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CountAllVotes

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24. A lot of what you describes sounds very familiar
Sun Jul 17, 2022, 08:03 PM
Jul 2022

My husband died 2 mos. ago of vascular dementia.

He was dx'd with dementia in February and was dead in May after he fell and broke his hip.



It was so sad!

I hope you can find tolerance in this journey you are on. Tolerance and love.

I feel like the doctors missed the boat with him as I found a thread on her that I started about old people sleeping a lot!

My god!

It had been going on for years and no one bothered to care enough to do anything about it despite my efforts.

Do what you can to hang-in there if for no one else but him.

May you find peace and do all you can to keep yourself well as you are needed now more than ever!

Take care,

CountAllVotes

P.S. Feel free to message me if you feel the need!

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You need help of course and I have no idea how to get it, hopefully someone does. Eliot Rosewater Jun 2022 #1
There are multiple reasons for short-term memory loss Murphyb849 Jun 2022 #2
Not knowing any more about you and your situation than I read in this post... COL Mustard Jun 2022 #3
First and foremost: you are not a horrible wife Raven123 Jun 2022 #4
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #12
Contact your doctor's office deRien Jun 2022 #5
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #13
Please call your local Agency for Aging ASAP JoeOtterbein Jun 2022 #6
I am so, so sorry. Phoenix61 Jun 2022 #7
I have limited perspective on your issue... VarryOn Jun 2022 #8
This is the best advice. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #21
We miss one thing our loved ones are going through ... EmmaLee E Oct 2023 #27
Yes, HUGS HELP is the best advice. EmmaLee E Jan 2024 #28
I'm so sorry you're going through this and you're not a bad wife. badhair77 Jun 2022 #9
I know your pain too well Moostache Jun 2022 #10
♥️ a kennedy Jun 2022 #15
I'm so sorry. Can you postpone the knee surgery? I ask spooky3 Jun 2022 #11
I am so sorry. I don't know how to help but you can't beat yourself up - you are not being a bad LoisB Jun 2022 #14
A change of diet and maybe medication Tetrachloride Jun 2022 #16
Please, please don't blame yourself Easterncedar Jun 2022 #17
Sending a big hug, and some comments MyMission Jun 2022 #18
I'm so glad you spoke of the stress caregivers endure. Trueblue Texan Jun 2022 #22
It's not his fault. It's not your fault either. Beastly Boy Jun 2022 #19
My Dad had dementia.... thecrow Jun 2022 #20
I just read this topic again.....and this really stood out to me.... a kennedy Jul 2022 #25
You sound like me. AmBlue Jun 2022 #23
A lot of what you describes sounds very familiar CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #24
Thank you. ♥️ a kennedy Jul 2022 #26
I really wish I had some advice for you... Hugin Mar 2024 #29
My thanks to all contributors oasis Apr 2024 #30
Yes, thanks MorbidButterflyTat Apr 2024 #31
I'm so sorry nt XanaDUer2 May 2024 #32
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