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OldBaldy1701E

(7,549 posts)
Sun Dec 8, 2024, 07:18 PM Dec 2024

So, since you folks are the only people I talk to other than my husband... [View all]

I guess I should tell you about earlier. My husband and I were eating a late lunch (or an early dinner, depending on your practices) and I was talking about a conversation I had with my younger brother. We were talking about the game Dungeons and Dragons and I was bemoaning the fact that each successive version of the game was just another money grab and a desire to explain every single thing about how to play the game, thus removing a lot of the imagination that used to make the game so much fun. He suddenly turns on me and starts berating me about how else could a D&D movie get made without the various versions. I am still not exactly sure what he was talking about, but what I took away from it was that he decided to jump in my shit for what amounted to no reason. I could tell he was in a mood today, but he has been in a mood for several months now.

I have no one else. What can I do when he gets like this? He is like talking to a tree trunk most of the time. I often feel that we dangle on the precipice of the canyon of silence where spouses look at each other but won't communicate and finally fall apart because neither will open up. I love him. I don't want him to be mad at me. I do want him to be more attentive and aware of reality. He seems to want to hide. I have already spent eight years living with someone who wants desperately to hide from reality. It has led to many issues. Too many. I don't want to deal with the idea that the man I love is turning into that man-child, but the evidence is building. I am scared enough without this happening as well.

I am still very confused as to why they can and will put down an animal for what is sometimes a simple thing, but they just won't extend to humans the same courtesy. Very confused.

It is always funny to me that I cry all the time, but when I really need to, I can't

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so how can you love someone who treats you like crap? NoRethugFriends Dec 2024 #1
He is also going through some really bad things. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #4
I've often wondered the same thing. It's like they are two very different things, but I don't see them that way. Biophilic Dec 2024 #2
It is interesting that you say this. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #11
No, not too much to ask. Biophilic Dec 2024 #31
huggggggs. Sometimes it just hurts too much to cry. One is afraid that, once niyad Dec 2024 #3
I have been grappling with that thought. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #22
I'm sorry wryter2000 Dec 2024 #5
Yep. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #13
I felt that way living in Maryland Wicked Blue Dec 2024 #18
Hehe, we are opposites. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #23
Just re-watched Stutz on Netflix. He has a tool for this. mahina Dec 2024 #6
And maybe if it's right telling him you're extracting yourself from the conversation because you won't be spoken to that mahina Dec 2024 #7
I don't have the answer XanaDUer2 Dec 2024 #8
A hug right back to you! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #14
Does he have a doctor? multigraincracker Dec 2024 #9
We both need to see one. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #15
Call the social worker at senior cntr XanaDUer2 Dec 2024 #16
I understand. Try this, look up CBT for anxiety to start with. multigraincracker Dec 2024 #25
I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation. MLAA Dec 2024 #10
He recently 'lost' his sister to a church. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #17
Oh, sweetheart! In my experience you cannot fix another person or persons! MLAA Dec 2024 #20
Is there a senior center near you? SheltieLover Dec 2024 #12
Guess what? OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #19
Well, you could talk to your doc about him. SheltieLover Dec 2024 #21
may I ask your age bracket, are you anywhere near Medicare eligibility? Skittles Dec 2024 #26
Not yet. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #28
actually the initial age for Medicare is still 65 Skittles Dec 2024 #30
Quick clarification. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #24
Take a deep breath, smile, and say " You may be right". And move on... No Vested Interest Dec 2024 #27
That is basically what I did. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #29
How are you today? Nt XanaDUer2 Dec 2024 #32
Trying to act like I am in the holiday spirit while falling behind on getting stuff done. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #33
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Dec 2024 #34
Thanks. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #35
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