My cousin and my Mother-in-law both died on Thursday

[bif]

I was pretty close to my M-I-L. I was thinking that the old me would have used that as an excuse to get real hammered. I did think a little about it last night while cooking dinner, but I held out and fixed myself a glass of iced coffee. Ended up watching some humorous shows and rewarding myself with a bowl of ice cream. Small miracle, eh?

[rurallib]

1. good for you - and now you have no hangover

Plus you can deal with the deaths without having a load of personal guilt to deal with.

[NoRoadUntravelled]

2. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Good for you for staying on track and doing what's really best for you. That's awesome!

[irisblue]

3. I am so sorry for these losses.

Is this the first major relationship losses since you became sober?

[bif]

10. No, I've lost several family members since I've been sober.

And I'm not in denial when I say this. But I didn't drink to cover up my emotions or to deal with a problem, drinking just became the problem. I drank in the evenings because I enjoyed the buzz. Simple as that. But I did it every night and I needed to stop.

[gademocrat7]

4. Condolences on the loss of your family members.

Take care.

[Lonestarblue]

5. I'm so sorry for your losses. That's hard.

Sounds like you’re taking care of yourself though. My go-to treat is cheese, especially the really-bad-for-you ones like triple cream Brie. Yum.

[dlk]

6. I'm very sorry for your loss

That’s a lot to handle. You can’t practice too much self-care a time like this. Take care.

[cayugafalls]

7. My condolences.

I think you did awesome!

[Roy Rolling]

8. A miracle

Congratulations. Giving yourself a hangover to lift your spirits is seldom a working combination.

It’s said when we withhold our anger it rewires our brain to be more tolerant. The same goes with the austerity of withstanding temptation—it rewires us to be more tolerant of the triggers that menace us.

But we have to do something first, we must resist that drink, to experience the benefit. And that is often a very long journey, but one you’ve successfully made. Congratulations again. 😁

[Fla Dem]

9. Losing loved ones is always a sad and difficult event. During the pandemic even more so,

No getting together with family to share stories, share grief, lots of hugs and that final good-bye. Peace to you and your family and kudos to you on your strength.

[ihas2stinkyfeet]

11. how lucky you had a good MIL. so few do.

you must be a decent man. i think many resent having another woman at their wive's side. did she live close by?

probably fewer calories in the ice cream than the booze, yes? good job.

hang in there.

[niyad]

12. So very sorry for your losses. Please take good care of yourself.

[polmaven]

13. Condolences!!

The loss of 2 loved ones on the same day is very sorrowful. Deep condolence go out to you and your entire family!

[sarge43]

14. Condolences, bif.

[Warpy]

15. One damned lousy day at a time

They're all small miracles.

I'm so sorry you lost people you loved.

I'm afraid we're all going to before 2020 finally lumbers off the calendar.

[PatrickforO]

16. Yeah, that is awesome. Getting hammered never helped anyone over anything.

Just makes it worse.

[DarthDem]

17. I'm So Sorry for Your Loss.

[applegrove]

18. .Impressive To have losses like than and not derail your quit .. Keep it up. And so sorry

for your loss.

[leighbythesea2]

19. So sorry

For your losses. That is heart breaking.

[bif]

20. Thanks all!

It's been tough. But it's been a lot worse for my wife. So it's important that I stay off the sauce and be supportive.