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jfz9580m

(16,895 posts)
44. All the best
Mon Mar 9, 2026, 10:33 PM
20 hrs ago

I wish you all the best. My ex and I split up because I came rather late to the realization that I was a frustrated maternal type (upto just 1 kid) and when my ex just nixed the idea, I realized one’s subconscious mind has its own operation in the background and while I always knew I could not balance a stem job with a kid with my talent and skill level and I would never give up my job, I had unconsciously married him still factoring in what a good dad he would have been. After that..these days I finally pay more attention to my subconscious mind. We got amicably divorced and still talk every day.
He is pretty much the only person I ever seriously dated.

It is far from dating and more a Mulder-Scully type of professional relationship (which our tacky former employer would be unable to comprehend, being used to those Si Valley perverts more than natural scientists).

But I asked a male scientist I met in 2011 (well after my ex husband and I had decided to split up and were merely delaying the final wrench) over email (cced to our stupid admin and my mentor) to get back in touch with me as I am preparing to file malpractice and misconduct allegations against the school. And want to talk to him and give him an in person or over Zoom headsup so those idiots don’t yet again try to shift blame using their pathetic corporate strategies. But they are awful and would use stupid strategies at a time when selective “kobayashi maru” is the way forward.

A less positive story than yours MarineCombatEngineer, but that is how Ol’jfz9580m rolls .

How is your granddaughter? Did she end up finishing her first job? Those vehicles are scary to drive. I never liked driving much even in our old Maruti Suzuki I think it was. It is a small car. But the streets where I live in India are pretty narrow and difficult to navigate even when thankfully desolate. So to her.

