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Omaha Steve

(105,351 posts)
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:32 PM Apr 20

I was diagnoised in 2013...


I have frontotemporal dementia: https://www.theaftd.org/what-is-ftd/disease-overview/

It is getting worse. I saw my doctor Friday. He decided it is time to take a driving test. That will be Thursday after noon.

https://www.theaftd.org/posts/uncategorized/driving-and-ftd/

I will check in with the results. Wish me luck.

OS

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I was diagnoised in 2013... (Original Post) Omaha Steve Apr 20 OP
I wish you the best Shellback Squid Apr 20 #1
Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 20 #59
I'm sorry to hear it is progressing, Omaha Steve. Truly. And I wish you all the luck I can find... hlthe2b Apr 20 #2
Oh man. Scary news. MontanaMama Apr 20 #3
Good luck in your driving test. magicarpet Apr 20 #4
thinking about giving up driving CountAllVotes Apr 20 #5
Be sure to NEVER use cruise control if pavement is damp or wet. Attilatheblond Apr 20 #50
Thanks for the advice CountAllVotes Apr 20 #73
Understand completely Attilatheblond Apr 20 #77
Best of luck to you! KT2000 Apr 20 #6
You have done remarkably well jmbar2 Apr 20 #7
golf cart. my family had one for a while. just a thought Tetrachloride Apr 20 #8
The family at the top of the hill uses one in the neighborhood, especially as the dad's health declined Hekate Apr 20 #53
I'm using Uber more often. Costco occasionally has Uber deals. I'll take an Uber to the train station, and AnotherMother4Peace Apr 20 #58
You are taking this well. 1WorldHope Apr 20 #9
Immanuel Rehabilitation Institute Omaha Steve Apr 20 #12
Well, good luck. That is a more thorough test compared to 15 min with the dmv tester. 1WorldHope Apr 20 #13
3 hours? Akakoji Apr 20 #36
I wondered this too. An in-depth assessment TommyT139 Apr 20 #80
I was about to say DFW Monday #94
You can't tell it from your posts. Good luck! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ€ surfered Apr 20 #10
My Exact Sentiments DallasNE Apr 20 #23
Count me in on that comment too. I enjoy his valuable voice here. Nt lostnfound Apr 20 #75
thanks for the brief education on this OS peacebuzzard Apr 20 #11
That is a beautiful and heartfelt tale of your own. Thank you for sharing. erronis Apr 20 #21
thank you! it is a minor freak out of mine when I forget things, peacebuzzard Apr 20 #63
Praying you do well. My husband had to quit driving recently; I understand what a Ziggysmom Apr 20 #14
Wishing you the best of luck! jgo Apr 20 #15
Holding you in light and love, my friend. niyad Apr 20 #16
Keep checking because I swear I have heard recently that they have made strides in these Maraya1969 Apr 20 #17
Best wishes Omaha Steve. You got this ๐Ÿ˜ Evolve Dammit Apr 20 #18
Good luck, OS gademocrat7 Apr 20 #19
Wishing you the best, Steve. As others here have already said, no one reading your posts would ever highplainsdem Apr 20 #20
Best of luck ๐Ÿคž I hope you will be ok ๐Ÿ™ TommieMommy Apr 20 #22
You've got this, Steve! no_hypocrisy Apr 20 #24
I like this for a mantra. peacebuzzard Apr 20 #65
Oooooh, I like that too! calimary Monday #89
Good luck ๐Ÿซ‚ benfranklin1776 Apr 20 #25
Best of luck Duncanpup Apr 20 #26
As someone above stated, you are a D.U. treasure. 3Hotdogs Apr 20 #27
I wish you luck. barbtries Apr 20 #28
Best of luck to you! SheltieLover Apr 20 #29
Omaha Steve, I'm sending you all the luck I can find, along with a lot of positive thoughts. Dem2theMax Apr 20 #30
Good luck and take care of yourself. multigraincracker Apr 20 #31
I really wish you the best. May the good angels of The Universe stay by your side. LoisB Apr 20 #32
For so many years BComplex Apr 20 #33
I wish you the very best Steve JMCKUSICK Apr 20 #34
I wish you love and luck.Omaha Steve. debm55 Apr 20 #35
You are surrounded by your DU family who know, love, and support you, OS. wordstroken Apr 20 #37
praying. Groundhawg Apr 20 #38
Good luck Steve! Emile Apr 20 #39
I wish you nothing but the best... Mad_Dem_X Apr 20 #40
Sending best wishes and best of luck by air mail expedited special delivery. Permanut Apr 20 #41
FTD. LizVerite Apr 20 #42
All the best Wild blueberry Apr 20 #43
Best of luck Steve! GoneOffShore Apr 20 #44
Good luck Figarosmom Apr 20 #45
Good luck! nt Shipwack Apr 20 #46
Driving tests are scary enough no matter one's age or health status. 3catwoman3 Apr 20 #47
I'm wishing you all the luck in the world, Steve! whathehell Apr 20 #48
Did you see the article about the link between liver function and.... bee_peaceful Apr 20 #49
Best of luck to you. beveeheart Apr 20 #51
sending you the best vibes I can stillcool Apr 20 #52
I hope you are still road-worthy, Steve True Dough Apr 20 #54
I wish you the best, amigo JoseBalow Apr 20 #55
Dear Omaha Steve ReRe Apr 20 #56
Hang in there, Steve! Good luck. Ocelot II Apr 20 #57
Steve, you're a DU gem. hamsterjill Apr 20 #60
Good luck Steve. boonecreek Apr 20 #61
Good luck !!!!! Karadeniz Apr 20 #62
You're our Act Blue fundraiser organizer here Niagara Apr 20 #64
I definitely wish you good luck and anything else that may help! liberalla Apr 20 #66
Good luck! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 20 #67
Wishing you the best and good luck, my friend. HeartsCanHope Apr 20 #68
Steve sent you DU mail BonnieJW Apr 20 #69
Much good luck Omaha Steve ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€ Clouds Passing Apr 20 #70
Hang tough. cachukis Apr 20 #71
I am sorry Omaha Steve. You've been a stalwart member of DU for almost 21 years. ------- Fla Dem Apr 20 #72
Phosphatidyl Serine might help - here is a link Nigrum Cattus Apr 20 #74
Research in England shows that Trazodone helps slow the advance Omaha Steve Apr 20 #76
Hoping that all goes well for you. love_katz Apr 20 #78
Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 20 #79
Good luck. elleng Apr 20 #81
OmahaSteve I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you much luck FakeNoose Apr 20 #82
Driver's Written. kgray96057 Apr 20 #83
Very tough. Best wishes Easterncedar Apr 20 #84
So sorry. applegrove Apr 20 #85
Good luck! Dorothy V Apr 20 #86
Been pulling for you for years, I will continue pulling. marble falls Apr 20 #87
I have faith that you will pass this! Stay present. Best to you! 58Sunliner Apr 20 #88
Our thoughts are with you. Grumpy Old Guy Monday #90
Good luck... BigmanPigman Monday #91
Good Luck! electric_blue68 Monday #92
Wishing you every success, Steve! Lots of those powerful DU vibes will see you through! Rhiannon12866 Monday #93
I am so sorry, Omaha Steve. Bumbles Monday #95
I too see my day coming Be The Light Monday #96
I spoke with a doctor in our now walking group malaise Monday #97
Wishing you all the best luck and results. Moostache Monday #98
Im so sorry. You must be so scared :( My husband had an MRI last week.. samnsara Monday #99
Best of luck Steve! Polybius Tuesday #100
I turned 68 in January Omaha Steve Tuesday #101
All the best to you Steve. JohnSJ Tuesday #102

