PM

Mar 1

My virtual arms are always around you

Take care you yourself and come back soon

You are so very loved

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

90. I wish I could say how much that means to me. Thank you

Reply to UpInArms (Reply #7)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:08 AM

Mar 2

greatauntoftriplets

(178,960 posts)

8. My sincere condolences, Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:51 PM

Mar 1

Even at any age, it's a shock when it happens so suddenly. Take care of yourself, it's important right now.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

91. Appreciated, a chara

Reply to greatauntoftriplets (Reply #8)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:09 AM

Mar 2

malaise

(295,814 posts)

9. Deepest sympathy Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:52 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

92. Thank you. I knew I'd get group hugs here!

Reply to malaise (Reply #9)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:10 AM

Mar 2

malaise

(295,814 posts)

98. One more

Reply to Maeve (Reply #92)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:15 AM

Mar 2

😀

Cha

(318,866 posts)

10. 💔☮️🌺🌻🕯️🕊️💜

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:52 PM

Mar 1

So very Sorry what you're bravely going through, Maeve.. I know it's hard. saying goodbye to our Loved ones.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

93. It was expected yet so sudden at the end. Thank you

Reply to Cha (Reply #10)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:11 AM

Mar 2

yardwork

(69,333 posts)

11. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:53 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

94. That is exactly the right phrase for an Irish wake. Thank you

Reply to yardwork (Reply #11)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:12 AM

Mar 2

Srkdqltr

(9,734 posts)

12. Take care of yourself. Hugs.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:57 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

95. Appreciated. Thank you

Reply to Srkdqltr (Reply #12)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:13 AM

Mar 2

cate94

(3,101 posts)

13. I'm so sorry!

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 06:59 PM

Mar 1

Prayers coming your way.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

96. Thank you so much

Reply to cate94 (Reply #13)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:13 AM

Mar 2

sheshe2

(97,484 posts)

14. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Maeve. 💙

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:01 PM

Mar 1

I took care of my mom for 5 years and she died as I shifted her in bed. They were the same age. I am sorry to hear about the fall I can only hope she died without pain.

Love to you and yours.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

97. I'm just glad I was there with her at the end. Thank you

Reply to sheshe2 (Reply #14)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:15 AM

Mar 2

CountAllVotes

(22,210 posts)

15. Wow, that's tough Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:03 PM

Mar 1

Very sorry to read this. Take care of yourself!

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

99. I will, thank you

Reply to CountAllVotes (Reply #15)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:15 AM

Mar 2

PCIntern

(28,341 posts)

16. May her memory always be for a blessing.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:04 PM

Mar 1

It’s hard. It’s really hard. I’m so sorry…

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

100. Beautiful. Thank you

Reply to PCIntern (Reply #16)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:16 AM

Mar 2

ananda

(35,082 posts)

17. Big hug.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:04 PM

Mar 1

I love that you and your mother were so close.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

101. I'm glad I was there for her. Thank you

Reply to ananda (Reply #17)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:16 AM

Mar 2

livetohike

(24,266 posts)

18. My sympathy to you and your family Maeve. May

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:07 PM

Mar 1

the good memories of your Mom always comfort you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

102. Thank you

Reply to livetohike (Reply #18)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:17 AM

Mar 2

mcar

(46,000 posts)

19. Blessings on you, Maeve*

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:09 PM

Mar 1

Being a caregiver to an aging loved one is a most noble endeavor. I'm sure you have a lot to process and I hope you will give yourself grace to do so.

RIP to your dear mother.

*My 4YO granddaughter is Maeve - my favorite name!

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

103. You are right, it will be a long process. Thank you

Reply to mcar (Reply #19)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:22 AM

Mar 2

And I chose the user name to honor the great Irish queen buried at Knocknarea. It's a beautiful view from her cairn

JMCKUSICK

(5,998 posts)

20. I'm so sorry Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:09 PM

Mar 1

Please take all the time you need for yourself and family, and know we're sorry for your treasured loss.
God Speed and may your memories keep you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

104. Thank you so much

Reply to JMCKUSICK (Reply #20)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:23 AM

Mar 2

calimary

(89,950 posts)

21. Hey, Maeve, it sounds like you gave all.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:11 PM

Mar 1

You were there for your mom, to cover all her needs. You were a good and devoted daughter. So take some pride in that. You gave of your love and your time, AND your attention to her ills and her needs. You probably helped ease her through her deteriorating physical condition.

