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I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jan 2 #1
I'm very sorry. Yes, 2025 is not starting well, but at least your kitty appeared to hlthe2b Jan 2 #2
He had thrown up yesterday CountAllVotes Jan 2 #5
I am so sorry. bronxiteforever Jan 2 #3
Wow. I'm so sorry! I hope he went painlessly. CousinIT Jan 2 #4
My condolences. sinkingfeeling Jan 2 #6
I thought he'd live a lot longer CountAllVotes Jan 2 #8
I know it's hard. I went from 4 down to my one 18 year-old. Do sinkingfeeling Jan 2 #19
I have shitty neighbors CountAllVotes Jan 2 #55
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Jan 2 #7
I'm so sorry Silver has passed. sdfernando Jan 2 #9
I am devastated CountAllVotes Jan 2 #13
Go out and get a kitten ... Tarzanrock Jan 2 #10
That's the sovereign remedy. ChazInAz Jan 2 #22
Please don't overlook the senior cats that hardly ever get adopted Niagara Jan 2 #60
I am so sorry, CountAllVotes UpInArms Jan 2 #11
I'm so sorry. redwitch Jan 2 #12
Thank you. CountAllVotes Jan 2 #14
One option is to throw him in the garbage! CountAllVotes Jan 2 #15
I have a rescue and digging the grave is hard! hamsterjill Jan 2 #38
I'm so sorry! Laurelin Jan 2 #16
picture CountAllVotes Jan 2 #17
Such beautiful kitties. StarryNite Jan 2 #35
Beautiful bdamomma Jan 2 #39
Condolences 😿 SimplyHadEnough Jan 2 #50
So sorry to hear about the loss coprolite Jan 2 #18
I'm so sorry for the loss of sweet Silver.💔 virgdem Jan 2 #20
I am so sorry cate94 Jan 2 #21
Lady Bast, please take Silver gently home in Your loving arms, and niyad Jan 2 #23
I'm so sorry to hear that. JMCKUSICK Jan 2 #24
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Jan 2 #25
I'm so sorry for your loss. There is a special place in our hearts for our little ones 💙 that pass on🙏 TommieMommy Jan 2 #26
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 2 #27
I'm so sorry! Diamond_Dog Jan 2 #28
Oh I am so sorry! KitFox Jan 2 #29
Sorry to hear that; I wish you healing in your heart biophile Jan 2 #30
Gee-whiz! So sorry for your loss. It's so hard when we lose a pet, but especially so when KPN Jan 2 #31
You can message me as well displacedvermoter Jan 2 #46
Can you cremate him XanaDUer2 Jan 2 #32
You have my deepest sympathy. Unexpectedly losing your fur baby is a terrible shock. flashman13 Jan 2 #33
Geez I'm so sorry! I know you pain PortTack Jan 2 #34
My bdamomma Jan 2 #36
I'm sorry. LudwigPastorius Jan 2 #37
Knew he had a big friend, food, and a heat register. Festivito Jan 2 #40
I'm so sorry kimbutgar Jan 2 #41
Awww wryter2000 Jan 2 #42
Grieving is good for the soul. The kitty angels are caring for him now. riversedge Jan 2 #43
Heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. Nt spooky3 Jan 2 #44
Sorry. Horrible way to start the year 4catsmom Jan 2 #45
I'm. so sorry. 💕💔🐾 GentryDixon Jan 2 #47
I am so sorry. murielm99 Jan 2 #48
Oh No! Alliepoo Jan 2 #49
OMG I am so sorry Maraya1969 Jan 2 #51
So, so sad. One of our vets once said to me that we bring our animals into our lives knowing... 3catwoman3 Jan 2 #52
Oh how I wish I could CountAllVotes Jan 2 #58
Make sure you don't have a carbon monoxide leak or something Junipercity Jan 2 #53
I managed to bury him CountAllVotes Jan 2 #54
You are strong and I wish you peace. hamsterjill Jan 2 #57
Hoping you will get some KitFox Jan 2 #61
so sorry Skittles Jan 2 #67
😔 🌈 blm Jan 2 #56
I'm sorry to read about the devastating loss of your beloved feline, CountAllVotes Niagara Jan 2 #59
That is the story of my life these days CountAllVotes Jan 2 #62
I'm so sorry! Ocelot II Jan 2 #63
Feeling sad for your unexpected loss . . . Michiblue Jan 2 #64
Thank you CountAllVotes Jan 2 #66
Oh no! What an awful, awful way to start the year. femmedem Jan 2 #65
Sad to hear this. mwmisses4289 Jan 3 #68
Thank you CountAllVotes Jan 3 #69
I am so sorry. nt Dear_Prudence Jan 3 #70
It hurts. Aussie105 Jan 4 #71
I'm so sorry Phentex Jan 6 #72

