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Mental Health Support

UniqueUserName

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8. I am sorry that you went through that.

Reply to BlueKota (Original post)

Wed Apr 9, 2025, 07:42 PM

Apr 9

I think you can love someone and never forgive them for an action. It's perfectly fine and normal to have mixed feelings about anyone.

You saying that your mom's father* was cruel reminds me of this video from Crazy-Ex Girlfriend, Nothing is Ever Anyone's Fault:

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*If it isn't too personal, is there a reason you said that your mom had a "cruel father", rather than referencing him more directly? Like, "My grandfather was really cruel to my mom. . ."

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 9 OP

Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 9 #1

Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 9 #4

My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 9 #2

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 9 #5

You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 9 #3

Thank you! BlueKota Apr 9 #6

I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 9 #9

I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 9 #13

It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 10 #16

My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 9 #7

I feel you, FirstLight Apr 9 #11

It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 9 #14

I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 9 #8

Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 9 #12

BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 10 #15

We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #17

That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 10 #20

I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #21

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 10 #18

So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 9 #10

There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 10 #19

When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 10 #22

It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 12 #23