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Loners

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18. I live alone by choice.

Reply to xmas74 (Original post)

Mon Dec 12, 2011, 11:47 PM

Dec 2011

Been single for over 10 years. I’ve had two long term relationships - marriage was not an option - in the past, the longest being 18 years, so I feel like I’ve spent my ENTIRE LIFE in relationships. ... see how the two expand to fill … a little goes a long way, etc.

I’ve not been hurt. Had some great experiences. Incredibly lucky in some ways. But enough is … yeah enough.

All these comments about limiting your social exposure sound familiar. In addition, I find in loud bars that I can’t hear what people are saying. It’s hard to distinguish someone’s voice from the background noise. I’m not hard of hearing, it’s some sort of filtering thing. Again, a little goes a long way. I can go buy groceries and just that little interaction with the checkout clerk is enough for a day.

Its not that I wouldn’t like to have some people around, I guess I’m just really really picky about who I want to spend time with. Sorry. But these thoughts are only of a few. Never a crowd. I do have close friends.

Loner is me.
I think it runs in my family.

cue Neil Young

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What is the purpose of this group? [View all] xmas74 Dec 2011 OP

It is self-defined. murielm99 Dec 2011 #1

I understand about the healing time. xmas74 Dec 2011 #7

Your choice catchnrelease Dec 2011 #2

I don't know if I'm actually a loner. xmas74 Dec 2011 #8

We are in similar circumstances The empressof all Dec 2011 #17

All of the above. LWolf Dec 2011 #3

I don't really have a version of "loner". xmas74 Dec 2011 #4

I think most loners would concur, LWolf Dec 2011 #5

I'm not a big fan of neighbors xmas74 Dec 2011 #6

Neighbors get kinda forced on one by default. One can't really go around a building RKP5637 Dec 2011 #12

I live in an older neighborhood. xmas74 Dec 2011 #13

IMO it's become a very strange country, particularly over the past decade or so. n/t RKP5637 Dec 2011 #14

It really has. xmas74 Dec 2011 #15

I sort of had that house... marginlized Dec 2011 #16

that would be heaven to me n/t shanti Dec 2011 #21

Me, too. freshwest Dec 2011 #27

For me, it's serious introversion - being drained by crowds and restored by quiet time. iris27 Dec 2011 #9

I understand about being taken advantage of. xmas74 Dec 2011 #10

A chance to talk with people who share how you feel about certain things. bemildred Dec 2011 #11

I live alone by choice. marginlized Dec 2011 #18

runs in the family shanti Dec 2011 #22

For me being a loner is a choice because I have the option of not being one. Speck Tater Dec 2011 #19

I like those endless activities. marginlized Dec 2011 #24

definitely self defined shanti Dec 2011 #20

I have few around me. xmas74 Dec 2011 #23

Can one be an extroverted loner? nadine_mn Dec 2011 #25

Yes. That's me. DevonRex Dec 2011 #26

Wow, public speaking ... I'm a Dale Carnegie dropout. marginlized Dec 2011 #28

I love speaking in public - crowds of 1 to 100+ nadine_mn Dec 2011 #29

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