MLAA

(19,146 posts)
59. Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:48 PM
Apr 20

I admire you and sending good vibes to you.

hlthe2b

(109,308 posts)
2. I'm sorry to hear it is progressing, Omaha Steve. Truly. And I wish you all the luck I can find...
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:34 PM
Apr 20

THAT as well as all my hopes for advancements in FTD. You are a treasure and we all want to keep you around, sharp as ever, and active.

MontanaMama

(24,392 posts)
3. Oh man. Scary news.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:37 PM
Apr 20

Iโ€™ll be thinking about you this week and waiting to hear about your test.

CountAllVotes

(21,720 posts)
5. thinking about giving up driving
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:47 PM
Apr 20

Numb feet, numb hands.

Need to use cruise control a lot.

If it comes to this, it will.

I've been able to drive for almost 55 years now and if it isn't safe to do so any longer, so be it.

Best of luck Steve!



Attilatheblond

(5,708 posts)
50. Be sure to NEVER use cruise control if pavement is damp or wet.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:05 PM
Apr 20

Less friction with the pavement means Cruise Control can think you're going slower than you are and it might speed up more than is safe. At least that is what a car guy told us and it makes some sense.

Hope you get to drive a while longer. I fear my time to hand over the keys is coming sooner than later, for similar reasons. Arthritis in spine making for poorer nerve impulses to arms and legs.

