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In reply to the discussion: "Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all]H2O Man
(79,344 posts)is tough. That holds for mothers and fathers. I was a single father, and all of my children are now solid adult citizens. But that wasn't always easy. I was fortunate to have a good group of family and friends that proved helpful. I always had someone I trusted to talk to.
Likewise, over the decades, I've helped connect family and friends with lawyers for separations and divorces. I had no trouble connecting fathers and mothers to good legal representation. I'm friends with a number of lawyers, and that is in part a result of bringing people with all the documentation they need to them.
Now, I'm sure that things are different in different states, but NYS changed its laws in the 1970s, something that Governor Rockefeller pushed through when the head of his security whenever he left Albany was getting a divorce and wanted full custody of his three children.