"You were not the mother I wanted."

[3Hotdogs]

My friend's daughter texted this to her, last week. The two of them have had a difficult time over the last 15 years.

My two kids --- well, I get along better with my two stepdaughters than I do with my direct offspring.


So the question: What is/was the mother - father you wanted?


I got pretty lucky with the parent I had. I was an only child so all attention was on me. We were working class poor, so I didn't always get the new baseball glove I wanted or such. But they were there at school concerts. They volunteered as scout leaders. -- the outward things that are observable and quantifiable.

The thing of it is, I knew I was wanted. Even when I fucked up on many occasions, I knew I was wanted.

But I didn't "want" them. They were not "cool" like Mr. & Mrs. A, up the street. Or my father didn't have a good, high paying job like most of the men in my community. The town I grew up in, is one of the 10 wealthiest zip codes in the nation.

You? What was the parent you wanted.