CountAllVotes

(21,720 posts)
73. Thanks for the advice
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:04 PM
Apr 20

Typing is difficult now.

My medication is "no longer available" is the status.

I'm slowly going down. Sad.



Attilatheblond

(5,708 posts)
77. Understand completely
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:24 PM
Apr 20

Hope we ALL have lovely memories to savor as our worlds shrink and options lessen

jmbar2

(6,825 posts)
7. You have done remarkably well
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 01:48 PM
Apr 20

I would have never guessed from your posts that you were dealing with this. I am so sorry you are facing such a scary diagnosis. Peace be with you.

Hekate

(97,366 posts)
53. The family at the top of the hill uses one in the neighborhood, especially as the dad's health declined
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:10 PM
Apr 20

AnotherMother4Peace

(4,729 posts)
58. I'm using Uber more often. Costco occasionally has Uber deals. I'll take an Uber to the train station, and
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:32 PM
Apr 20

the train up the coast. It makes for less stress.

1WorldHope

(1,152 posts)
9. You are taking this well.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:06 PM
Apr 20

My husband would look for another doctor or just stop going to any doctor. I wish for your well being whatever the outcome. Who will test you? Is he sending you to the DMV or like Madonna?

Omaha Steve

(105,351 posts)
12. Immanuel Rehabilitation Institute
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:10 PM
Apr 20

First there is a written test. IF I pass that, a driving test will follow. It takes about 3 hours.

1WorldHope

(1,152 posts)
13. Well, good luck. That is a more thorough test compared to 15 min with the dmv tester.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:16 PM
Apr 20

I'm pretty sure I could fail the written test on a good day. Good luck to you Steve!

TommyT139

(1,289 posts)
80. I wondered this too. An in-depth assessment
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:11 PM
Apr 20

...allows for consideration of more factors in the driver's condition, skills, possible deficits, and other more tangential aspects (other chronic health conditions, vision, if any medications affect driving, etc).

A longer assessment can also help to provide the driver with any possible assistance -- there are evidently occupational therapists/driving coaches who may help fine-tune or suggest workarounds. They can also educate the driver and any family members about things to look out for over time that might suggest a change in ability.

I got most of this from an excellent general article on the topic:
https://drivingtoindependence.com/a-guide-to-driving-assessments-for-seniors-with-dementia/
And also a more technical summary of research -- I did some grad school in psych, so I tend to nerd out.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187703/

Omaha Steve, I too have benefited from your posts...and will continue to do so! Best of luck.

DFW

(57,829 posts)
94. I was about to say
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 10:25 AM
Monday

Granted, you have had a long time to get adjusted to this, but that begs the question whether it is possible to really get "adjested" to something that remains a moving target.

One of my best friends in Dallas has a B-I-L who gravely damaged his frontal lobes in a motorcycle accident when he was 20 (about 50 years ago), and whereas he is fully cognizant, he has little capacity for logic and no emotional stamina whatsoever. He flies off the handle if the shower water is off by 5 degrees in either direction, so obviously he hasn't been able to drive at all. Road rage gets you killed in Texas. If he sees a problem (the latest is black mold), if he decides it has been present in a car, he will never set foot in that car, whether or not there is any factual basis for this. My friend's wife is his twin sister, and she has been putting up with this as his unofficial caregiver for fifty years..

People can make light of this kind of affliction, but it is burden on both the caregivers and the victim, at least, as long as the victim is aware of the situation.

Kudos for your coping, no matter what the result this time. Far from everyone that travels this road does so as calmly.

DallasNE

(7,765 posts)
23. My Exact Sentiments
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:29 PM
Apr 20

We have been blessed with Omaha Steve's frequent, cogent contributions over the last 12 years. I look forward to many more, and good luck with the driving test OS.

peacebuzzard

(5,482 posts)
11. thanks for the brief education on this OS
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:09 PM
Apr 20

My family is down to 3 of us remaining siblings. We are all seniors, and from my end, both of my sisters have cognitive impairments (one is diagnosed as such and has been all of her life; the other sister is undiagnosed as far as mental, and it is my speculation alone. But she lives in a state that has legal and medical marijuana, and she is a daily patient because of aches and pains, so I know much of what I experience of her personality could be the use of medical MJ, and I don't judge her or have an opinion; it is her choice.
I have had recent trauma from a concussion and, most recently, a slip/fall that jarred my whole body. It was an accident that put me off work for a few weeks, so I have been on DU more than ever.
I am really sensitive to our situation because, as seniors, major decisions need to be made, and wills/documents should be in order so that it is not a mess for the survivors.
It is especially difficult because I am the only one lucid enough to realize these circumstances, and we don't have anything in place to protect the vulnerability that can occur at any time to any one of us.

