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BainsBane

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164. Actually it would not have resulted in a ban

Wed Dec 4, 2013, 05:24 PM

Dec 2013

I can see you've never served on MIRT. You evidently ignored your friends in the men's group calling redqueen an "attention whore," multiple times. No one was banned over that. Nor are they banned over calling women "c...ts," unless the person happens to be a new member.

I have no intention of defending TA's comments. As I made clear, I've had her on ignore for months. You, on the other hand, ignore misogyny and direct your anger toward women. That you can even claim that comments like that from men result in PPRing tell me just how removed from reality you are. There have been three male members banned for misogyny since I have been back on DU, and all three tried very hard to get those bans. You are frequently vitriolic because some women have the audacity to argue that rape porn is not harmless, or point to issues of rape culture you want to pretend only exist in the Muslim world. You show yourself to more outraged that someone sees a link between rape porn, rape culture, and rape than actual violence against women. Women have a right to disagree with men and disagree with you, no matter how odious you may find that concept.

Additionally, if you think Skinner and EarlG are bigoted against men, you should take the issue up with them. It is they and they alone who make decisions about banning members with over 100 posts.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] ismnotwasm Dec 2013 OP

"do the little things" pintobean Dec 2013 #1

They mean a lot.... monmouth3 Dec 2013 #4

definetly hate the clingers, loli phabay Dec 2013 #2

They're the worst Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #9

That's another reason why I'm so adorable BainsBane Dec 2013 #197

I understand your fear of rejection Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #200

Oh that's it. BainsBane Dec 2013 #202

A two-drink maximum???? Where is this going?....n/t monmouth3 Dec 2013 #3

cheap date at only two drinks. loli phabay Dec 2013 #5

Certainly not me. EOTE Dec 2013 #6

"Independent" NuclearDem Dec 2013 #7

i think they mean independant as in they have their own life ie dont cling loli phabay Dec 2013 #24

What kind of life though? NuclearDem Dec 2013 #35

well do what they want outside of the relationship i presume loli phabay Dec 2013 #38

I have said the word 'yes' on several occasions. HappyMe Dec 2013 #8

psychotic broken $800 ipad rant maxsolomon Dec 2013 #11

Holy crap! HappyMe Dec 2013 #14

Definitely a crime pintobean Dec 2013 #15

lol!! That's true. HappyMe Dec 2013 #18

Advice only an a-hole could displense TroglodyteScholar Dec 2013 #10

Gross. Iggo Dec 2013 #12

Interesting ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #13

Same Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #16

.. ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #20

Couldn't be more transparent BainsBane Dec 2013 #32

I'd like to add... mike_c Dec 2013 #17

Probably have better luck at Rimjob's place Fumesucker Dec 2013 #19

I did a google image search on your picture to help you find originator, look what I found snooper2 Dec 2013 #21

god i love the dead pan humor in the ecards. loli phabay Dec 2013 #23

Is he her dad or something? Lex Dec 2013 #22

It's paternalism, plain and simple. Hence the "dad" vibe. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #156

He probably posts in the same area where it's cool to refer to women in dog terms. n/t LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #25

bazinga, for the alltime mf win. loli phabay Dec 2013 #26

For the WIN! HappyMe Dec 2013 #27

Does that mean you'll actually hide the reference BainsBane Dec 2013 #30

How do you know I don't? HappyMe Dec 2013 #33

that post was tragic in so many ways. loli phabay Dec 2013 #34

Yes, it is. HappyMe Dec 2013 #36

The owner of that post Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #40

She's made them against me BainsBane Dec 2013 #108

That doesn't exclude here. BainsBane Dec 2013 #29

It definitely includes DU. HappyMe Dec 2013 #31

What a horrible fucking attack Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #37

I should keep a file BainsBane Dec 2013 #39

Your anecdotes are more than enough evidence Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #41

of what? BainsBane Dec 2013 #43

Where are all these posts using the nasty words? HappyMe Dec 2013 #45

I've posted about some in ATA BainsBane Dec 2013 #51

She's given you several anecdotes in this thread Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #55

Yeah. Silly me. HappyMe Dec 2013 #58

Now that's not fair Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #64

Oh, is this the old talking about the existence of misogyny BainsBane Dec 2013 #63

