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Orrex

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11. I hate to reveal myself as a dumbass, but...

Reply to Stargleamer (Original post)

Sun Mar 22, 2026, 10:44 PM

8 hrs ago

What's a good response in a scenario like the one shown in the video? How do I act/intervene without exposing the woman to greater danger?

I would help in a heartbeat, but in my ignorance I fear that I could could cause greater harm just as fast.

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How many of you know the hand signal that's given by a person in distress? [View all] Stargleamer 10 hrs ago OP

I DO Skittles 10 hrs ago #1

Me too LearnedHand 9 hrs ago #3

And for those who don't do videos... Buns_of_Fire 9 hrs ago #2

But what do those mean? EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #4

"Trap" as in "trap the thumb against your palm with your other fingers." Buns_of_Fire 9 hrs ago #5

Ah thanks. I was misunderstanding that as 3 different signs not just 1 sign EdmondDantes_ 9 hrs ago #6

I think trap means leftieNanner 9 hrs ago #8

Yep. I was overthinking and thought that was 3 different signs EdmondDantes_ 8 hrs ago #13

I get you. It's actually a series of hand movements to create a signal for help. littlemissmartypants 7 hrs ago #19

Thanks. I do videos, BUT.. LisaM 8 hrs ago #14

I do. LoisB 9 hrs ago #7

I do. ZDU 8 hrs ago #9

I do. And I would step in again, as I have in the past. niyad 8 hrs ago #10

I hate to reveal myself as a dumbass, but... Orrex 8 hrs ago #11

That's a good question leftstreet 8 hrs ago #15

The video shows a woman recognizing that hand signal and responding. calimary 7 hrs ago #16

I love that Orrex 7 hrs ago #18

Well, I don't know. But obviously THIS time, the subtle approach was brilliant! calimary 6 hrs ago #21

Hand signal for "Help!" and "Domestic violence" FakeNoose 8 hrs ago #12

Thanks for the heads up Bayard 7 hrs ago #17

I learned about it a few weeks ago and glad I did. MLAA 7 hrs ago #20