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Bernardo de La Paz

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14. Try this. Read my posts to your spiritual leader and see what they say
Thu Apr 3, 2025, 06:07 AM
Apr 3

It is one thing to accept the pain. I think it is wise to acknowledge the pain. But wallowing in it forever is not healthy and not necessary for the "spiritual cleansing" you seek. It seems to me that an attachment to suffering is a kind of vanity and a maintenance of a lifetime of grief is a kind of pious vanity. I think your church would rather you be good and joyously do good instead of suffering.

I'd be curious if, and doubtful they would condemn you to the same lifetime of suffering you condemn your self to about your dog. I'd be interested if you replied here with a summary of what they say in response to your self condemnation to a lifetime of suffering over a dog that you loved and cared for, and their response to my posts to you.

Frankly, I think you are making a big misinterpretation of your faith, hence I think you really should have a deep discussion with a priest or similar about the true meanings. I am not christian, but I was raised christian in catholic-adjacency, and I still have my bible along with many other books.

I do not believe even your faith, which has a theology of suffering, would condemn you to a life of suffering as punishment for loving and caring for a companion animal that loved and cared for you. That seems like a diabolical reversal, a misinterpretation of the good your faith wants to do for you and others.

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... alwaysinasnit Apr 3 #1
🩷🙏 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #4
Wishing you solace. rubbersole Apr 3 #2
True words from your Mom and you. 🩷 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #5
Forgive yourself. You did your best. Your emotion is natural but your dog would not want you beating yourself up Bernardo de La Paz Apr 3 #3
Some have told me same. I am accepting the pain experience given me. sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #6
Try this. Read my posts to your spiritual leader and see what they say Bernardo de La Paz Apr 3 #14
My Faith is not extreme in the explanation of suffering. sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #16
Please don't bold your posts, it is attention seeking. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Apr 3 #17
Sorry, my eyes are not in great shape... sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #18
Okay. I don't care for it, but I understand and will try to remember to not remark on it again to you. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Apr 3 #19
Awwww, Sprink, pls don't beat yourself up. SheltieLover Apr 3 #7
🩷🙏 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #20
I'm so sorry. Hope22 Apr 3 #8
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Hugs friend Duncanpup Apr 3 #9
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I am so sorry that you are feeling so much pain. Tanuki Apr 3 #10
🩷 ✝️ 🙏 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #25
So sorry for your loss Nululu Apr 3 #11
🩷🙏 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #24
Sorry for your pup. :( C Moon Apr 3 #12
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Hi sprinkleinow, JMCKUSICK Apr 3 #13
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I've experienced your grief (as have many here). I can only say that taking your time to hlthe2b Apr 3 #15
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Condolences to you. Nt spooky3 Apr 3 #28
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May you find peace wendyb-NC Apr 3 #29
🩷🙏 sprinkleeninow Apr 3 #32
I am so, so sorry. Do not beat up on yourself. We all "could have done more, could have done LoisB Apr 3 #30
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