Diet help for Obese husband and Skinny Wife

[HockeyMom]

My husband's BMI is 33.5 and has developed heart problems, and his doctor has told him that he is going to develop diabetes if he doesn't lose weight. He says it is my cooking that has caused him to gain weight. The major problem is that my BMI is 18.5 and I don't need to lose weight. I actually cannot afford to lose any weight.

I like to cook. When he was living by himself, he cooked a single baked chicken breast, pork chop, or steak, and a small amount of veggies. He prefers meat, pasta, and doesn't really like veggies. I do not like plain meat which I find gross and disgusting. That is why I do gormet cooking to disguise the taste of meat. When I was a young woman, I tried to become a vegan because of this but my weight dropped to 85 lbs and I became severely anemic. I would very happily follow a vegan diet, and not eat his baked meat, but I need to maintain my weight.

His other problem is that he snacks too much between meals. I don't eat between meals at all. If I do snack between meals to keep up my weight, I am going to have to hide it from him.

Any suggestions? I could make a vegan meal, just cook him a piece of meat with it, but I don't want to go down to 85 lbs as in the past, but my husband really does need to lose weight, and quckly.

This is a very difficult situation.