Be proud of your work, your kindness, your generosity, and your selflessness, so often putting her first. People go to Heaven doing that kind of thing.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

105. You are too kind. Thank you

Reply to calimary (Reply #21)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:24 AM

Mar 2

Dear_Prudence

(1,171 posts)

22. So sorry for your loss.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:14 PM

Mar 1

You are going through so much now. Please take care of yourself. I am thinking of you over the miles.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

106. Thank you. I appreciate it

Reply to Dear_Prudence (Reply #22)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:25 AM

Mar 2

brer cat

(27,570 posts)

23. My deepest condolences, Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:16 PM

Mar 1

Sending prayers for peace and comfort. It is very tough to lose a parent.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

107. I'm glad I was there at the end. Thank you

Reply to brer cat (Reply #23)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:26 AM

Mar 2

ShazamIam

(3,116 posts)

24. Dear Maeve, I send my love and understanding.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:16 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

108. Thank you

Reply to ShazamIam (Reply #24)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:26 AM

Mar 2

2naSalit

(102,628 posts)

25. Sending!

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:17 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

109. Appreciated

Reply to 2naSalit (Reply #25)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:27 AM

Mar 2

Figarosmom

(11,861 posts)

26. Hugs and wishes

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:22 PM

Mar 1

For you to come to calm within your grief

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

110. Thank you so much

Reply to Figarosmom (Reply #26)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:28 AM

Mar 2

LoisB

(12,978 posts)

27. Goodness. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I pray for strength for you.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:23 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

111. Appreciated

Reply to LoisB (Reply #27)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:29 AM

Mar 2

mercuryblues

(16,398 posts)

28. You know we all are with you.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:24 PM

Mar 1

Ready with the virtual hugs or need to vent.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

112. That's why I posted. DUers are amazing!

Reply to mercuryblues (Reply #28)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:29 AM

Mar 2

patphil

(9,035 posts)

29. Even at 95 years old, and having years to prepare, I know it will be hard to deal with.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:31 PM

Mar 1

I saw my mother slowly die from cancer, and felt relieved for her when she finally transitioned. But, that didn't make it any easier for me to deal with.
Life does go on, and love will always be there for you. Remember, she's left you, but isn't gone. She will always remain in your heart, and in your memories.
Love,

Patphil

calimary

(89,950 posts)

56. What a great reminder, patphil!

Reply to patphil (Reply #29)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:32 PM

Mar 1

I love how you put it:

“Life does go on, and love will always be there for you. Remember, she's left you, but isn't gone. She will always remain in your heart, and in your memories.“

Beautifully written. So eloquent, and so true.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

113. Slowly and then all at once. Yes, the next couple of weeks will be difficult. Thank you

Reply to patphil (Reply #29)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:31 AM

Mar 2

SocialDemocrat61

(7,569 posts)

30. Sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:33 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

114. Thank you

Reply to SocialDemocrat61 (Reply #30)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:32 AM

Mar 2

pandr32

(14,240 posts)

31. I am so sorry.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:37 PM

Mar 1

It will be a process and I wish you well. Hugs, too!

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

115. Appreciated. Thank you

Reply to pandr32 (Reply #31)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:33 AM

Mar 2

SallyHemmings

(1,965 posts)

32. Hugs

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:39 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

116. Thank you

Reply to SallyHemmings (Reply #32)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:33 AM

Mar 2

70sEraVet

(5,465 posts)

33. So sorry for your loss, Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:39 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

117. Thank you so much

Reply to 70sEraVet (Reply #33)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:34 AM

Mar 2

1WorldHope

(2,047 posts)

34. Blessings to you. I'm so happy you had her for that long!💜💜💜💜

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:39 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

119. Thank you

Reply to 1WorldHope (Reply #34)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:36 AM

Mar 2

NoMoreRepugs

(12,051 posts)