No, this is the old "You talking about shit you claim to have happened is not the same thing as EOTE Dec 2013 #65

No, it's not. HappyMe Dec 2013 #75

Your anecdotes are more than enough evidence Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #46

That "women are the source of all evil" BainsBane Dec 2013 #48

Evidence: Here is some of BB Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #157

Aw, poor you BainsBane Dec 2013 #163

hahah, right, whatever you want to spin Katashi_itto Dec 2013 #214

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #44

Are you referring to the poster you linked to? BainsBane Dec 2013 #47

I posted the link to her lovely HappyMe Dec 2013 #49

Which violates community standards BainsBane Dec 2013 #53

I haven't seen any posts using the word 'bitch'. HappyMe Dec 2013 #60

It wasn't just TA LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #69

Isn't that special. HappyMe Dec 2013 #73

LOL. polly7 Dec 2013 #80

Funny, I saw you use the word BainsBane Dec 2013 #95

"Pat" you mean? LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #110

no, the term for a female dog BainsBane Dec 2013 #112

"It's a bitch finding the right size replacement needle for them" LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #115

No one BainsBane Dec 2013 #116

I did? That's interesting. It's a word I rarely use. LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #118

Why am I the only one here who can do a search? BainsBane Dec 2013 #121

You realize most of those are from other people in the threads? LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #124

not all BainsBane Dec 2013 #128

Because I pay attention to post histories LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #134

Actually it would not have resulted in a ban BainsBane Dec 2013 #164

Step away from the mirror. nt. polly7 Dec 2013 #170

I said nothing about MIRT LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #190

Your refusal to debate in good faith is noted BainsBane Dec 2013 #220

If I didn't notice who posted this pintobean Dec 2013 #221

Why would you think BainsBane Dec 2013 #222

*snort* LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #226

ROFL!! polly7 Dec 2013 #230

+1,000. polly7 Dec 2013 #232

This time, it's more laugh than ill, thank goodness LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #260

Ha! So you admit it! Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #129

Massive fail. polly7 Dec 2013 #126

LOL. We're all capable of doing searches. We're also capable of taking things in context. EOTE Dec 2013 #155

a search is so easy to do BainsBane Dec 2013 #96

Were those words directed at another DU member? maddezmom Dec 2013 #50

Yes, in a couple of cases BainsBane Dec 2013 #52

Well I would hope you alerted admin to the ones that were directed at DU members maddezmom Dec 2013 #54

Yet when those slurs are about fat shaming BainsBane Dec 2013 #59

Sorry but there is plenty of fat shaming and homophobic posts that get a pass by juries as well maddezmom Dec 2013 #61

I find those homophobic insinuations offensive BainsBane Dec 2013 #92

It gets hostile responses because it's a sly call out to DU men ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #165

But calling out DU women, no problem. BainsBane Dec 2013 #167

That post sucks. ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #169

Truthfully, I'm not sure what that OP's take on the matter is BainsBane Dec 2013 #172

Whatever the case....wonder if they post here? is bullshit. ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #175

not if you think that's how your mate should behave BainsBane Dec 2013 #176

Apparently a woman wrote the op's meme ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #181

I think very young women (in their 20s) might BainsBane Dec 2013 #182

A list is a list ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #183

the point was not lists BainsBane Dec 2013 #185

I have no issue with the lists, lists are fine ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #187

Okay, I'll concede the lists point BainsBane Dec 2013 #191

Or the one where it's perfectly fine to refer to women in insulting ways. polly7 Dec 2013 #42

Oh, but that's different. HappyMe Dec 2013 #56

For such an ardent board feminist... Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #91

It's just plain old hypocricy, not a single male on this board or any other polly7 Dec 2013 #101

"it would last about 2 seconds in RL" Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #107

Having one's illusions shattered isn't often a pleasant thing Fumesucker Dec 2013 #195

Heh. +1 n/t lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #57

Is that the group with the MattBaggins Dec 2013 #186

Hmm. I wonder . . . BainsBane Dec 2013 #28

Oh my GOD what have I done? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #62

You wanted your thread to sink like a stone? EOTE Dec 2013 #66

You hit way too close to home BainsBane Dec 2013 #67

Apparently so. ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #83

Sure you did Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #70

Meh ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #74

I suppose the HOF members Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #77