LetMyPeopleVote

(156,461 posts)
1. I am sorry for your loss
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:44 PM
Jan 2

It is hard to say goodbye to a family member

hlthe2b

(107,265 posts)
2. I'm very sorry. Yes, 2025 is not starting well, but at least your kitty appeared to
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:45 PM
Jan 2

go peacefully and quickly.

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
5. He had thrown up yesterday
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:48 PM
Jan 2

I cleaned up the mess.

Cat vomit is nothing new when you have cats.

I had no idea he was sick.

Maybe all of the stupid fireworks being set-off did it?

I don't know. His brother Mr. Andy died last year in Feb. on Valentine's Day.

Damn!

bronxiteforever

(9,650 posts)
3. I am so sorry.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:46 PM
Jan 2

CousinIT

(10,651 posts)
4. Wow. I'm so sorry! I hope he went painlessly.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:46 PM
Jan 2

What a shitty way to start a new year! I hope the rest of your hear is hella better than that!

sinkingfeeling

(53,436 posts)
6. My condolences.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:49 PM
Jan 2

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
8. I thought he'd live a lot longer
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:52 PM
Jan 2

The vet wants $89 to bury him.

I don't know what to do.

He is a huge cat and I managed to put him in his carrier and it is out in the garage with him in it.

Rigor mortis had set in already when I found him.

The other cat I have is all upset. She doesn't know what happened to him.

They sort of had a love/hate relationship w/one another but in the end they did love one another.

I had three cats last year at this time, now just the one left.



sinkingfeeling

(53,436 posts)
19. I know it's hard. I went from 4 down to my one 18 year-old. Do
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:32 PM
Jan 2

you have a neighbor or friend who could bury him for you? I once had to get a neighbor man to lift a 125 pound dead dog into my station wagon to get her cremated.

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
55. I have shitty neighbors
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 05:26 PM
Jan 2

I asked for help a couple of times and ewwww boy!

It was a rough go for me out there today and yes, I slipped a couple of times on the wet grass/soil out there.

I am still alive anyway, like it or not.

brer cat

(26,649 posts)
7. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:52 PM
Jan 2

sdfernando

(5,473 posts)
9. I'm so sorry Silver has passed.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:52 PM
Jan 2

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
13. I am devastated
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:55 PM
Jan 2

Never prepared for death, never!

Tarzanrock

(558 posts)
10. Go out and get a kitten ...
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:54 PM
Jan 2

... you will immediately feel a whole lot better caring for that new kitty.

ChazInAz

(2,818 posts)
22. That's the sovereign remedy.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:03 PM
Jan 2

All of the cats I've had were some kind of rescue, even the Savannah, the Siamese and the Maine Coon. Sometimes, if I noticed that one of my kidkats was failing, I'd adopt a young repacement before the elder traveled down the Nile to the Isle of Reeds. It never failed that I'd find the kitten snuggled up with their senior, with the two comforting one another.

Niagara

(9,997 posts)
60. Please don't overlook the senior cats that hardly ever get adopted
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 06:19 PM
Jan 2

They need loving homes too.
😿

UpInArms

(51,957 posts)
11. I am so sorry, CountAllVotes
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:54 PM
Jan 2


redwitch

(15,102 posts)
12. I'm so sorry.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:54 PM
Jan 2

I hate losing them. It does sound like it was quick and at least you didn’t have to make the decision to end his life. Rest in pease Silver and hugs to you.

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
14. Thank you.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 12:56 PM
Jan 2

His twin brother died last year around this time.