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Just be yourself is the best advice. NoRethugFriends 21 hrs ago #1
Quoting a character in a book: be yourself, everyone else is taken. question everything 20 hrs ago #40
Good luck! Danmel 21 hrs ago #2
NoRethugFriends is absolutely right! Be yourself. And that includes be honest. CaliforniaPeggy 21 hrs ago #3
Thank you, MarineCombatEngineer 21 hrs ago #4
That's the ticket! And by the way, Congrats on your recent Milestone: 18000 posts! ...n/t CaliforniaPeggy 21 hrs ago #6
Best of luck! hurl 21 hrs ago #5
I hope you have a wonderful date and you both enjoy each other's company. LoisB 21 hrs ago #7
wishing you much luck! -eom vanessa_ca 21 hrs ago #8
Good luck man. Eko 21 hrs ago #9
Good luck! Hope you have an enjoyable experience. n/t TygrBright 21 hrs ago #10
Don't think of it as a date! LuckyCharms 21 hrs ago #11
Just relax and be yourself. sheshe2 21 hrs ago #12
Good luck, MarineCombatEngineer. MIButterfly 21 hrs ago #13
Everything you just said . . . tell her that. Just, tell her. Maru Kitteh 21 hrs ago #14
Any dating advice I can get is greatly appreciated. MarineCombatEngineer 21 hrs ago #15
How fun! It sounds like great beginnings. My 88-yr-old mom has an 89-year-old Nixie 21 hrs ago #16
How sweet malaise 20 hrs ago #24
".. They sparked.. " That Spark is so important... Cha 15 hrs ago #104
Wish you luck KT2000 20 hrs ago #17
Apparently, according to my children and grandchildren, MarineCombatEngineer 20 hrs ago #19
This reminds me of a Patricia Neal line from the WW2 movie 'In Harm's Way'-- Jack Valentino 19 hrs ago #50
Not man and 'girl' anymore. nt GenThePerservering 11 min ago #136
Relax, smile just be yourself. Things will go as they should. Srkdqltr 20 hrs ago #18
Wishing you good luck and a fine time, this weekend! calimary 20 hrs ago #20
If you can make her consistently laugh, you're 75% there! Enter stage left 20 hrs ago #21
Have a wonderful time malaise 20 hrs ago #22
Good luck! Both of you deserve happiness and not to be alone. My unasked for advice, be yourself. surfered 20 hrs ago #23
Oh, don't kid yourseld, I am asking for advice. MarineCombatEngineer 20 hrs ago #28
My 2 cents: you are a bright, well rounded chap. Think of it as an opportunity to make a friend Attilatheblond 18 hrs ago #94
"I think be yourself is the worst advice you can give most people" Skittles 20 hrs ago #25
Only if one is actually an 'asshole', and is trying to hide that fact from coming out Jack Valentino 19 hrs ago #54
Myself and, indeed, all of GD canetoad 20 hrs ago #26
Good luck! Grumpy Old Guy 20 hrs ago #27
Have a good time! mountain grammy 20 hrs ago #29
💐🤞🏽 blm 20 hrs ago #30
Remember that she is in the same Figarosmom 20 hrs ago #31
Have fun!! FemDemERA 20 hrs ago #32
Well, Dan 20 hrs ago #33
REAL MEN take responsibility for birth control upon THEMSELVES, Jack Valentino 19 hrs ago #59
Good point Dan 19 hrs ago #75
That sounds delightful! Totally Tunsie 20 hrs ago #34
No, she's never heard of DU and she has zero interest in social media. nt MarineCombatEngineer 19 hrs ago #67
Relax and enjoy yourself! BeneteauBum 20 hrs ago #35
My advice (as a woman in my later years) is try to keep your expectations down to a minimum FakeNoose 20 hrs ago #36
This is the sweetest post in a long time! Love that your kids and grandkids are in on it, too! Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #37
How wonderful for you MCE, dare to hope, dare to dream, and dare to try. JMCKUSICK 20 hrs ago #38
I'm curious. skypilot 20 hrs ago #39
Go in 2 different cars, split the check if she's amendable and have an exit strategy if needed. MarineCombatEngineer 19 hrs ago #69
Seems a little extreme to me, too HighFired49 18 hrs ago #85
Very good advice, and like I told my daughter and granddaughters, MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #86
Best of luck MCE! AloeVera 20 hrs ago #41
Thank you AloeVera, MarineCombatEngineer 19 hrs ago #71
Good luck! My best advice (not that you asked) is RussBLib 20 hrs ago #42
Soldier? SOLDIER? MarineCombatEngineer 19 hrs ago #73
Haven't you watched the "American President" yet? hamsterjill 20 hrs ago #43
My wife tells me woman judge on men's shoes also FHRRK1 19 hrs ago #56
OMG--- no wonder I get no invitations---! Jack Valentino 19 hrs ago #57
All the best jfz9580m 20 hrs ago #44
She finished her first solo with no problems at all, MarineCombatEngineer 19 hrs ago #76
Good luck on your date MustLoveBeagles 20 hrs ago #45
Good On You!!!! BurnDoubt 20 hrs ago #46
OOHRAH!!! COL Mustard 20 hrs ago #47
life is short. do what makes you happy Takket 20 hrs ago #48
