Hoarding Disorder: A Looming National Crisis?

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8. My wife is deeply in

and our house is deeply filled with stuff as a consequence. I have basically raised the white flag and given up reasoning with her. The entire downstairs of our two story except for a small space for my food prep is filled. Our bedroom is also filled with stuff as well as much of my daughter's room (she has her own place but sleeps at home most of the time - another issue).

I do have my own hoarding issues when it comes to books. It has been several years since I have gotten any physical books except those related to my profession, but I do have a difficult time parting with them.

She collects cards, notes, and newspapers. She can't get rid of anything without serious personal reflection on every item. She continues to purchase cards which she doesn't use. She refuses to put in any effort to actually organize it. Every surface (table and floor) is covered.

Tried couple's therapy and that was a disaster. She has other personal demons that she discussed when she met with a therapist one on one last year (a childhood trauma).

My approach has been loving acceptance and just trying to accommodate. Not sure what happens when the paths in the home eventually close up.