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Ilsa

(64,563 posts)
Sat May 16, 2026, 10:12 AM Saturday

I feel like I need to clarify something about Texas Towelie's [View all]

life and passing.

I was single and no kids (SANK!) for ages, with a good job and orderly life when my parents requested my help in looking after Paul. But after I had a family, the majority of his physical and daily care fell on our brother after 2012. Their personality differences made that partnership very difficult for both of them, but it was hardest on Paul. After our parents' "estate" was settled, I was mostly providing emotional support to both brothers.

I didn't want to leave anyone with the impression that I'm a superhero.

All of your kind words have really helped. I've been able to have multiple good cries which gave me so much relief.

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Don't sell yourself short Bettie Saturday #1
Hugs to you Ilsa sdfernando Saturday #2
Exactly understated, the same way a superhero would put it. Doing all you could was a lot. That's what a superhero... marble falls Saturday #3
Thank you for bringing us along on this journey, Ilsa. calimary Saturday #4
Not all superhero folks wear capes! ZDU Saturday #5
Emotional support is what keeps all of us sane, Ilsa UpInArms Saturday #6
It's okay. A steady presence has as much positive effect as a superhero. haele Saturday #7
Just to share FullySupportDems Saturday #8
indeed NJCher Saturday #9
Crying is cathartic. Sharing helps release the tears wnylib Saturday #10
You provided emotional support to your family Niagara Saturday #11
Again, thank you for any support to Paul LetMyPeopleVote Saturday #12
Thank you for sharing. CaptainTruth Saturday #13
You carried an incredible burden, with grace Ilsa. JMCKUSICK Saturday #14
Thank You for sharing. I was unaware of his passing. I often liked and commented on his posts. My condolences. ChicagoTeamster Saturday #15
We can't even be everything for our own selves. IbogaProject Saturday #16
Ilsa, you did everything you could. That makes you a hero. Superheroes are fictional and are only highplainsdem Saturday #17
I've been looking for signs for 3 years. No joy, yet. Ilsa Saturday #18
It's possible you missed some when you were griefstricken. But there are some things that can help highplainsdem Saturday #21
Thanks for this share blue_jay Saturday #23
sometimes the signs are there for us but we don't make the connection to our loved ones. orleans 22 hrs ago #30
That was so funny. Ilsa 17 hrs ago #32
Just want to say that, Through the power of your own words, we know exactly how good a person you are! bluestarone Saturday #19
Wishing you comfort and peace from here on out. You've been through a lot. 10 Turtle Day Saturday #20
You were there for emotional support BeneteauBum Saturday #22
you're a good sister Skittles Saturday #24
You're a wonderful sister. Even given your shock and heartbreak, you came here to let us know. lapucelle Saturday #25
You did what you could MustLoveBeagles Saturday #26
My philosophy... oldsoldierfadingfast Saturday #27
Oh! Missed this. My condolences. electric_blue68 Saturday #28
Oh JustAnotherGen Saturday #29
I am sorry about Texas Towelie.nt jfz9580m 18 hrs ago #31
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