I'm in complete despair

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24. I can't help, but I do offer you both empathy and sympathy

after what all I went through with my own mom. She isn't competent, and she's very aggressive, combative, and mean-mouthed. She was never this way until the dementia. The last time she fell and was admitted to the hospital, we had her evaluated by the hospital's elder care psychiatric unit. They made recommendations and actually helped to find a memory care home that would take her. I don't know what we'd have done without that help. She had been living with me and hubs for almost 2 years.

I'd like to know how she was getting the narcotics and Ambien online! Was it through a telehealth service with registered doctors? If so, it seems like you'd have some kind of a case against them. At least being able to put a warning out to others...

I send you hugs... though I know it's no help to you in your mess right now. Try to keep yourself centered, even if that means withdrawing somewhat from the situation and letting the chips fall where they may. Realize, no matter how hard you try, you can't control the situation; especially since you have other family members involved. You can't withdraw completely, I understand. Been there, still there; I know what it feels like. But you do have to set some of your own boundaries and protect them. Otherwise, the whole situation will drive you nuts and into an early grave, yourself.

I know it's hard to think about, but try to do one thing nice just for yourself in the coming days. It won't change the issues, but it did help me address it the next day with a little clearer state of mind. Good luck.