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haele

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7. It's okay. A steady presence has as much positive effect as a superhero.

Reply to Ilsa (Original post)

Sat May 16, 2026, 10:56 AM

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Without a steady presence to act as an anchor against the chaos, others aren't able to collect themselves and go forward.
Being "there", with the ability to stay calm and focused on the process and optimal results is important and critical for others who depend on you.
You did well. That's a superpower in a world that is becoming faster and more reactive.
I'm sorry for your loss. But you being there made your brother's life better for him, and that's a hero's position.

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Don't sell yourself short Bettie Saturday #1

Hugs to you Ilsa sdfernando Saturday #2

Exactly understated, the same way a superhero would put it. Doing all you could was a lot. That's what a superhero... marble falls Saturday #3

Thank you for bringing us along on this journey, Ilsa. calimary Saturday #4

Not all superhero folks wear capes! ZDU Saturday #5

Emotional support is what keeps all of us sane, Ilsa UpInArms Saturday #6

It's okay. A steady presence has as much positive effect as a superhero. haele Saturday #7

Just to share FullySupportDems Saturday #8

indeed NJCher Saturday #9

Crying is cathartic. Sharing helps release the tears wnylib Saturday #10

You provided emotional support to your family Niagara Saturday #11

Again, thank you for any support to Paul LetMyPeopleVote Saturday #12

Thank you for sharing. CaptainTruth Saturday #13

You carried an incredible burden, with grace Ilsa. JMCKUSICK Saturday #14

Thank You for sharing. I was unaware of his passing. I often liked and commented on his posts. My condolences. ChicagoTeamster Saturday #15

We can't even be everything for our own selves. IbogaProject Saturday #16

Ilsa, you did everything you could. That makes you a hero. Superheroes are fictional and are only highplainsdem Saturday #17

I've been looking for signs for 3 years. No joy, yet. Ilsa Saturday #18

It's possible you missed some when you were griefstricken. But there are some things that can help highplainsdem Saturday #21

Thanks for this share blue_jay Saturday #23

sometimes the signs are there for us but we don't make the connection to our loved ones. orleans Yesterday #30

That was so funny. Ilsa Yesterday #32

Just want to say that, Through the power of your own words, we know exactly how good a person you are! bluestarone Saturday #19

Wishing you comfort and peace from here on out. You've been through a lot. 10 Turtle Day Saturday #20

You were there for emotional support BeneteauBum Saturday #22

you're a good sister Skittles Saturday #24

You're a wonderful sister. Even given your shock and heartbreak, you came here to let us know. lapucelle Saturday #25

You did what you could MustLoveBeagles Saturday #26

My philosophy... oldsoldierfadingfast Saturday #27

Oh! Missed this. My condolences. electric_blue68 Saturday #28

Oh JustAnotherGen Saturday #29

I am sorry about Texas Towelie.nt jfz9580m Yesterday #31

I am sorry Ilsa jfz9580m 9 hrs ago #33