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MIButterfly

(2,536 posts)
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 01:57 PM 14 hrs ago

Martini UPDATE - the prognosis is not good.

Last edited Thu Mar 5, 2026, 02:55 PM - Edit history (1)

Some of her test results were good and some of them weren't. Martini is in kidney failure and there really aren't any good options. I already vetoed surgery. She's so skinny I don't think she would survive any kind of surgery and if the spot is cancerous, I don't want her to get chemo. I'm all about quality of life and not quantity of life.

The vet wants to see her every three months now.

I hate that this is happening. I'm so scared. I just can't find the words right now. The pain is unbearable. I know it's irrational, but I keep thinking it's my fault.

Edited to add: the vet said she's in stage 2 kidney failure.

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Martini UPDATE - the prognosis is not good. (Original Post) MIButterfly 14 hrs ago OP
Don't waste time blaming yourself Catlady123 14 hrs ago #1
Love and cherish her in the time you and she have left together. jls4561 14 hrs ago #2
It's not your fault. My Millie is 20 years old. Polly Hennessey 14 hrs ago #3
I am so sorry you are both going through this. brer cat 14 hrs ago #4
Healing vibes on the way to both of you. SheltieLover 13 hrs ago #5
this might help, it's helped my cats, best of luck with Martini Nigrum Cattus 13 hrs ago #6
So sorry, I know it hurts Walleye 13 hrs ago #7
Hi MIButterfly, JMCKUSICK 12 hrs ago #8
Stop blaming yourself. We all do that when someone Figarosmom 11 hrs ago #9

Catlady123

(35 posts)
1. Don't waste time blaming yourself
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 02:10 PM
14 hrs ago

Just be with her and try to make it as beautiful as you can. Most of us have been through this with our pets and it's so hard. You might have more time with her than you think.

Good vibes to you and Martini

Polly Hennessey

(8,765 posts)
3. It's not your fault. My Millie is 20 years old.
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 02:13 PM
14 hrs ago

Her blood tests came back showing weakened kidneys and she has arthritis. I take her in every three months for bloodwork and a Vet check. I have her arthritis under control with a shot given every two months. It is Solencia and it works wonders. She is showing signs of early renal failure. She is on Royal Canin food for renal problems. She is given both wet and dry food. The dry food is softened with water. She has actually gained weight. The doctor and I have decided that when her kidneys become a serious problem rather than put her through any procedures that would make life difficult for her, I will let her go. For me, I am not going to let her suffer at all. So far she is doing fine for a really old lady but the inevitable will happen.

Let me be clear, MIButterfly, none of this is your fault. Love Martini as you already are. Trust me she understands. All my love to both of you.

brer cat

(27,517 posts)
4. I am so sorry you are both going through this.
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 02:19 PM
14 hrs ago

It isn't your fault, but I do understand the guilt when you can't fix it! Sending vibes to you both.

JMCKUSICK

(5,819 posts)
8. Hi MIButterfly,
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 04:20 PM
12 hrs ago

I'm sorry the news isn't better.

The moments, days, weeks, months and years you have shared if it were an retirement account would be flush with amazing returns on your investment.

You have each blessed the other in so many countless ways, it's impossible to track. Martini is so very likely to be perfectly happy with how her life has been lived, who she shared it with and withe her own treasure chest of memories.

As I cry for your difficult situation, and have Shadow laying tight next to me being a amazing gift to all of us here in my house, I know that I too will bear this burden with Petunia, Cuddles and Shadow.

The joy and memories that are promised me from having them is something I would never trade away to avoid the pain of losing them.

I talk to Petunia almost every day to say thank you for fifteen years of treasured moments, because I know her time will come too. I'm prepared in that my heart is so full, that I know that this life, with this pain, is priceless to my soul.

May your journey have many miles left, and may your touch and words be a comfort to Martini, just as every moment with her is nourishment for your soul.

God Speed and forgive me for rambling.

Figarosmom

(11,365 posts)
9. Stop blaming yourself. We all do that when someone
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 04:55 PM
11 hrs ago

We care for dies. Just don't do it.

Enjoy the time you have and keep Martini happy. Just spoil her totally, everything she wants.

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