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ShazzieB

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9. I agree with Clouds Passing.

Wed Apr 9, 2025, 07:43 PM

Apr 9

You did not deserve that at all, BlueKota.

I don't think parents realize how deeply they can hurt us without moaning to. I've written about my mother elsewhere on this thread. There were things she said and did that had a lasting negative impact on me that I know she was completely unaware of. I never really tried to talk to her about those things, but I'm she would have been very upset to know just how much harm she did (albeit completely unwittingly).

I've often wondered myself what I may have said and done that affected my daughter in ways I wasn't aware of. I need to get up the courage to ask her one of these days.

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 9 OP

Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 9 #1

Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 9 #4

My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 9 #2

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 9 #5

You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 9 #3

Thank you! BlueKota Apr 9 #6

I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 9 #9

I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 9 #13

It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 10 #16

My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 9 #7

I feel you, FirstLight Apr 9 #11

It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 9 #14

I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 9 #8

Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 9 #12

BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 10 #15

We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #17

That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 10 #20

I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #21

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 10 #18

So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 9 #10

There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 10 #19

When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 10 #22

It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 12 #23