Losing a parent before you lose the parent

[kimbutgar]

3. My Mother also had the dementia for 8 years, probably even earlier.

Everytime I would see her she seemed a little less of herself. I went from being the child to the parent. My Dad died in 1997 and she lived alone all those years being pretty independent. About 2 years before she was diagnosed I had an awful time with her. She accused me of taking her money( which I had no access to). Asking why I didn’t call her when I had spoke to her an hour earlier. When she passed in 2016 I was sad but relieved. She was a tough woman who no longer was herself. I miss my Mother but she left me long before she died. I kept her in her house and had wonderful caregivers who lived with her. They took really good care of her and always kept her clean even when she fought with them about taking a bath. I had no guilt that I gave her the best years with her dementia. Hug your Mom and tell you love her and be supportive of your Dad who will need you even more.

I feel for you.