35. Stay strong and find peace.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:43 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

120. I will. Thank you

Reply to NoMoreRepugs (Reply #35)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:37 AM

Mar 2

virgdem

(2,318 posts)

36. Deepest condolences to you on the loss of

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:47 PM

Mar 1

your dear Mother. 💔

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

121. Thank you

Reply to virgdem (Reply #36)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:37 AM

Mar 2

hamsterjill

(17,562 posts)

37. Prayers said for your family.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:50 PM

Mar 1

I am sorry for your loss. 95 is quite an accomplishment. My dad lived to that age. You are right in that there are a lot of details, etc. to attend to. Give yourself some grace and time to process. All of the chores will be there when you're ready.

Sending hugs.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

122. And I am lucky to have family to help. Thank you

Reply to hamsterjill (Reply #37)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:38 AM

Mar 2

niyad

(132,223 posts)

38. Holding you in light and love, dear Maeve. hugggggggggggggs

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:54 PM

Mar 1

Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. Remember, there is ALWAYS someone here.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

123. DUers are the best! Thank you

Reply to niyad (Reply #38)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:38 AM

Mar 2

senseandsensibility

(24,905 posts)

39. So sorry for your loss!

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:04 PM

Mar 1

Grief is a very challenging emotion, and I wish you strength in the days ahead.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

124. It comes in waves and yes, that makes it hard. Thank you

Reply to senseandsensibility (Reply #39)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:40 AM

Mar 2

irisblue

(37,446 posts)

40. I am so very sorry to read this

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:12 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

125. Thank you

Reply to irisblue (Reply #40)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:40 AM

Mar 2

PatrickforB

(15,420 posts)

41. I understand. I've been a caregiver over a decade now, and I often think that should my love die,

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:13 PM

Mar 1

not only will I grieve her, but there will be a giant empty place where all the caregiving activities were before.

My prayers are with you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

126. Yeah, my week will lose some of its shape with her gone. Take care of yourself as well. Thank you

Reply to PatrickforB (Reply #41)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:41 AM

Mar 2

mwmisses4289

(4,075 posts)

42. (((gentle hug))) 🫂

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:17 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

127. Thank you

Reply to mwmisses4289 (Reply #42)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:42 AM

Mar 2

MontanaMama

(24,718 posts)

43. I'm so sorry.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:25 PM

Mar 1

Expected or not, I’m sure this loss hits hard. Be well.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

128. I knew she wouldn't live long, but she went so fast it was a shock. Thank you

Reply to MontanaMama (Reply #43)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:43 AM

Mar 2

paleotn

(22,181 posts)

44. You've got it! Sincere condolences.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:32 PM

Mar 1

Same happened to my mom a decade ago. It was tough for a long time but it does get better.

My rational side doesn't believe it, but sometimes I think she and dad are still around giving me timely pearls of wisdom. That's probably just me being old enough now to really appreciate what they told me all those years.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

129. My dad's been gone 46 years, but he still pops up in my dreams now and then. Thank you

Reply to paleotn (Reply #44)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:44 AM

Mar 2

highplainsdem

(61,948 posts)

45. I'm so sorry, Maeve. I lost my mother several years ago, after years of being her caregiver (including

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:37 PM

Mar 1

a lot of time almost every day during her final months in a nursing home, because the staff there had so much trouble coping with her very rare swallowing disorder, achalasia, which some of the aides had never heard of and only one specialist in the city had any expertise with). It wasn't as sudden a loss for me, of course, but losing a parent is hard, and losing a loved one you've been a caregiver for is hard, and the combination is wrenching.

We're here for you. I'm praying your mother will be able to send you some signs to help comfort you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

130. Thank you--quick story about signs

Reply to highplainsdem (Reply #45)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:50 AM

Mar 2

I went to look for what she should be buried in and found a dress in her closet that she never wore.
Still has tags on it...from Sears. Have no idea when she bought it, don't remember ever seeing it before.
Looks like the sort of outfit a mother-of-the-bride would wear.
That's what she'll be buried in.

highplainsdem

(61,948 posts)

184. How perfect, to find that now. She'll appreciate it.

Reply to Maeve (Reply #130)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 05:03 PM

Mar 2

I'm continuing to pray for more signs for you.

