I feel like I need to clarify something about Texas Towelie's

[wnylib]

10. Crying is cathartic. Sharing helps release the tears

as you have found.

When my younger sister died, I was unable to do as much for her as I wanted to because of geographocal distance and an inability to get free of other obligations. I felt guilty because, as the older sister, I'd always felt a responsibility to her. I kept in touch through phone calls, letters,and visits when able to get away.

At her memorial service, people who worked and interacted with her daily where she lived told me anecdotes about her that made me cry, but also boosted my spirits. They knew my name when we were introduced because she had spoken to them of her family. I answered each condolence letter and card, crying gallons of tears as I wrote. It got.me through the worst times.

So it is good for you to hear from us how much we appreciated and enjoyed Paul's posts. They were informative. I opened them as soon as I saw his DU name. I knew that his sources were reliable and the content was something we should know. He was a positive force on this board. I think, from what you told us, that he benefited from being here and you were the one who invited him to join. And it allowed you to keep your mother's wish to look after him. Win-win for all -- you, Paul, and DU.