Fuck me, man! I don't wish this shit on anyone.

[StarryNite]

27. Look specifically for a memory care facility.

We moved my mom-in-law into once she had lost it too much for my father-in-law to manage. Actually we moved them both in together. He died about a year later. She lived on for about 10 more years.

The needs of dementia patients are different. They go through stages. They need to be in a facility where they can't get out should they start wanting to wander literally back in time. The home we had them in consisted of several houses. Each one could house about a dozen or so residents. They had the people who were in basically the same stages together. It was completely fenced in with a big grassy yard with beautiful trees in the center.

My mom-in-law transitioned very well. Her memory was so far gone when we moved her in that she didn't even realize she was in a different place.

There were ups and downs with things that were done. Make sure you have the final decision when it comes to drugs they may want to put her on. And research every drug the facility and doctor may want to put her on. Sometimes they want to put them on inappropriate drugs to "quiet" them.

There will be a definite learning curve for you. I wish you the best of luck. You will get through it and there will be many things to smile about along the way in this new journey in which you are about to embark.