I had to have him put down.

I'm glad I didn't have to do this with Silver.

He was such a good boy!

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
15. One option is to throw him in the garbage!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:02 PM
Jan 2

Good god!

I think I'll try to dig a 3' hole in the backyard.

The soil is soft and wet.

I think I can pull it off.

He loved his home and was afraid to leave here.

hamsterjill

(15,549 posts)
38. I have a rescue and digging the grave is hard!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:46 PM
Jan 2

I used to have them all cremated. Then we bought property out of the city and I decided to stop spending already-tight funds on cremation which has become exorbitant. I am a single woman and there’s no one to help.

Take a few breaths, calm yourself and try to do what must be done. You will have a sense of peace knowing he is truly at rest. I am NOT trying to diminish the grief you feel in any way. Just years of experience with this. There’s something about the finality. Right now, you’re still feeling the limbo.

Sending hugs and PM me if I can help in any way.

Laurelin

(663 posts)
16. I'm so sorry!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:18 PM
Jan 2

They always go too soon. I'm glad he went peacefully in his sleep. None of my animals have done that. But what a heartbreak to come home to! I know how you feel about going from 3 to 1. It's very difficult for you and your remaining cat. Stay strong 🥰

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
17. picture
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:21 PM
Jan 2

Picture of Silver and his brother Andreas.

This was abt. 2-1/2 years ago or so.

My late husband had adopted both of them in 2013.

StarryNite

(11,047 posts)
35. Such beautiful kitties.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:36 PM
Jan 2

They are once again together in a place where good kitties...all kitties go.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

bdamomma

(66,964 posts)
39. Beautiful
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:47 PM
Jan 2

Kitties, well his brother is meeting him on rainbow bridge.

SimplyHadEnough

(72 posts)
50. Condolences 😿
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:45 PM
Jan 2

They were such beautiful Boys. So very sorry for the loss of your Fur Babies. Take care of yourself.
.

coprolite

(324 posts)
18. So sorry to hear about the loss
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:28 PM
Jan 2

of a member of your family. Condolences.

virgdem

(2,220 posts)
20. I'm so sorry for the loss of sweet Silver.💔
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 01:41 PM
Jan 2

cate94

(2,919 posts)
21. I am so sorry
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:02 PM
Jan 2

niyad

(121,193 posts)
23. Lady Bast, please take Silver gently home in Your loving arms, and
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:10 PM
Jan 2

send peace and comfort to his grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little one.

JMCKUSICK

(727 posts)
24. I'm so sorry to hear that.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:14 PM
Jan 2

I hope you have a treasure chest filled with special moments that will help you heal and grieve.

Americanme

(105 posts)
25. Sorry for your loss.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:15 PM
Jan 2

I hope your grief can be eased knowing he went in peace.

TommieMommy

(1,326 posts)
26. I'm so sorry for your loss. There is a special place in our hearts for our little ones 💙 that pass on🙏
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:16 PM
Jan 2

SheltieLover

(60,831 posts)
27. Deepest condolences
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:16 PM
Jan 2


Diamond_Dog

(35,474 posts)
28. I'm so sorry!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:19 PM
Jan 2

What an awful start for the New Year! I know how it feels to lose a furry loved one. My sincerest condolences.

KitFox

(133 posts)
29. Oh I am so sorry!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:21 PM
Jan 2

Silver was so lucky to have a loving home. I think your adrenaline will kick in to get you through the burial. I wish I was your neighbor. I would come and tackle this with you. In the spring you could get a silver leafed plant like dianthus or dusty miller and plant it there for a forever reminder of Silver. I am so sorry.

biophile

(502 posts)
30. Sorry to hear that; I wish you healing in your heart
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:22 PM
Jan 2

When my animals pass naturally, I bury them but I seldom go 3 feet down. Maybe 18 inches. If the weather is frigid, I have the luxury of a manure pile, which is almost never frozen underneath. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Peace to you !

KPN

(16,215 posts)
31. Gee-whiz! So sorry for your loss. It's so hard when we lose a pet, but especially so when
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:27 PM
Jan 2

it is not expected. He looked like a magnificent boy in that photo you posted.

