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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy wife's in surgery. I hate the silence in the waiting room.
Last edited Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:38 AM - Edit history (1)
Update: The doctor called. She's in recovery. The procedure went well and was sucessful.Trying to read to keep my mind off it. The doctor is well rated and the procedure as heart procedures go is low risk. Still I'm really stressed. We're an hour into it according to the progress monitor.
I don't want to turn the damn TV on. It would make me crazy.





Hope all goes well despite your anxiety.
Walleye
(39,814 posts)It’s frightening beyond words. I hope sincerely everything turns out all right for you and she recovers fully and quickly.
sinkingfeeling
(55,086 posts)Hang in there.
LoisB
(10,210 posts)
Gore1FL
(22,431 posts)It keeps my mind occupied and deals with the blood pressure I get worrying.
My thoughts are with you and your wife.
brer cat
(26,902 posts)Alliepoo
(2,694 posts)The time in the waiting room is awful. I’m sending all good vibes to your wife and a big ((HUG)) to you as you are waiting to hear from the doctor. I know it will all be good but that doesn’t make the wait any easier. Let us know when you hear!!!
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Clouds Passing
(4,474 posts)Karadeniz
(24,266 posts)True Dough
(22,835 posts)May you be a short time away from relief and reassurance.
Wicked Blue
(7,898 posts)
SheltieLover
(67,018 posts)And comfort to you.
KitFox
(294 posts)your world is at a standstill. Hoping the blissful relief when the doc approaches with good news comes soon! Sending hugs to you and your dear wife. Please keep us updated. 🩷
Solly Mack
(94,867 posts)Hope all goes well.
Jarqui
(10,632 posts)Even medical procedures that are deemed 99.9x% likely to be successful can drive me crazy
Your wife married the right person.
Duncanpup
(14,356 posts)NNadir
(35,669 posts)Thanks for all the good wishes.
Sienna86
(2,152 posts)Glad things are looking very positive. Hang in there.
wordstroken
(1,104 posts)I truly know how you feel as you wait. The silence can be overwhelming.
Great news of your update. So glad she’s in recovery and doing well.
electric_blue68
(21,101 posts)eppur_se_muova
(38,939 posts)A little late for best wishes for the procedure, but I can still wish you both a good recovery.
Several years ago, my mom had her heart stopped and restarted to try to bring her afib under control. It's probably the lowest-risk cardiac procedure you can get, but just the thought was anxiety-inducing -- anything concerning the heart is, whatever the doctors say, so I can sympathize. (She came out of it fine, but still with afib.)
NNadir
(35,669 posts)...for quite some time. They've been managed with propranolol, but apparently with age, the drug loses effectiveness.
Apparently it's a familial genetic thing with her mother and uncles, an extra node.
We figured we'd deal with it before the country collapses which it seems to be doing.
eppur_se_muova
(38,939 posts)cardiologist seems to think it's not a good idea at her age (88). She just had the "jumper start", which sometimes resets the rhythm. She relies on metoprolol, which is not as strong, but more selective, than propranolol. (Plus Xarelto to avoid clots, plus levothyroxin to offset the side effects of Xarelto ...)
Lots of luck to both of you. Mom's lived with her condition for years now, but no one has ever said her condition was genetic, so maybe not as reassuring as we'd like.
ProfessorGAC
(72,420 posts)Hope recovery goes quickly.
JMCKUSICK
(2,059 posts)claudette
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