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UniqueUserName

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15. BlueKota, you write so well.

Thu Apr 10, 2025, 10:09 AM

Apr 10

I spent my morning walk ruminating on your posts.

Nothing I can say would be helpful. All I would be doing is re-hashing what you've said. It's funny how cleaning a basement can send us down these memory lanes ---for better or worse.

What I'm most struck with is this: How can some of us go through horrible things and come out good, caring, eloquent, empathetic people like you, and others become bitter and withered? How come carbon sometimes goes into the fire and comes out diamond and sometimes comes out coal? ------well, not really a good analogy ----we know how to turn carbon into synthetic diamonds ----but ---I hope you know what I mean.

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 9 OP

Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 9 #1

Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 9 #4

My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 9 #2

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 9 #5

You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 9 #3

Thank you! BlueKota Apr 9 #6

I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 9 #9

I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 9 #13

It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 10 #16

My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 9 #7

I feel you, FirstLight Apr 9 #11

It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 9 #14

I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 9 #8

Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 9 #12

BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 10 #15

We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #17

That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 10 #20

I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 10 #21

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 10 #18

So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 9 #10

There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 10 #19

When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 10 #22

It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 12 #23