Don't hurt yourself digging a hole for his burial. Can you get him cremated? If you don't have the money, please message me -- I would be glad to help with that. I'm sure we can work out a way to do that. Okay?

displacedvermoter

(3,395 posts)
46. You can message me as well
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:19 PM
Jan 2

I would be willing to help with fees for the vet to help you out.

Best wishes.

XanaDUer2

(14,841 posts)
32. Can you cremate him
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:31 PM
Jan 2

My condolences

flashman13

(875 posts)
33. You have my deepest sympathy. Unexpectedly losing your fur baby is a terrible shock.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:32 PM
Jan 2

I had a similar experience recently. My girlfriend came home after work and found our Redd Cat dead by the back door. We cried for days. I'm still not over it.

When our pets become old or ill we can prepare ourselves and comfort them in their last days. When they are young and healthy and just pass away, it is a terrible gut punch. I'm a little misty now. I'll send you a hug for comfort.

PortTack

(34,990 posts)
34. Geez I'm so sorry! I know you pain
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:32 PM
Jan 2

bdamomma

(66,964 posts)
36. My
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:42 PM
Jan 2

condolences to Silver, a pet is a very hard thing to loose. They leave pawprints on your heart.

LudwigPastorius

(11,275 posts)
37. I'm sorry.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:43 PM
Jan 2

They do manage to steal our hearts, don't they?

Festivito

(13,628 posts)
40. Knew he had a big friend, food, and a heat register.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 02:55 PM
Jan 2

Do you need much more to be happy in life.
He was happy when it counted.

kimbutgar

(23,823 posts)
41. I'm so sorry
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:07 PM
Jan 2

nothing worst than finding your cat dead.

SilVer will always be there with you in your heart. I had a lovely cat that died a few years ago and I swear I see her out of the corner of my eye sometimes!

wryter2000

(47,642 posts)
42. Awww
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:07 PM
Jan 2

What a horrible start for a year

riversedge

(73,771 posts)
43. Grieving is good for the soul. The kitty angels are caring for him now.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:13 PM
Jan 2

spooky3

(36,623 posts)
44. Heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. Nt
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:13 PM
Jan 2

4catsmom

(353 posts)
45. Sorry. Horrible way to start the year
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:17 PM
Jan 2

but he had a good long life with you no doubt

GentryDixon

(3,039 posts)
47. I'm. so sorry. 💕💔🐾
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:19 PM
Jan 2

murielm99

(31,579 posts)
48. I am so sorry.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:30 PM
Jan 2

We love our big orange and white Toby. I know.

Alliepoo

(2,523 posts)
49. Oh No!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:33 PM
Jan 2

That’s so sad I’m sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty.

Maraya1969

(23,035 posts)
51. OMG I am so sorry
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 03:49 PM
Jan 2

3catwoman3

(25,875 posts)
52. So, so sad. One of our vets once said to me that we bring our animals into our lives knowing...
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 04:03 PM
Jan 2

...full well that we will likely outlive them, but we choose to do so anyway because life is so much better with them in it that it is worth it even after they are gone.

He also said that one of the very best ways to honor a departed pet can be to offer your loving home to someone else who needs you.

We have, oftener than not, typically not waited very long to welcome a new furry friend when we have had to bid farewell to an "old" one. We never refer to them as replacements. Rather, they are successors.

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
58. Oh how I wish I could
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 06:07 PM
Jan 2

I'm old, sick and alone except for my other kitty Missy, the black cat. She is 8 years old now.

She is enough for me now.

I hope I will be around to see her for a long time and that I don't pass away myself.

I'll be redoing my estate plans now. They had a provision in it to care for Andreas and Silver in it and I found out that some of the people named in my estate plans aren't very what they seem to be.

Thanks for the thoughts however. For the most part, I agree that it is a good idea.

Junipercity

(35 posts)
53. Make sure you don't have a carbon monoxide leak or something
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 04:27 PM
Jan 2

Tis the season

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
54. I managed to bury him
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 05:21 PM
Jan 2

It is starting to rain outside.

There is a lot of rock in the yard and I got about 18" down. I put a large bath sheet in the hole I dug and he fit inside just right.