It's not us, Capt. Obvious ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #82

Well there was this one first thing this am when I signed on maddezmom Dec 2013 #87

There were a number of other threads on porn too BainsBane Dec 2013 #93

Sure they are.... maddezmom Dec 2013 #103

Actually I did ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #102

Talk about obsessed BainsBane Dec 2013 #86

Aren't you just the most adorable thing Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #100

I am actually BainsBane Dec 2013 #106

I'm sure I'm not the only one Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #194

On pins and needles BainsBane Dec 2013 #196

Assuming there's an answer Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #199

I wonder who holds the record for most ATA questions ignored? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #217

Didn't sink? Overreaction is like that. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #71

I was outraged? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #78

When did it turn to shit? pintobean Dec 2013 #72

When it got hostile ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #76

It was more of an observation pintobean Dec 2013 #79

Then I'm confused, but ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #81

It's now come down to denouncing thought crime BainsBane Dec 2013 #89

Oh ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #94

What a load of crap. pintobean Dec 2013 #117

Sorry about that, your right. pintobean Dec 2013 #98

I hardly ever alert ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #104

Now you've done it! 500 reply thread on the way! Rex Dec 2013 #85

Fuck ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #90

Oh my! Wide eyed innocence! HappyMe Dec 2013 #99

No you don't understand ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #109

That was just genuinely funny. Thank you! xulamaude Dec 2013 #141

So it goes from wanting independance...to saying yes. Rex Dec 2013 #68

He left out, walk three paces behind me. Just kidding of course. The only one I go along with brewens Dec 2013 #84

In other words, make your entire existence centered around him notadmblnd Dec 2013 #88

To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him FatBuddy Dec 2013 #97

I'm curious.... Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #105

Oh HELL no ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #113

So, you like your men drunk and slutty? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #119

I don't have a list of proper attributes for him no. ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #127

Fascinating Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #131

No, the list specifically says "not slutty" BainsBane Dec 2013 #198

I guess that was only 2nd best to "no humiliation"? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #203

My "team" BainsBane Dec 2013 #206

See post 210. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #218

Misandry BainsBane Dec 2013 #227

Did the other thread OP lie about the origin of whatever was posted? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #228

It was identical BainsBane Dec 2013 #235

Three shots of mstinamotorcity2 Dec 2013 #111

So long as she also dusts lightbulbs OldHippieChick Dec 2013 #114

I can't take all this fighting! ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #120

It really is over the top. *Somebody's* upset about *something*, even if I'm not sure nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #166

Either you're being sarcastic, or you don't remember my response to you Monday. RiffRandell Dec 2013 #244

where is this going? GeorgeGist Dec 2013 #122

Exactly ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #125

How to be a man women love. ananda Dec 2013 #123

+1 ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #130

Do women makes lists of things that they love in men? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #132

Really? I thought people grew out of that by age 22 at the latest? BainsBane Dec 2013 #135

What makes you think the one who wrote the list above was over 22? EOTE Dec 2013 #136

Do you know the age of the person who wrote the OP? Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #137

So the OP is right BainsBane Dec 2013 #139

'He'? polly7 Dec 2013 #140

Hahahaha BUSTED! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #146

You're welcome! polly7 Dec 2013 #250

This was written by a woman? EOTE Dec 2013 #147

Links please. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #144

OMG. No I am not saying you wrote it. BainsBane Dec 2013 #152

Hey BB, take it up with divinecaroline! Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #154

Haven't we been? BainsBane Dec 2013 #160

You asked for links BainsBane Dec 2013 #161

Yeah...but, now that we know the truth about where it came from... Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #168

What truth? BainsBane Dec 2013 #171

LOL! polly7 Dec 2013 #178

This thread? pintobean Dec 2013 #192

That was amazing Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #207

Who is the sock? Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #193

Was adogslife maddezmom Dec 2013 #201

Thank you Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #205

Wow....using a sock account to abuse the alert function. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #209

I always check in when these threads happen Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #210

They're not fooling anybody. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #213

Not only dishonest.. Used to be a bannable offense as well... opiate69 Dec 2013 #245

and don't tell a woman she isn't a real feminist BainsBane Dec 2013 #133

That's the part that really makes me facepalm. I mean, sure, disagree with somebody all you want. nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #223

