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quakerboy

(14,263 posts)
11. Tough situation
Fri Jan 3, 2025, 03:46 PM
Jan 3

Two questions to start.

Have you reached out to contact the guardian?

What financial resources does your daughter have?

If you havnt done the first, I'd reccomend doing so. Very politely. Bury any frustration, concerns, and just scout for what you can learn. Hope for the best, but assume that they will be documenting any contact you make.

Being fair to them, you have no idea what she has said to those around her about you. Or how staff interpret her behavior after a call. They may well not have any real info. Care facilities are almost never even close to as organized as we'd like, so there's no way to know if the guardian is even aware of your contacts or the items you send. Or if they are getting to her.

If you get frozen out there, then it's time to get court records for why you are blocked. And maybe a lawyer to challenge it.

As for the second.. motivation. If there's not a trust fund or significant resources, the chances the guardian is in it for the money drops alot. There are many good guardians, most are at least well meaning. But there are some that are dodgy.

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