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3. I was a late in life baby too

My parents were around 42 when I was born. I lost my dad when I was 23 and he was 65 I think. Lung cancer. He was gone 2 months after Dx. He got a Trust put together just in the knick of time. I remember when he went into the hospital one time, the Dr. asked him about "heroics." Meaning if he would want to be resusitated and he declined. I guess that was a medical proxy he signed.

Mom passed away four years ago at 88. I got her into a long term care plan in her late 60s because she had mental health problems and I knew things would get bad at the end. I was right. We used the plan for nursing care the last 6 yrs of her life. It was a great plan, that isn't even sold anymore. So, we were lucky we had it.

So, that's my story in a nutshell. Things happen and you deal with them as they come. If you can, get help from an atty. If not, you deal with probate, etc. My sister did not have a trust or anything when she died. My brother and I spent almost an entire year dealing with her estate with our atty. Not fun, but it worked out.

The more you have in writing and set up legally ahead of time the better. But if you don't, or they are not willing, you just deal with it all after they pass. There is help out there either way!