My youngest aunt, the last of her generation of the family, crossed over 18 months ago. For years before that I'd sometimes talked about signs with a first cousin of mine, who's never quite shaken off worries about the afterlife, including Purgatory, that our Catholic upbringing had left her with (I'd left the Church in my teens). Like the rest of us, my cousin was feeling shattered by the loss. But a couple of days after our aunt passed, my cousin told me she'd been alone at home when she suddenly heard, very clearly, her wonderful, unmistakable laugh. I'd told my cousin earlier that our loved ones would have crossed over to a family reunion and party, and it seemed like a perfect way to show that. I'll admit I felt envy that my cousin heard that laugh again, but I didn't need the reassurance that our loved ones on the other side are fine. I loved just hearing about it.

I believe your mom will be helping comfort you, sending you strength, and I hope you'll be able to clearly sense the peace and joy she's experiencing now, and her gratitude for all you did for her.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

187. That was beautiful. Thank you again

Reply to highplainsdem (Reply #184)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:08 PM

Mar 2

LNM

(1,259 posts)

46. So sorry for your loss, Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:39 PM

Mar 1

I’m glad your Mother is at peace, I’m wishing it for you as well.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

131. Thank you

Reply to LNM (Reply #46)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:51 AM

Mar 2

swimboy

(7,330 posts)

47. I'm so sorry, Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:41 PM

Mar 1

My heart goes out to you and I wish you comfort and strength for the challenges ahead.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

132. Appreciated

Reply to swimboy (Reply #47)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:51 AM

Mar 2

bamagal62

(4,495 posts)

48. My deepest sympathies

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:44 PM

Mar 1

To you and your family, Maeve.❤️

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

133. Thank you

Reply to bamagal62 (Reply #48)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:57 AM

Mar 2

CaptainTruth

(8,195 posts)

49. So sorry, you're in my thoughts.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 08:44 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

134. Thank you

Reply to CaptainTruth (Reply #49)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:58 AM

Mar 2

hibbing

(10,594 posts)

50. Sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:13 PM

Mar 1

I was in the same position as you, but only for 6 years. I'm thankful she had you for that long. It takes its toll, be kind to yourself.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

135. I'm glad I could be there but it did get trying at times. Thank you

Reply to hibbing (Reply #50)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:59 AM

Mar 2

bdamomma

(69,526 posts)

51. Oh, so sorry

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:17 PM

Mar 1

for your loss.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

136. Thank you

Reply to bdamomma (Reply #51)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:03 AM

Mar 2

Tree Lady

(13,265 posts)

52. Sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:18 PM

Mar 1

Send healing your way

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

137. Appreciated

Reply to Tree Lady (Reply #52)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:03 AM

Mar 2

BumRushDaShow

(169,382 posts)

53. (((BIG HUGS)))

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:23 PM

Mar 1

I knew you were taking care of your mom and I hope you are consoled in the fact that no matter how difficult it might have been, that you got to spend as much time as you could with her.

All my love and sympathies to you and your family for your loss and I know what you did was much appreciated.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

138. Thank you, my friend

Reply to BumRushDaShow (Reply #53)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:07 AM

Mar 2

After I get thru the funeral and taking care of her affairs, my week is going to feel so different. Maybe I'll get the house clean,

Or not.

BumRushDaShow

(169,382 posts)

148. Take your time

Reply to Maeve (Reply #138)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:13 AM

Mar 2

I know from experience that in order to tackle that, you probably need to pick just one thing to do each day and not get overwhelmed by what needs to be done.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

151. And I have family to help, too

Reply to BumRushDaShow (Reply #148)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:16 AM

Mar 2

BumRushDaShow

(169,382 posts)

155. When my mom passed just over 10 years ago

Reply to Maeve (Reply #151)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:25 AM

Mar 2

family was DEFINITELY a needed thing to have. It took us about a year to get her affairs straight, get the house cleared and prepped for sale (e.g., she had a baby grand piano that needed to be taken care of), and finally get the house sold... and having one of my sisters' hubby working in real estate was a definite benefit for what needed to be done.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

158. Mom was in assisted care, so little property

Reply to BumRushDaShow (Reply #155)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:53 AM

Mar 2

But she dealt with five banks across two counties and has two pensions plus Social Security and a couple of insurance policies and...oy.

BumRushDaShow

(169,382 posts)

176. Understood

Reply to Maeve (Reply #158)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:14 AM

Mar 2

and my mom's financial stuff was my wheelhouse for management/notifications, etc. She was a widow who was getting SS & a survivor's annuity (my dad was a fed before he passed). I kept a spreadsheet for paying all her utilities until the house was sold. My other sister's hubby had a lawyer friend who helped to take care of the will/estate/taxes, etc. It's one of those things where you have to really sit down and plot out so many parts and pieces.

debm55

(60,397 posts)

54. Deepest sorrow for your mom and you. May the memories of your mom be a blessing to you, Sweet Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:27 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

139. That is so sweet. Thank you

Reply to debm55 (Reply #54)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:07 AM

Mar 2

Aristus

(72,129 posts)

55. ...

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:28 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

140. Thank you

Reply to Aristus (Reply #55)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:08 AM

Mar 2

Lifeafter70

(965 posts)

57. Comforting warmth headed your way

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:34 PM

Mar 1

Take care of yourself.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

141. I will, thanks

Reply to Lifeafter70 (Reply #57)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:09 AM

Mar 2

berniesandersmittens

(13,182 posts)

58. Hi Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:40 PM

Mar 1

Prayers coming your way.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

142. Thank you

Reply to berniesandersmittens (Reply #58)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:09 AM

Mar 2

mgardener

(2,349 posts)

59. I am so sorry

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:40 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

143. Thank you

Reply to mgardener (Reply #59)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:10 AM

Mar 2

BlueWaveNeverEnd

(14,145 posts)

60. ..

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:50 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

144. Thank you

Reply to BlueWaveNeverEnd (Reply #60)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:10 AM

Mar 2

ornotna

(11,463 posts)

61. So sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:55 PM

Mar 1

Wishing you peace of mind

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

145. Appreciated

Reply to ornotna (Reply #61)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:11 AM

Mar 2

Staph

(6,467 posts)

62. I understand so well.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 09:58 PM

Mar 1

I am caring for my 102-year-old mother. I dread the inevitable loss.

You are in my prayers.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

146. Oh, my! Blessings on you, as well!

Reply to Staph (Reply #62)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:12 AM

Mar 2

KitFox

(559 posts)

63. Sending gentle hugs and strength as you deal with your sad loss and inch your way through this. 🩷

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 10:01 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

147. It does feel like a slog, thank you

Reply to KitFox (Reply #63)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:12 AM

Mar 2

ms liberty

(11,225 posts)

64. So sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 10:18 PM

Mar 1

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

149. Thank you I knew DUers would step up

Reply to ms liberty (Reply #64)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:13 AM

Mar 2

Grim Chieftain

(1,700 posts)

65. Dear Maeve, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 10:59 PM

Mar 1

Please take comfort in knowing you were there for her during her final years with love, caring and support. You both are in my thoughts. Take care, dear Maeve.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

150. Thank you. I'm glad I was there at the end

Reply to Grim Chieftain (Reply #65)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:14 AM

Mar 2

KT2000

(22,137 posts)

66. You have my sympathy

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 11:14 PM

Mar 1

because it can be very difficult and the stress is incredible. Please take time for yourself to grieve and take care of yourself as I am sure you took care of your mother. Peace to you Maeve.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

152. Thank you. And my dear Hubby will help take care of me!

Reply to KT2000 (Reply #66)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:18 AM

Mar 2

MustLoveBeagles

(16,248 posts)

67. My condolences on the loss of your mother

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 11:15 PM

Mar 1

Sending healing vibes to you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

153. Thank you

Reply to MustLoveBeagles (Reply #67)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:19 AM

Mar 2

Hope22

(4,723 posts)

68. My heart is with you.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 11:35 PM

Mar 1

Be easy with yourself. 💗🙏🏼💐

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

154. I will, thanks

Reply to Hope22 (Reply #68)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:19 AM

