My daughter has lost half of her life and all of her life and all of her young adult life to this mental illness which has taken over her life. I would have thought by age 33 she would have graduated college, been married with a couple of kids and I would visit her for birthdays and holidays. But schizoaffective is a 2 for 1 mental illness having schizophrenia and bipolar. I did get a good idea what may be the source of my no contact with my daughter when she emailed me once and wondered why her mother hated me so much. And I now her mother has the ear of the court appointed guardian. She has had several court appointed guardians who are corporate guardians and it depended where in the state she was living and at which mental healthcare facility or group home she was at. I do know that her mother does communicate with this particular guardian and has her ear. And in an email my daughter wrote me that she wondered why her mother hated me so much.
But I never thought this situation would go on as long as it has, that she would pass through this particular mental healthcare center as she has before and move on the a group home and independent living and at the group home she would get her phone and laptop back and we would be able to communicate and see each other again.
As for getting a lawyer goes, I did say in my OP that I was poor and on SS. My daughter is poor and on SSI which has mostly been taken from her since she is in a mental healthcare facility. She has had a lawyer from years ago when she was assaulted by the city police when she was having a breakdown on the city streets and she was convinced to voluntarily get into the back of the squad car to be taken to the nearby hospital. When they drove into the ER bay she was afraid to get out of the car because she thought the police would hurt her, and then they did when one dragged her out of the car and twisted her arm, breaking it in 2 places with a spiral fracture after which she was strapped to a gurney. The police were never punished for this but her lawyer said the DA called them morons for not letting hospital personnel handle things since they were in the ER bay.
I have tried to contact this lawyer again by calling his office with no success. I have gone to the office he shares with a couple of other lawyers but nobody has been there although I can see all the office furniture through the front window until just last week I could see it was cleared out altogether. A Google search still gives his office previous to the most recent one.
But as I have said in my OP, sending her things through Amazon was my way of having contact with her because whoever delivered they, they came anonymous and were never returned. I could send her a box of Lil Debbie oatmeal pies, one of her favorites, and Amazon would deliver them for free. Two birthdays and Christmases. She had always been able to open cards and presents herself in the presence of a staff member even if she could not keep them in her room. Now there is no longer even that connection and I'm at the point in my life now at age 72 I'm sensing the sand running out of the hourglass of my life and I fear that my daughter and I are running out of opportunities to ever be together again. If I were to stop sending even the mostly small things I send and can afford to send I'm sure she would wonder if I'm ok or even still alive. How can the U.S. Mail not allow addressed mail to be delivered, or a staff receptionist to sign for a package for a patient they know may not be even receiving it. I want my daughter to know that I am still here and still trying and in the 33 years we've been father and daughter I never, ever believed we could be separated this way.
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