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Rainbow Droid

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8. Toxic is toxic. It's not your fault. Don't blame yourself, but get away from the toxicity.

Tue May 19, 2026, 12:59 PM

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It's really devastating when a friend or family member ends up like this but they're an adult making their own decisions. You have to do the same, and your decision here is clear cut and unambiguous. Heal and protect yourself with time and distance. Maybe they'll eventually realize they were wrong, but whether they do or not is not on you and you've already done all you can to help them get there. They chose this. Now they must live with the consequences, one of which is losing contact with a lifelong friend. It hurts, but they left you no choice.

Source: Personal experience.

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Further to my post about my best friend's loser boyfriend [View all] MIButterfly Yesterday OP

I would put as much distance between you as possible SheltieLover Yesterday #1

something serious is going on with her Skittles Yesterday #2

it's toxic, time to move away Shellback Squid Yesterday #3

People change. Sometimes as we get older we change dramatically. littlemissmartypants Yesterday #4

Time for you to go your own way. It's probably OK to know who she is, but don't let yourself become collateral damage. NBachers Yesterday #5

Having read both of your OP's about your friend, please, for your own peace niyad Yesterday #6

i 2nd she needs a med eval, but also mopinko Yesterday #7

Toxic is toxic. It's not your fault. Don't blame yourself, but get away from the toxicity. Rainbow Droid Yesterday #8