I would never do that BainsBane Dec 2013 #224

It's basically the equivalent of knocking over the chess pieces and saying "I win!" nomorenomore08 Dec 2013 #225

So then, you repudiate this idiotic cartoon, yes? opiate69 Dec 2013 #238

That's not my post BainsBane Dec 2013 #239

+222 treestar Dec 2013 #174

^^^women should be more like this^^^ MattBaggins Dec 2013 #188

This seems to have come from an article in 'divine caroline', polly7 Dec 2013 #138

The author is female? 1000words Dec 2013 #142

It appears that way. polly7 Dec 2013 #143

Did you see this one? maddezmom Dec 2013 #145

I did! Thanks maddezmom, it is like bad Cosmo lol. polly7 Dec 2013 #150

There's a lesson here, I think. 1000words Dec 2013 #148

There's always a lesson. EOTE Dec 2013 #153

Whoops! ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #177

BWAHAHAHA! LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #158

Oh shi- LittleBlue Dec 2013 #216

LOL. This was written by a woman. EOTE Dec 2013 #149

Yes, I'm sure she does post here lillypaddle Dec 2013 #151

fitman ? JI7 Dec 2013 #159

No doubt BainsBane Dec 2013 #162

It's all about control treestar Dec 2013 #173

erm, it was written seemingly by a woman, who am i to lambast her list. loli phabay Dec 2013 #179

So, that's how the right wing rolls treestar Dec 2013 #266

uhhh, no. polly7 Dec 2013 #180

Apparently it's a list of how to attract a man.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #184

Actually, if you read some of the subthreads, it appears much more likely that it's a women's list. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #212

Just another pintobean Dec 2013 #215

It boils down to you getting this exactly, precisely 180 degrees wrong. DisgustipatedinCA Dec 2013 #231

Oh, don't forget this one! frogmarch Dec 2013 #189

I can't speak for other men, but Jamaal510 Dec 2013 #204

those are the kids of guys who claim they "don't know how to talk around women" Skittles Dec 2013 #208

That's kind of messed-up alarimer Dec 2013 #211

This is a rather misleading OP Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #219

It looks as if he is a she. Sissyk Dec 2013 #229

The continuing saga of "Teh menz suck" posts... nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #233

The ease at which some immediately jumped to a desired conclusion is most telling here 1000words Dec 2013 #234

So I'll be seeing this same denunciation BainsBane Dec 2013 #241

Well.. If it turns out that the person who trashed that ipad was a guy, then yeah... opiate69 Dec 2013 #247

I'm not sure how it matters who wrote the list or scratched out the IPad BainsBane Dec 2013 #249

It matters, because.. opiate69 Dec 2013 #251

Did she assume it was written by a man? BainsBane Dec 2013 #252

"I wonder if he posts here?" polly7 Dec 2013 #253

What is the meaning of the thread title then? Fumesucker Dec 2013 #254

So you think the woman (if it is a woman) who scratched out the Ipad actually posts here? BainsBane Dec 2013 #256

The assumption was clearly that a man wrote the piece in this OP Fumesucker Dec 2013 #258

So I'll see posts in that thread where you object to that OP as well? BainsBane Dec 2013 #261

I haven't "objected" to ~any~ OP, in fact I recced this one just for the entertainment factor Fumesucker Dec 2013 #265

I know English can be a confusing language, but... opiate69 Dec 2013 #255

Yeah, somehow I didn't take it literally BainsBane Dec 2013 #257

No, I don't. And to be perfectly honest, I didn't even see that thread until I was probably 4 posts opiate69 Dec 2013 #262

What did you all do in English literature class? BainsBane Dec 2013 #259

Do let me know when opiate69 Dec 2013 #263

LOL BainsBane Dec 2013 #264

Rec for assumption fail.... opiate69 Dec 2013 #236

Except for the posters BainsBane Dec 2013 #240

Care to point 'em out? Cause, I ain't seein 'em. opiate69 Dec 2013 #242

Certainly BainsBane Dec 2013 #243

Yeah... Not exactly ringing endorsements... opiate69 Dec 2013 #246

Hardly BainsBane Dec 2013 #248

Somebody needs to start making a list of these faceplants. Bonobo Dec 2013 #237

Oh FFS ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #267