Coping with Divorce or Separation

PoindexterOglethorpe

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6. Are you on good terms with wife 3?

Fri Oct 11, 2019, 07:09 PM

Oct 2019

Are either of you on good terms with number 2?

I personally think it would be considerate to let her know, unless their divorce was a nasty one and you have reason to think she would never want to hear anything of him again. In which case, letting her know after would be appropriate.

I was married for over 25 years, and I think for me the worst thing about the divorce is losing contact with his family. I did not find out his older brother died until after the fact, although I'd known he was ill. My ex does give me some updates.

I hope there's a comfortable solution to this dilemma.

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What is the obligation to notify an ex that spouse is dying? [View all] Grasswire2 Oct 2019 OP

maybe leave it to his current wife unless u keep in touch with the 2nd one nt msongs Oct 2019 #1

Yes. enough Oct 2019 #4

Do you feel comfortable notifying her? Rorey Oct 2019 #2

Not my place to notify her. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #5

I see no reason why they'd notify ex-wives lettucebe Oct 2019 #3

Are you on good terms with wife 3? PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 2019 #6

wife three is a nice person. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #7

I could care less if my ex dies and I don't want him notified if something happens to me. blueinredohio Oct 2019 #8

My POV is Sherman A1 Oct 2019 #9

I would certainly want to know if my first husband, father of my children, were dying. #2? No. Shrike47 Oct 2019 #10

My two cents is that you have no obligation. Your hands are full supporting your children. emmaverybo Oct 2019 #11