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Sparkly

(24,938 posts)
Tue May 12, 2026, 07:04 PM Yesterday

Update: Still stage 4, still alive, now on Enhertu [View all]

Hi DU friends!

Just checking in! I made it past another birthday, and more happily, I made it to my miracle granddaughter's second!!!

I still have serous endometrial carcinoma metastasized to my lungs. It never even reached a lymph node, but Kaiser made me wait so long for surgery from an in-network surgeon when it was first diagnosed, it got through the pelvic wall and into my bloodstream, apparently. I will never stop wishing I'd insisted harder, or offered to travel or something, anything, but I did all the pleading I could. Too late now.

Regrets aside, the cancer is still HER2-positive, which means it can be treated with Herceptin (Trastuzumab), a monoclonal antibody, but that stopped working. Enhertu adds deruxtecan, which is the chemo "payload," so it's an "antibody-drug conjugate" (ADC).

The chemo is not as bad as carbotaxol. It causes fatigue and nausea, and some people lose all their hair (mine has thinned a bit). The good news is my tumors were smaller on the last scan. Dangerous side effects happen to lungs and heart and I had a little scare there -- some odd "nodules" like bronchiolitis (?) that made me afraid they were going to stop my infusions -- but a pulmonologist said they didn't look like Enhertu caused them, and I think I'm okay.

Hope all of you and yours are doing well, too! Every day matters. Hang in there!!

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How wonderful to see your granddaughter's 2nd birthday! And your birthday, too!!!! Solly Mack Yesterday #1
Thanks! Sparkly 22 hrs ago #29
💐🫶🏽 blm Yesterday #2
Thanks, blm Sparkly 22 hrs ago #30
Fuck kaiser and all private insurers that make their money by withholding treatment questionseverything Yesterday #3
Being around this long Sparkly 22 hrs ago #31
'Thrilled to get this update, Sparkly! hlthe2b Yesterday #4
Thank you Sparkly 22 hrs ago #32
Good to hear that you made it to your granddaughter's B-day! senseandsensibility Yesterday #5
Afraid to hope to make it to her 3rd Sparkly 21 hrs ago #33
Sending you big hugs and the best of all wishes. erronis Yesterday #6
We pull for each other! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #34
Hugs to you Chicagogrl1 Yesterday #7
Back atcha! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #35
Best thoughts!!! Hang in there. We're with you! paleotn Yesterday #8
Thanks! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #36
Stay strong, dear Sparkly Grim Chieftain Yesterday #9
Much appreciated, GC Sparkly 21 hrs ago #37
You're certainly on a stressful and dramatic journey. Fla Dem Yesterday #10
I have amazing sisters Sparkly 21 hrs ago #38
Good luck with the treatment. I'm at a scientific meeting... NNadir Yesterday #11
That's really good to hear, NNadir Sparkly 21 hrs ago #39
So glad you are still alive and was able to celebrate another birthday and that of LoisB Yesterday #12
I hope so! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #40
Oh, my. Glad you are ok. Prayed for you. Can't hurt, right? Joinfortmill Yesterday #13
Thank you for praying for me!! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #41
Oh, my, what a profound experience. Joinfortmill 14 hrs ago #61
Keep that infectious spirit BaronChocula Yesterday #14
I'll sure try! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #42
A big hug for you, Sparkly. sheshe2 Yesterday #15
Aw, back atcha sheshe Sparkly 21 hrs ago #43
So glad you had a happy birthday and got to see your precious grandaughter's 2nd! SheltieLover Yesterday #16
Me, too Sparkly 21 hrs ago #44
Thank you for updating us! I'm happy for you that you spooky3 Yesterday #17
Vibes welcome Sparkly 21 hrs ago #45
++++++ spooky3 19 hrs ago #59
Thanks fo the update Sparkly.. mountain grammy Yesterday #18
As positive as it can be right now Sparkly 21 hrs ago #46
It's good to see progress. It's quite an eye opener to find yourself going through this is my guess. 1WorldHope Yesterday #19
Yes and yes Sparkly 21 hrs ago #47
So Sparkly married Stinky. You two must be fun! 1WorldHope 10 hrs ago #67
In such a time of stress and uncertainty, you seem to brer cat Yesterday #20
I try, brer cat Sparkly 21 hrs ago #48
Happy birthday, and may this be the year that your scans show NO tumors. Scrivener7 Yesterday #21
Who knows? Sparkly 21 hrs ago #49
Keep up the fight ms.pamela 23 hrs ago #22
Good perspective Sparkly 21 hrs ago #50
Sending warm thoughts and good energy to you, dear Sparkly. Sparkle on! 💕 MLAA 23 hrs ago #23
I like that motto Sparkly 21 hrs ago #51
Agree! And was likely in the name of our eye shadow! MLAA 10 hrs ago #64
Yep! Every day matters! calimary 23 hrs ago #24
Thanks, calimary!! Sparkly 21 hrs ago #52
Best wishes for your continued improvement. sinkingfeeling 23 hrs ago #25
Thanks Sparkly 21 hrs ago #53
🫂 to you and your family. mwmisses4289 23 hrs ago #26
Thank you, mwmisses Sparkly 21 hrs ago #54
Happy Birthday, Sparkly gademocrat7 22 hrs ago #27
I shall try Sparkly 21 hrs ago #55
Sparkly, you're a beautiful, and courageous soul. Cha 22 hrs ago #28
Oh, Cha!!! Sparkly 20 hrs ago #56
Yes, I 've found that to be perfectly true Cha 20 hrs ago #57
Sending healing vibes and hugs. HeartsCanHope 19 hrs ago #58
Keep on going, Sparkly. democrank 16 hrs ago #60
Glad to hear you are hanging in there, fighting. Trueblue Texan 14 hrs ago #62
Prayers for miracles 🙏🏼 Sparkly Clouds Passing 11 hrs ago #63
Every day is a good day Wild blueberry 10 hrs ago #65
Sparkly, I remember your name from way back - TBF 10 hrs ago #66
Grand to hear from you, Sparkly! babylonsister 9 hrs ago #68
Keep the positivity going BeneteauBum 4 hrs ago #69
💘💔💖💗💓💞Sending healing prayers. 58Sunliner 3 hrs ago #70
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