Mar 2

radical noodle

(10,589 posts)

69. Comforting hugs, Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 11:40 PM

Mar 1

I'll be holding you in my heart.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

191. Thank you. DUers are the best!

Reply to radical noodle (Reply #69)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:50 PM

Mar 2

area51

(12,680 posts)

70. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 12:30 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

159. Thank you

Reply to area51 (Reply #70)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:54 AM

Mar 2

mr715

(3,506 posts)

71. You are loved.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 12:35 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

160. I feel it. Thank you

Reply to mr715 (Reply #71)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:54 AM

Mar 2

Laurelin

(891 posts)

72. Sending all sorts of positive thoughts and prayers

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 12:49 AM

Mar 2

It doesn't have to be du of course, but remember to take care of yourself as well.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

161. Appreciate it. This thread has helped

Reply to Laurelin (Reply #72)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:56 AM

Mar 2

Stinky The Clown

(68,951 posts)

73. More tan an ice for you

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 01:03 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

162. Thank you

Reply to Stinky The Clown (Reply #73)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:57 AM

Mar 2

HeartsCanHope

(1,667 posts)

74. I am so sorry, Maeve. My condolences to you and your family.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 01:35 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

163. Appeciate it

Reply to HeartsCanHope (Reply #74)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:57 AM

Mar 2

summer_in_TX

(4,159 posts)

75. So sorry, Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 02:38 AM

Mar 2

May her memory be a blessing for you and yours.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

164. Thank you

Reply to summer_in_TX (Reply #75)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:58 AM

Mar 2

DFW

(60,150 posts)

76. My condolences. You think you're ready, but you're not.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 02:42 AM

Mar 2

My wife went through the same thing on New Year’s Eve, and her mom was 98. You’re never really ready.

I hope you manage to get through the next few months with your spirits intact. Companionship—in whatever form—makes it easier.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

165. I have Hubby to see I don't overdo

Reply to DFW (Reply #76)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:01 AM

Mar 2

And just getting thru this week will be enough. One day at a time.
My condolences to your wife and yourself

MIButterfly

(2,666 posts)

77. Dear Maeve, I am so sorry for your loss.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 02:57 AM

Mar 2

What a terrible shock that must have been. I extend to you my deepest sympathy.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

166. I just had time to realize she was at the end and she was gone

Reply to MIButterfly (Reply #77)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:03 AM

Mar 2

Thank you

Silver Gaia

(5,357 posts)

78. Maeve, my heart is with you. ❤️

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 03:07 AM

Mar 2

May peace find and comfort you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

167. Thank you so much

Reply to Silver Gaia (Reply #78)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:04 AM

Mar 2

Bread and Circuses

(2,008 posts)

79. Surrounding you in Emerald Green healing energy

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 03:18 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

168. It is the season for the green, true

Reply to Bread and Circuses (Reply #79)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:05 AM

Mar 2

Thank you

a kennedy

(35,924 posts)

80. ♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻 ♥️ 💚 ☘️ 🙏🏻

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 04:23 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

169. No words needed! Thank you, my friend

Reply to a kennedy (Reply #80)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:06 AM

Mar 2

SleeplessinSoCal

(10,411 posts)

81. Restorative Thoughts headed you way.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 04:52 AM

Mar 2

🙏❤️🙏

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

170. Appreciated

Reply to SleeplessinSoCal (Reply #81)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:07 AM

Mar 2

TommieMommy

(2,882 posts)

82. 🙏 my deepest sympathy 🙏

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 07:42 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

171. Thank you

Reply to TommieMommy (Reply #82)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:07 AM

Mar 2

OldBaldy1701E

(11,079 posts)

83. Sending good vibes your way! (n/t)

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 08:20 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

172. Thank you

Reply to OldBaldy1701E (Reply #83)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:08 AM

Mar 2

JoseBalow

(9,451 posts)

118. I am sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:35 AM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

173. Thank you

Reply to JoseBalow (Reply #118)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:09 AM

Mar 2

sarchasm

(1,308 posts)

156. deepest condolences ...

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 10:29 AM

Mar 2

... that's a tough one. hang in there ...

