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MarineCombatEngineer

(18,021 posts) Mon Mar 9, 2026, 09:10 PM 12 hrs ago

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I know that I said that after my life long wife passed I would never date again because I would be comparing any women to my late wife, but, I've met a woman and we have a date this coming Sat., she lost her husband 3 years ago to cancer and we got to talking and we seemed to click, funny thing is that she asked me out, not the other way around and I'm looking forward to this Sat.

It's been 50+ years since I last dated and I'm clueless on dating in this day and age, my children and grandchildren have been giving me dating advice and it's far, far different from the last time I dated.

Wish me luck everyone.

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Not sure if this is where I post this, but here goes: [View all] MarineCombatEngineer 12 hrs ago OP

Just be yourself is the best advice. NoRethugFriends 12 hrs ago #1

Quoting a character in a book: be yourself, everyone else is taken. question everything 11 hrs ago #40

Good luck! Danmel 12 hrs ago #2

NoRethugFriends is absolutely right! Be yourself. And that includes be honest. CaliforniaPeggy 12 hrs ago #3

Thank you, MarineCombatEngineer 12 hrs ago #4

That's the ticket! And by the way, Congrats on your recent Milestone: 18000 posts! ...n/t CaliforniaPeggy 12 hrs ago #6

Best of luck! hurl 12 hrs ago #5

I hope you have a wonderful date and you both enjoy each other's company. LoisB 12 hrs ago #7

wishing you much luck! -eom vanessa_ca 12 hrs ago #8

Good luck man. Eko 12 hrs ago #9

Good luck! Hope you have an enjoyable experience. n/t TygrBright 12 hrs ago #10

Don't think of it as a date! LuckyCharms 12 hrs ago #11

Just relax and be yourself. sheshe2 12 hrs ago #12

Good luck, MarineCombatEngineer. MIButterfly 12 hrs ago #13

Everything you just said . . . tell her that. Just, tell her. Maru Kitteh 12 hrs ago #14

Any dating advice I can get is greatly appreciated. MarineCombatEngineer 12 hrs ago #15

How fun! It sounds like great beginnings. My 88-yr-old mom has an 89-year-old Nixie 12 hrs ago #16

How sweet malaise 11 hrs ago #24

".. They sparked.. " That Spark is so important... Cha 6 hrs ago #104

Wish you luck KT2000 12 hrs ago #17

Apparently, according to my children and grandchildren, MarineCombatEngineer 11 hrs ago #19

This reminds me of a Patricia Neal line from the WW2 movie 'In Harm's Way'-- Jack Valentino 11 hrs ago #50

Relax, smile just be yourself. Things will go as they should. Srkdqltr 12 hrs ago #18

Wishing you good luck and a fine time, this weekend! calimary 11 hrs ago #20

If you can make her consistently laugh, you're 75% there! Enter stage left 11 hrs ago #21

Have a wonderful time malaise 11 hrs ago #22

Good luck! Both of you deserve happiness and not to be alone. My unasked for advice, be yourself. surfered 11 hrs ago #23

Oh, don't kid yourseld, I am asking for advice. MarineCombatEngineer 11 hrs ago #28

My 2 cents: you are a bright, well rounded chap. Think of it as an opportunity to make a friend Attilatheblond 9 hrs ago #94

"I think be yourself is the worst advice you can give most people" Skittles 11 hrs ago #25

Only if one is actually an 'asshole', and is trying to hide that fact from coming out Jack Valentino 10 hrs ago #54

Myself and, indeed, all of GD canetoad 11 hrs ago #26

Good luck! Grumpy Old Guy 11 hrs ago #27

Have a good time! mountain grammy 11 hrs ago #29

💐🤞🏽 blm 11 hrs ago #30

Remember that she is in the same Figarosmom 11 hrs ago #31

Have fun!! FemDemERA 11 hrs ago #32

Well, Dan 11 hrs ago #33

REAL MEN take responsibility for birth control upon THEMSELVES, Jack Valentino 10 hrs ago #59

Good point Dan 10 hrs ago #75

That sounds delightful! Totally Tunsie 11 hrs ago #34

No, she's never heard of DU and she has zero interest in social media. nt MarineCombatEngineer 10 hrs ago #67

Relax and enjoy yourself! BeneteauBum 11 hrs ago #35

My advice (as a woman in my later years) is try to keep your expectations down to a minimum FakeNoose 11 hrs ago #36

This is the sweetest post in a long time! Love that your kids and grandkids are in on it, too! Deuxcents 11 hrs ago #37

How wonderful for you MCE, dare to hope, dare to dream, and dare to try. JMCKUSICK 11 hrs ago #38

I'm curious. skypilot 11 hrs ago #39

Go in 2 different cars, split the check if she's amendable and have an exit strategy if needed. MarineCombatEngineer 10 hrs ago #69

