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Astrology, Spirituality & Alternative Healing

Howler

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19. Whoa ! Whoa! Whoa!

Reply to freeplessinseattle (Reply #6)

Sat Dec 31, 2011, 09:47 PM

Dec 2011

Look at what you just said Freeplessinseattle!

" I guess i just feel that if I remain silent
it seems cold, or seems like a silent agreement when she says she feels like God has let her down....or since she knows that I'm not religious myself she might think that I am thinking...what I am thinking, and feel worlds apart. "

You are such a talented Empathic......However this is about Your friend. What she feels,what she thinks,what her needs and reaction are.Get yourself out of the way! You cannot take on or feel the pain for her! Just be there for her, thats all you can do.
This is one of life's hardest waves to ride.

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My friend's young daughter passed away from leukemia recently and she is mad at God [View all] freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 OP

What I appreciated the most... OneGrassRoot Dec 2011 #1

I do get that, but simply remaining silent while she is pouring her heart out freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #2

I don't have insight about the religious aspect... OneGrassRoot Dec 2011 #4

Thank you, it does help to know that simply being silent isn't necessarily freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #9

Comforting doesn't necessarily mean advice-giving Remember Me Dec 2011 #15

i'm of the same mind as OGR. Howler Dec 2011 #3

Thank you. I guess i just feel that if I remain silent freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #6

maybe she feels more comfortable telling you that WolverineDG Dec 2011 #12

Whoa ! Whoa! Whoa! Howler Dec 2011 #19

I agree with OGR and Howler Tumbulu Dec 2011 #5

Thank you, that is a good idea, I will ponder on some ideas freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #7

Perhaps ask what she needs and listen Matariki Dec 2011 #8

she says she wants to try to process things but doesn't know how freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #10

Yeah, that's really really tough Matariki Dec 2011 #13

Thank you Matariki! and get this, her daughter was signed up for a promising study freeplessinseattle Dec 2011 #16

Probably the worst thing given to my dad & me when my mom died was WolverineDG Dec 2011 #11

After my dad died when I was a kid rosesaylavee Dec 2011 #14

Be her friend. BlueToTheBone Dec 2011 #17

Grieving PADemD Dec 2011 #18

You know Freepless, I'm dealing with cancer as we speak and I just got home from watching Ecumenist Jan 2012 #20

I'm so sorry to hear that. Cleita Jan 2012 #22

Thank you Cleita!! Ecumenist Jan 2012 #25

what ecumenist said magical thyme Jan 2012 #23

If you stop believing in God, then there is no one to blame would be a cynic's answer. Cleita Jan 2012 #21

Well Said, Cleita! Ecumenist Jan 2012 #24

Here's my two cents. SheilaT Jan 2012 #26