I have some Holy Water from Knock that is 40 years old. I sprinkled some of that on him along with a prayer. I hope it helped him and me.

It was rough going for a pushing 70 year old woman w/MS. The job is done now and if I need more soil to cover it up better, I have it.

I can see his grave from the bedroom window so he is still home where he always wanted to be.

Thank you everyone for your kind replies.

I'm so exhausted.

I need to eat and go to bed I think.

My other cat, my sweet black kitty is here with me. She seems upset.

We both are.

Thanks again everyone.

CountAllVotes



hamsterjill

(15,549 posts)
57. You are strong and I wish you peace.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 05:42 PM
Jan 2

As I said upthread, I have a rescue. I lost one on Monday and had to dig the grave. It is not a pleasant task, and I am still emotional. But there are times that we just have to pull it together and do what must be done.

Then we can fall apart when we know it is done.

I am so sorry for your loss. We sign on to this each time we try to help one, and we do it because we care very much. May you get some rest, have some peace, and if you believe like I do - there is no doubt that these creatures deserve paradise. They are all much more decent than many human beings. He is whole again and watching you grieve the loss of him. He wants you to be okay.

KitFox

(133 posts)
61. Hoping you will get some
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 06:40 PM
Jan 2

restful, restorative sleep. You are so brave. I just know that you will find comfort knowing Silver’s lasting spirit is right out your window. Gentle hugs🩷

Skittles

(160,815 posts)
67. so sorry
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 11:01 PM
Jan 2

I know how hard it is to lose a pet

Grieve not
nor speak of me with tears
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you
I loved you so
’twas Heaven here with you

- Isla Paschal Richardson

blm

(113,895 posts)
56. 😔 🌈
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 05:35 PM
Jan 2

Niagara

(9,997 posts)
59. I'm sorry to read about the devastating loss of your beloved feline, CountAllVotes
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 06:11 PM
Jan 2

I'm so sorry that you had to go through the burial alone.


I'm positive that if someone on DU lived close to you that they could have helped you. I know I would have.


Rest in Paradise, Silver.

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
62. That is the story of my life these days
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 06:52 PM
Jan 2

Death death death and alone alone alone.

My life is not what it could be. I need to work on getting things together!

Its a mess around here now, mud everyone from digging that grave in the rain.

Oh well, at least it is a done job and Silver is where he would want to be.



Ocelot II

(121,931 posts)
63. I'm so sorry!
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 07:11 PM
Jan 2
RIP, Silver.

Michiblue

(2 posts)
64. Feeling sad for your unexpected loss . . .
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 07:20 PM
Jan 2

Sending hugs to you

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
66. Thank you
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 09:42 PM
Jan 2

Welcome to the Democratic Underground Michiblue!



femmedem

(8,461 posts)
65. Oh no! What an awful, awful way to start the year.
Thu Jan 2, 2025, 09:05 PM
Jan 2

I'm in awe that you were able to bury him with your MS.

I hope you and your remaining cat bring comfort to each other.



mwmisses4289

(237 posts)
68. Sad to hear this.
Fri Jan 3, 2025, 12:34 PM
Jan 3

CountAllVotes

(21,154 posts)
69. Thank you
Fri Jan 3, 2025, 12:53 PM
Jan 3

I can barely move today after the burial.

It is raining hard today so had I not done it yesterday, I would have had to take him to the vet and have him buried elsewhere.

I don't know where I found the strength to do it but it is a done job.

Rest in Peace my Dear Silver. You were loved, greatly.

Dear_Prudence

(840 posts)
70. I am so sorry. nt
Fri Jan 3, 2025, 05:11 PM
Jan 3

Aussie105

(6,555 posts)
71. It hurts.
Sat Jan 4, 2025, 04:19 AM
Jan 4

No way around that.

Did he live a good life?
I'm sure he did.

I still remember the sudden deaths of past cats. Some left decades ago.
They live on in our memories.
We did our best to give them a good life.
That is the important part.

No guilt, no shame, just remember the good times.

Phentex

(16,581 posts)
72. I'm so sorry
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 06:13 PM
Jan 6
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