I'm in complete despair

[Doodley]

12. You say the other family members have been dealing with this. By that do

you mean that they've been doing what they can to rake care of him? Visiting him, checking on him, maybe helping with groceries. taking him to doctor appointments, hospiral visits etc? You must speak to them and share your concerns with them. Do you not have a good relationship with the family mermbers? Are they your siblings? Is there some resentment that you are usually out of the picture? I am guessing he lives alone? Is your mother still with us? Or does he live with another family member?

You are not clear. Are you saying family members do not have knowledge of the narcotics and financial exploitation? How did you find out? This is not your problem alone. While your father is in rehab, you all need to sit down and have a plan, both short and longer term. Does he have other medications? Is he responsible for those or does he have help or need help to organize his daily dosages?

Are you aware of how much ambian or narcotic medication he is taking? Does he have a shortage of those pills that may suggest uncontrolled addition? Is he in pain that isn't being treated? If so, maybe he needs to see a pain specialist. Yes, he needs to be confonted about the medication, but this isn't for you alone. You all need to talk and make a plan.

Is he aware that he has been financially exploited, or was it his choice through what he may perceive as kindness to a friend? As long as he is able to function without risk to himself and has the resources, external or family care he needs, there's no reason for him to be taken away from his home environment and put in a hell hole. What do you mean by you are "ill-equipped to be a caregiver." Are you disabled? What makes you ill-equpped, but not other family members who are dealing with him on a daily basis? Not being mean or anything, just trying to understand your situation.

Is he on Medicare and/or with supplementary insurance? You may be able to qualify for home health - in home visiting nurse care, although this is very limited. What are his daily needs? Does he have help preparing meals? Does he need help dressing, cleaning or going to the bathroom, getting in or out of bed or going to the bathroom, or help with medications? Does he have or do family members have the financial resources that could pay for carers who could help him for an hour or however long may benefit him per day?