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Mental Health Support

Goddessartist

(2,067 posts)

19. Oh my friend

Reply to debm55 (Reply #2)

Mon Dec 4, 2023, 09:24 AM

Dec 2023

please don't feel guilty about cutting them off! Tell them why when you do it! Let them know, then cut them off!

Especially that nasty 'grandmother'. My Goddess, that's just horrible!

When I finally let a few of them back in, I let them know what exactly their roles were in what happened. They hung their heads and tried to make up for their actions and words. I let them back in, with conditions. I answer them when and if I want to. I forgive them (that's for me) and now have a relationship with 4 of the 5 remaining siblings. It took 4 deaths in our family for this to happen, really. Kindness is all that really matters.

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I read a post in the Lounge about what nice things parents have said to posters. One post triggered me. I came from [View all] debm55 Dec 2023 OP

I'm so very sorry deb. Goddessartist Dec 2023 #1

thank you, thank you but I feel guilty about doing it. There was one more---- debm55 Dec 2023 #2

Oh my friend Goddessartist Dec 2023 #19

What did you do for the holidays? Last year I crochet four queen size afghans . Was told it was Jesus' birthday and they debm55 Dec 2023 #3

You are my Hero Grey Dec 2023 #16

We had a great Thanksgiving! Goddessartist Dec 2023 #18

So sorry for you. applegrove Dec 2023 #4

Thank you. I am trying to hang in there debm55 Dec 2023 #5

As they say"when you are going through hell, KEEP GOING!" applegrove Dec 2023 #7

Oh Deb, I wish I could give you a big hug. badhair77 Dec 2023 #6

Thank you, badhair77 debm55 Dec 2023 #8

I'm so sorry Deb. Diamond_Dog Dec 2023 #9

Thank you Diamond_Dog. When I post in the Lounge I sometimes leave out "the rest of the story" However, Christmas and debm55 Dec 2023 #12

I personally know how difficult it is to deal with trauma from this type of family situation. democrank Dec 2023 #10

Thank you for your support. debm55 Dec 2023 #13

There are a lot of evil people in your life. Deuxcents Dec 2023 #11

The sad thing I was so together--left at 18 went to college on a scholarship, got married. But I was brought up on Honor debm55 Dec 2023 #14

Your self esteem has been compromised so it's time to take it back Deuxcents Dec 2023 #15

You are loved here. multigraincracker Dec 2023 #17

My mom had terrible parents. hunter Dec 2023 #20