Seems a little extreme to me, too HighFired49 9 hrs ago #85

Very good advice, and like I told my daughter and granddaughters, MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #86

Best of luck MCE! AloeVera 11 hrs ago #41

Thank you AloeVera, MarineCombatEngineer 10 hrs ago #71

Good luck! My best advice (not that you asked) is RussBLib 11 hrs ago #42

Soldier? SOLDIER? MarineCombatEngineer 10 hrs ago #73

Haven't you watched the "American President" yet? hamsterjill 11 hrs ago #43

My wife tells me woman judge on men's shoes also FHRRK1 10 hrs ago #56

OMG--- no wonder I get no invitations---! Jack Valentino 10 hrs ago #57

All the best jfz9580m 11 hrs ago #44

She finished her first solo with no problems at all, MarineCombatEngineer 10 hrs ago #76

Good luck on your date MustLoveBeagles 11 hrs ago #45

Good On You!!!! BurnDoubt 11 hrs ago #46

OOHRAH!!! COL Mustard 11 hrs ago #47

life is short. do what makes you happy Takket 11 hrs ago #48

You will do fine MCE! Irish_Dem 11 hrs ago #49

Good luck. usedtobedemgurl 11 hrs ago #51

Relax and enjoy the evening Lifeafter70 10 hrs ago #52

You've already had the good luck to meet her. I'm wishing you more. Have a great time! highplainsdem 10 hrs ago #53

First, anywhere you post is perfect. Go with the gut and with everybody wishing you well. Luck. UTUSN 10 hrs ago #55

My advice...since you asked... maspaha 10 hrs ago #58

Did you determine if she's a Dem, or not? Bayard 10 hrs ago #60

She's a dedicated Dem and, yes, we're having dinner together. nt MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #80

You are a DU-er - what's not to like? Your head must be screwed on right and she will Marie Marie 10 hrs ago #61

Very happy for you. Just be you. Joinfortmill 10 hrs ago #62

Be In The Moment, Not Past, Not Future. 👍🤞 ColoringFool 10 hrs ago #63

I'm JEALOUS !!! I DON'T have a date for this weekend.... Jack Valentino 10 hrs ago #64

Be yourself AverageOldGuy 10 hrs ago #65

Have fun, be real mr715 10 hrs ago #66

Good luck. Gore1FL 10 hrs ago #68

In the book of life kairos12 10 hrs ago #70

Best of luck MCE angrychair 10 hrs ago #72

Good luck! 🍀 ZDU 10 hrs ago #74

Just be yourself and have fun Bettie 10 hrs ago #77

I'll pass along my dad's dating advice: LudwigPastorius 10 hrs ago #78

LOL. MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #81

Like others have said, be yourself. Beacool 10 hrs ago #79

MarneCombatEngineer - you got this. Reading down this thread has left me in smiles and tears. c-rational 9 hrs ago #82

This whole thread is so damn cool. Permanut 9 hrs ago #83

And you will get it. MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #87

Not wishing you luck. I am wishing you a wonderful evening as you niyad 9 hrs ago #84

Thank you and I will give a full report, up to a certain point. MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #88

Well, naturally. You are, after all, a gentleman! I guess that means no videos??? niyad 9 hrs ago #89

LOL, no, no videos or...................... nt MarineCombatEngineer 9 hrs ago #91

Good Luck ChicagoTeamster 9 hrs ago #90

Ha! Good on ya man! Hey Joe 9 hrs ago #92

I'm happy for you! summer_in_TX 9 hrs ago #93

That's wonderful news, best of luck! Talitha 9 hrs ago #95

She's Portuguese so I'm thinking of taking her into Phoenix to a Portuguese restaurant to dine, MarineCombatEngineer 8 hrs ago #96

The restaurant sounds nice, I bet she'll enjoy that. Talitha 8 hrs ago #98

Ha! Best wishes, ED Evolve Dammit 8 hrs ago #101

Man, I hope you have a great time. Arthur_Frain 8 hrs ago #97

Good luck MCE! We are all rooting for you to have a nice night out. Ilikepurple 8 hrs ago #99

It'll be fine Boo1 8 hrs ago #100

I am clueless. DFW 7 hrs ago #102

Have a great time Laurelin 7 hrs ago #103

Good luck! Enjoy yourself. Scrivener7 5 hrs ago #105

My father remarried after my mother's death. NNadir 4 hrs ago #106

Best of luck! viva la 2 hrs ago #107

Thanks for sharing orangecrush 1 hr ago #108

Is she a Democrat? babylonsister 1 hr ago #109

This is wonderful. LisaM 28 min ago #110

Much good luck MCE 🍀 Clouds Passing 16 min ago #111

Good to hear IbogaProject 12 min ago #112