I wonder at times if I suffer from the initial stages since it can come on slowly and progress.

You are a treasure I have always enjoyed your input and hard work on this site. Best wishes, OS, I look forward to reading your Thursday update.

erronis

(19,263 posts)
21. That is a beautiful and heartfelt tale of your own. Thank you for sharing.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:28 PM
Apr 20

Many/most of us have been or will be in similar situations. It's good to share our own experiences so others can be a bit more prepared.

peacebuzzard

(5,482 posts)
63. thank you! it is a minor freak out of mine when I forget things,
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:42 PM
Apr 20

like walking into a room and forgetting why I went there.
But then I think I have been doing that for decades and especially after cocktail hour. ( I don't do that often, but I enjoy a Pilsner or organic cab at times)

Ziggysmom

(3,771 posts)
14. Praying you do well. My husband had to quit driving recently; I understand what a
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:17 PM
Apr 20

loss of independence it can be. Safety of you and other drivers is #1 though.

Maraya1969

(23,243 posts)
17. Keep checking because I swear I have heard recently that they have made strides in these
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:21 PM
Apr 20

diseases. In the meantime,:I'll be sending you white light and love.



highplainsdem

(55,577 posts)
20. Wishing you the best, Steve. As others here have already said, no one reading your posts would ever
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:26 PM
Apr 20

imagine that you have FTD. I'm hoping that your doctor is just being extra cautious (a good thing for a doctor to be) and you'll pass both tests easily.

peacebuzzard

(5,482 posts)
65. I like this for a mantra.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:51 PM
Apr 20

I tend to rush too much. Always running everywhere,
I think slowing down and focusing more is good for most people at any stage.
less is more.

calimary

(85,984 posts)
89. Oooooh, I like that too!
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 01:12 AM
Monday

"Slow, steady, focused."

And you've got us, too, Steve. We're with you on this journey. Seems to me there are many valuable things to learn, in the process.

Dem2theMax

(10,663 posts)
30. Omaha Steve, I'm sending you all the luck I can find, along with a lot of positive thoughts.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 02:53 PM
Apr 20

I'm hoping for the best outcome possible for you. To me, you are one of the pillars of DU, and we need you here.

multigraincracker

(35,495 posts)
31. Good luck and take care of yourself.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:00 PM
Apr 20

I just hit my expiration date. Iโ€™m good with it. Itโ€™s all extra now.

BComplex

(9,390 posts)
33. For so many years
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:11 PM
Apr 20

you have helped people on DU, through good times and bad, getting people on ballots, helping raise funds, just doing the good work of helping people stay sane through republican mismanagement of everything. You have to know that we love you and support you in everything you do.

Best of luck with your tests, my friend!

JMCKUSICK

(2,058 posts)
34. I wish you the very best Steve
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:12 PM
Apr 20

I pray your transition is gentle and takes forever. You are far too important to us.
Thank you for all you do and the energy that you offer all of us.

wordstroken

(1,103 posts)
37. You are surrounded by your DU family who know, love, and support you, OS.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:20 PM
Apr 20

The thing that works best for me during challenging times ever since kidhood, is to truly believe that little voice inside my head that whispers, โ€œI can do this!โ€

And mostly that voice is right.

You got this, OS!

Wild blueberry

(7,597 posts)
43. All the best
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:41 PM
Apr 20

You are a treasure, and all your DU friends are with you.
Come what may, you and your loved ones will figure it out.
Big hug!

3catwoman3

(26,560 posts)
47. Driving tests are scary enough no matter one's age or health status.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:48 PM
Apr 20

Wishing you strength and serenity and good luck.

bee_peaceful

(77 posts)
49. Did you see the article about the link between liver function and....
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 03:57 PM
Apr 20

brain function.

Sending you all the best my friend.

True Dough

(22,832 posts)
54. I hope you are still road-worthy, Steve
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:13 PM
Apr 20

and if not, I hope there's a viable option to help get you around whenever you need it.

All the best to you, and thanks for all the fundraising you promote around these parts!

hamsterjill

(15,775 posts)
60. Steve, you're a DU gem.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 04:50 PM
Apr 20

Wishing you the best of luck with this. I admire your courage and acceptance, and I always want good outcomes for good people!

Niagara

(10,528 posts)
64. You're our Act Blue fundraiser organizer here
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:48 PM
Apr 20

You keep track of everything and you do a great damn job of it too!