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

174. Appreciate it. I will

Reply to sarchasm (Reply #156)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:09 AM

Mar 2

Response to Maeve (Original post)

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Maeve

(43,456 posts)

175. I have been in charge of Mom's finances for several years

Reply to jfz9580m (Reply #157)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:13 AM

Mar 2

So that should help. Just so many details!
Thank you

Nevilledog

(55,071 posts)

177. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:17 AM

Mar 2

I wish I could just give you a big hug. If you need anything, please let us know.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

189. Just the love y'all have shown in this thread is sufficient

Reply to Nevilledog (Reply #177)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:48 PM

Mar 2

Thank you

Erda

(230 posts)

178. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 11:40 AM

Mar 2

Sending you and your family lots of love.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

190. Appreciated, thanks

Reply to Erda (Reply #178)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:49 PM

Mar 2

dlk

(13,243 posts)

179. Very sorry for your loss

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 12:07 PM

Mar 2

A mother’s passing is an especially difficult loss. I wish you peace and comfort going forward

MaineNative

(94 posts)

180. I feel you

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 12:53 PM

Mar 2

calimary

(89,950 posts)

185. Welcome to DU, MaineNative.

Reply to MaineNative (Reply #180)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 05:25 PM

Mar 2

This is the kind of thread that shows how we all feel about each other. We're technically strangers, but dear friends in actuality.

Hugs.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

192. Thank you

Reply to MaineNative (Reply #180)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:51 PM

Mar 2

Old Crank

(7,021 posts)

181. Just remember to give yourself some time

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 01:12 PM

Mar 2

To grieve also.
Best wishes.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

193. I will, thank you

Reply to Old Crank (Reply #181)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:52 PM

Mar 2

proud patriot

(102,483 posts)

182. (((BIG HUG)))

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 02:26 PM

Mar 2

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

194. Thank you, I needed that

Reply to proud patriot (Reply #182)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:53 PM

Mar 2

Permanut

(8,366 posts)

183. Thoughts and prayers on their way, air mail special delivery.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 04:26 PM

Mar 2

You have had a lot on your plate, and still do.

We went through a similar process with Mrs. Permanut's Mother; she died at 94 two years ago.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

195. We often think it will be easier, knowing they lived so long. Not so. Thank you

Reply to Permanut (Reply #183)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:54 PM

Mar 2

calimary

(89,950 posts)

186. Thanks for letting us know, Maeve.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 05:27 PM

Mar 2

Looks like you have MANY hugs and condolences here, as well as this one from me. DU stands with you.

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

196. I've known some of you for the better part of 25 years. I trusted that you'd lift me up, and I was right!

Reply to calimary (Reply #186)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:56 PM

Mar 2

pazzyanne

(6,759 posts)

188. My sincere sympathy at the loss of your mother. No matter how old we are we will always miss them.

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:18 PM

Mar 2

We understand and are here for you!

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

197. Much appreciated

Reply to pazzyanne (Reply #188)

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 06:57 PM

Mar 2

FemDemERA

(825 posts)

198. I am so sorry, Maeve

Reply to Maeve (Original post)

Fri Mar 6, 2026, 04:55 PM

Mar 6

I know that the loss you are feeling is immeasurable. I do hope you have a good support system to help out. May memories of your mother wrap around you and bring you comfort, like a warm blanket on a wintry night.

It's been a few days since I read your post. I started to write, went looking for a song, and got lost in my own memories... I evidently minimized this tab and never sent my post until now. So it is a few days later, but the message is heartfelt all the same.

Quote from the song I went looking for...

And even if you lose yourself
And don't know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
- from "Perhaps Love", John Denver

Maeve

(43,456 posts)

199. Actually, having taken your time was a good thing

Reply to FemDemERA (Reply #198)

Sat Mar 7, 2026, 08:20 AM

Mar 7

Yesterday we talked to the minister and cleared out her room at assisted care. The funeral is not til Monday. At first it's all "gotta do this, gotta do that" and overwhelming. Then comes some quiet and a chance for peace.
It's been a helluva week. And John Denver's songs have been an important part of my life. Thank you

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