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[Ziggysmom]

5. I feel for you. I'm 61 and care for a disabled husband who is 72 with severe COPD and

pulmonary hypertension. I’m still working full time as well as doing everything for him and the home. I find myself also going out shopping or something just to get a break away from him.

Our local office on aging helped him get a better Medicare plan with a lot more services. Your CalVet Service may offer some help, and I see other DUers made some great suggestions.

If your hubby is having mental health issues he really needs to be evaluated. There could be treatable medical problems causing his issues. My guy is stubborn about not wanting tests or doctor visits, but being on oxygen, he knows he won’t survive without his meds and treatments.

Above all, you have to take care of you and your own health. I know how stressful it is dealing with a stubborn partner. When mine first got on oxygen he didn’t want to leave the house and even started drinking to excess. I lost myself. The responsibilities of caregiving weighed me down and life seemed impossible to keep up with. I was depressed, overwhelmed and hopeless, I felt so alone. Thankfully I connected with support groups and got help; I even made a few good friends with people going through circumstances just like mine.