I don't know how you do it, OS. I'm not sure if I'm that organized to keep track of it all.

I admire you for doing this selfless act for us, so thank you for all that you do.

I'm sending you the best of luck as always, OS.



liberalla

(10,438 posts)
66. I definitely wish you good luck and anything else that may help!
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 05:52 PM
Apr 20

Get a good night's sleep. Do some stretches to loosen the muscles and relieve some tension. Deep breaths... Imagine or "see" in your mind a pleasant drive on a beautiful day and a positive result on your driving test. I wish this for you!

Clouds Passing

(4,466 posts)
70. Much good luck Omaha Steve ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 06:41 PM
Apr 20

You are a treasure ๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿฉต๐Ÿ’›

Fla Dem

(26,570 posts)
72. I am sorry Omaha Steve. You've been a stalwart member of DU for almost 21 years. -------
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 07:14 PM
Apr 20

May you continue for many more years.

Omaha Steve

(105,351 posts)
76. Research in England shows that Trazodone helps slow the advance
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:21 PM
Apr 20

I've been on that a couple of years now. Thanks for the tip.

OS

MLAA

(19,146 posts)
79. Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 08:53 PM
Apr 20

Sending healing vibes your way. I admire you.

I accidentally replied to anotherโ€™s reply earlier.

elleng

(139,252 posts)
81. Good luck.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:38 PM
Apr 20

Dad was smart enough to stop driving, and give me his car; I was thankful for both.

FakeNoose

(37,232 posts)
82. OmahaSteve I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you much luck
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 09:44 PM
Apr 20

FTD is something that runs in my family also. For us it's a genetic inheritance from our mother, and her father, and we're not sure how far back it goes. It's lucky to be living now because new research is being done on FTD like never before. We're hoping and praying for a breakthrough. Good luck, dear Steve.

kgray96057

(29 posts)
83. Driver's Written.
Sun Apr 20, 2025, 10:04 PM
Apr 20

The DMV has a practice test online. The practice test is drawn from the bank of questions asked for the actual test. I set it for 99 questions and ran it for 2 weeks, daily, until I felt confident. They ask far fewer questions on the actual test. By the time I took it, they were all old friends.

BigmanPigman

(52,922 posts)
91. Good luck...
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 02:26 AM
Monday

I am rapidly getting dementia. Simple words and simple math have become more difficult within the past year. My Prim Care Doctor wasn't alarmed but I can tell there is definitely a big change.

I tried to find out how to renew my Dr License last week and after 2 1/2 hours on the useless DMV web site I gave up on trying to figure out why they would not let me make an appointment. Finally I went to Reddit for some decent info. It seems that you can renew it on line only 2 consecutive times in CA. Why doesn't their web site say that?!?!?!?

Then, to make "an appointment" there is more confusion (naturally). I have no idea what to do and I live only 2 blocks from the DMV. I "think" you have to go in to the DMV with some secret code on your phone and once you get into the DMV you show someone/something your cell phone secret code and that is supposed to be your "appointment". It sounds bogus. I assume that I will have to stand in line for 2 hours just to be told that it is incorrect and I need to stand in at least one more line. Since I literally live a 5 minute walk away it would be easier to wait at home and walk over once my "secret appointment number" at my appointment time. Since this is the CA DMV they do NOT make sense at all and love to torture people. The DMV are sadists!

I hope your local DMV is run better than mine. I have to get a new photo and eye test. This will take an entire day since the DMV lines are literally around the block and have been since 1988 when I moved here.

Bumbles

(371 posts)
95. I am so sorry, Omaha Steve.
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 10:25 AM
Monday

My former husband had the same diagnosis. It is a difficult condition to deal with. You seem to have had many good years since your diagnosis. My ex learned at 76 and deteriorated quickly. I wish you the best in dealing with it.

Be The Light

(91 posts)
96. I too see my day coming
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 11:09 AM
Monday

when they will take my car away. I'm 69 and been driving since 16.

So I'm rooting for you man! Just remember, most driving is like riding a bike.

Hard wired. Keep me updated!

malaise

(283,371 posts)
97. I spoke with a doctor in our now walking group
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 12:16 PM
Monday

and had her take a good friend off the road. He was a danger to himself and others.
All the best but sometimes we have to police ourselves.

samnsara

(18,485 posts)
99. Im so sorry. You must be so scared :( My husband had an MRI last week..
Mon Apr 21, 2025, 02:38 PM
Monday

..his brother and dad passed of a brain tumor. No news yet.

Please take care.

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