Can I rant about my ungrateful (adult) child...?

[FirstLight]

This MFer was stuck in KANSAS in the middle of nowhere living in a broke-ass rv with no electricity and a GF and 2 yr old...I brought them out here for a better job market and easier finding a apartment. That was the beginning of December.

They moved into the house immediately because I didn't know the RV was such a POS. and they continued to make my life hell for 2 months... She can't clean up "yukky food" because she is a fucking child. The baby was not watched and let to do whatever and expected to watch tv while they played on their phones... I ended up having major trauma setbacks because their argued almost every day. And ended up basically a prisoner in my own room just to avoid conflict.

Well they got into a fucking Apt and he starts work end of the week. I gave them $600 on Friday and they packed like crazed monkeys and left... (Oh I bought him a used car for $3K too) I helped fill a cooler with food from the fridge and another bag full of their "stuff" out of the pantry.
Now they are "broke again" and asking me for more help till he gets his job and first paycheck.

You spent $600 in 3 days? So Gas for the drive from tahoe to reno (RV too, idk how much that is) pizza for the night they moved cuz they were tired...ok, got it.
And they had to go to the store cux of things they forgot or didnt have...toilet paper, maybe dish soap, I get it...

But he's saying I only gave him $500 and everything is sooo expensive ... Yeah, and how much did you spend on WEED?
And you are gonna fight with me whether it was $500 or $600...? Bitch, I got my receipts.
Don't piss me off, or your gonna be eating out of cans like you were before.

I even reminded him I packed them food. and he's gonna argue with me over text and get snarky?

Dude, this is why I wanted you out of my house and LIFE...you just take and take, and expect the rest of us to do whatever you want...

21 years old, lord .....give him a fuckin thump on the head!

[Floyd R. Turbo]

1. CPS!

[FirstLight]

2. it's coming...I wanna give them a minute to get settled and maybe then they wont know it's me, but yea...

I am keeping that one very close to the vest....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. If anyone can give him thumps on his head, it's YOU.

It's way past time to set firm boundaries. FIRM. Let them flounder.

If you always rescue them, then there's no incentive for them to ever grow up.

[FirstLight]

4. I basically told hm I'm blocking his messages...

and that you don't speak like that to your MOTHER. I told him I dont like your tone so I am giving it right back. Be careful who you act like that with, when you know you need their good graces... He's got no respect for women, especially me.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. A very good start! Too bad he didn't learn those lessons when he was younger. nt

[FirstLight]

6. I'm still in therapy for all the years of my own stuff I carried when they were growing up...

So I take a considerable amt of the blame, I'm sure. But my Parents were also a big part of my kids' lives and they didn't put up with attitude or bullshit, and by the end, they had really lost their filters for any politness about it. When he was a teen, my Dad laid into him more than once and it pissed him off but he had no comeback. Now he idolizes the man, but still had so much to learn about how to act like him. (not that my dad was perfect, but he had a TON more discipline in his little finger!)

[CountAllVotes]

7. Sad situation at best

When I was 21 years old, I was on my own and working a full-time job on the graveyard shift in downtown San Francisco. No one bailed me out, no one!
Spoiled kiddies you have there. Do not continue to enable them is my advice. 😬

[FirstLight]

8. Times are definitely more difficult for this generation, however

It also comes down to his personality and behavior that ends up shooting him in the foot he said many opportunities over the past 3 years or 2 years since he's been out of the house.
Now I will admit, that I have a lot of poverty guilt from when they were growing up and we were very poor. So now that I actually have a little money stashed, of course I'm going to want to do everything I can to help. But he's also got to learn to be reasonable and he's not I'm sure that comes with age at least I hope it does LOL I don't wish him any more hardship but I know he also needs to grow a fucking brain