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34. "Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job."
Wed Jun 3, 2026, 10:56 PM
4 hrs ago

I would add ‘…and take care of their parents like they had no kids and no job’.

We were lucky…my mother was in a great nursing home on Medicaid and my mother-in-law could afford a good assisted living facility. But many families can’t do that, and the burden of care often falls primarily on the women in the family.

This will get much worse once the Medicaid cuts in the Big Crappy Bill go into effect, since the majority of nursing home patients are on Medicaid and will be kicked out of their nursing homes and returned to their families - if they are lucky enough to have them. From what I’ve seen, most nursing home patients require 24/7 specialized care, which is impossible to provide in a home environment. I find this all unbearably cruel.

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Bookmarked!!! IA8IT 9 hrs ago #1
Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 9 hrs ago #2
What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 7 hrs ago #15
A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 6 hrs ago #16
never heard of it Celerity 6 hrs ago #20
I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 6 hrs ago #23
One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 3 hrs ago #37
Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles 9 hrs ago #3
Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 8 hrs ago #5
Spot on. Raven123 8 hrs ago #4
So Far Timewas 8 hrs ago #6
Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 6 hrs ago #25
Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven 5 hrs ago #31
I lived those days Lifeafter70 4 hrs ago #33
BTW StoolPigeon 8 hrs ago #7
Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 8 hrs ago #9
Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad 7 hrs ago #12
Being a single parent H2O Man 6 hrs ago #19
Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 6 hrs ago #26
Sounds serious Torchlight 5 hrs ago #28
Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 4 hrs ago #35
And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate 8 hrs ago #8
OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv 6 hrs ago #17
huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad 6 hrs ago #21
I feel it for you malaise 6 hrs ago #22
So sorry. paleotn 5 hrs ago #27
We are here for you, V SheltieLover 5 hrs ago #30
If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 5 hrs ago #32
Thanks... slightlv 2 hrs ago #38
So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 1 hr ago #40
Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 1 hr ago #41
my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles 7 hrs ago #10
And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 7 hrs ago #11
And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 7 hrs ago #13
Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 6 hrs ago #18
I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 7 hrs ago #14
As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 6 hrs ago #24
Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 5 hrs ago #29
"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 4 hrs ago #34
GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 4 hrs ago #36
"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 2 hrs ago #39
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