You will do fine MCE! Irish_Dem 20 hrs ago #49
Good luck. usedtobedemgurl 19 hrs ago #51
Relax and enjoy the evening Lifeafter70 19 hrs ago #52
You've already had the good luck to meet her. I'm wishing you more. Have a great time! highplainsdem 19 hrs ago #53
First, anywhere you post is perfect. Go with the gut and with everybody wishing you well. Luck. UTUSN 19 hrs ago #55
My advice...since you asked... maspaha 19 hrs ago #58
Did you determine if she's a Dem, or not? Bayard 19 hrs ago #60
She's a dedicated Dem and, yes, we're having dinner together. nt MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #80
She sounds like a keeper! Bayard 5 hrs ago #119
You are a DU-er - what's not to like? Your head must be screwed on right and she will Marie Marie 19 hrs ago #61
Very happy for you. Just be you. Joinfortmill 19 hrs ago #62
Be In The Moment, Not Past, Not Future. 👍🤞 ColoringFool 19 hrs ago #63
I'm JEALOUS !!! I DON'T have a date for this weekend.... Jack Valentino 19 hrs ago #64
Be yourself AverageOldGuy 19 hrs ago #65
Have fun, be real mr715 19 hrs ago #66
Good luck. Gore1FL 19 hrs ago #68
In the book of life kairos12 19 hrs ago #70
Best of luck MCE angrychair 19 hrs ago #72
Good luck! 🍀 ZDU 19 hrs ago #74
Just be yourself and have fun Bettie 19 hrs ago #77
I'll pass along my dad's dating advice: LudwigPastorius 18 hrs ago #78
LOL. MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #81
Like others have said, be yourself. Beacool 18 hrs ago #79
MarneCombatEngineer - you got this. Reading down this thread has left me in smiles and tears. c-rational 18 hrs ago #82
This whole thread is so damn cool. Permanut 18 hrs ago #83
And you will get it. MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #87
Not wishing you luck. I am wishing you a wonderful evening as you niyad 18 hrs ago #84
Thank you and I will give a full report, up to a certain point. MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #88
Well, naturally. You are, after all, a gentleman! I guess that means no videos??? niyad 18 hrs ago #89
LOL, no, no videos or...................... nt MarineCombatEngineer 18 hrs ago #91
Good Luck ChicagoTeamster 18 hrs ago #90
Ha! Good on ya man! Hey Joe 18 hrs ago #92
I'm happy for you! summer_in_TX 18 hrs ago #93
That's wonderful news, best of luck! Talitha 17 hrs ago #95
She's Portuguese so I'm thinking of taking her into Phoenix to a Portuguese restaurant to dine, MarineCombatEngineer 17 hrs ago #96
The restaurant sounds nice, I bet she'll enjoy that. Talitha 17 hrs ago #98
Ha! Best wishes, ED Evolve Dammit 16 hrs ago #101
Man, I hope you have a great time. Arthur_Frain 17 hrs ago #97
Good luck MCE! We are all rooting for you to have a nice night out. Ilikepurple 17 hrs ago #99
It'll be fine Boo1 17 hrs ago #100
I am clueless. DFW 16 hrs ago #102
Have a great time Laurelin 15 hrs ago #103
Good luck! Enjoy yourself. Scrivener7 14 hrs ago #105
My father remarried after my mother's death. NNadir 12 hrs ago #106
Best of luck! viva la 11 hrs ago #107
Thanks for sharing orangecrush 10 hrs ago #108
Is she a Democrat? babylonsister 10 hrs ago #109
This is wonderful. LisaM 9 hrs ago #110
Much good luck MCE 🍀 Clouds Passing 9 hrs ago #111
Good to hear IbogaProject 9 hrs ago #112
Hang in there Cherokee100 8 hrs ago #113
Relax and be natural. If you already clicked when not on a date, you already know the answer. Be yourself. appleannie1 7 hrs ago #114
be you... onethatcares 6 hrs ago #115
Luck! pandr32 6 hrs ago #116
Any advice I give you is worth Old Crank 6 hrs ago #117
What lovely good news! I hope you both fall hopelessly in love! 1WorldHope 5 hrs ago #118
Best wishes for you to both find companionship and happiness. Moostache 4 hrs ago #120
Enjoy Tetrachloride 4 hrs ago #121
Make every day count. Good luck! dalton99a 4 hrs ago #122
Good luck. bluestarone 4 hrs ago #123
Just be yourself. Kid Berwyn 4 hrs ago #124
Well, how long has it been since she's dated? malthaussen 4 hrs ago #125
Aww, good luck! I hope you both have a wonderful time. 50 Shades Of Blue 4 hrs ago #126
Well, how'd it go? mr715 2 hrs ago #127
It's not until this Saturday. nt MarineCombatEngineer 33 min ago #135
I remember the line from Sleepless in Seattle, HeartsCanHope 2 hrs ago #128
Have fun, MCE Niagara 2 hrs ago #129
Just one word Botany 2 hrs ago #130
you won't need luck... markie 1 hr ago #131
Good luck m8! I hope you 2 have a wonderful time! Celerity 1 hr ago #132
Finally, a post that makes us smile! Have fun. Vinca 1 hr ago #133
I wish you all the happiness in the world popsdenver 53 min ago #134
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