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delisen

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30. Get advice from responsible eldercare law firm.

Wed May 8, 2019, 05:18 PM

May 2019

and I emphasize responsible because it is important to not use a firm which may run up a bill unnecessarily.

You may only need a one time consult

Being an executor is a serious legal responsibility.

I don't want to be alarmist-sometimes there are just strong feeling around the death of a parent and which temporarily cause people to be at odds-

Try to keep lines of communication open as a sister, and also carry out the executor role in a business-like manner.
These are two separate roles.

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my dad just passed. at 9:40 am today :( My two sisters are trying to challange my executorship.. [View all] samnsara Apr 2019 OP

Death of a parent often brings out the worst in their progeny. stopbush Apr 2019 #1

My condolences. Let the lawyer handle the probate. I expect your sisters will rzemanfl Apr 2019 #2

Oh samansara, so sorry for your loss. What a great life he had. NT enough Apr 2019 #3

thank you all for your condolences. I wasn't able to get back to post my thank yous... samnsara May 2019 #19

I am so sorry for your loss! Siwsan Apr 2019 #4

My dad died out of the blue 4 weeks ago today. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #5

My condolences on your loss. No words are ever adequate but, FWIW, I am sure a lot of us here alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #9

Thank you. Everyone who has responded has been very kind. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #11

Been there. It really helps to have someone nearby to hold your hand and sit with you. No words are alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #13

Don't be fooled... BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #15

I think I have an idea about Cancers as I am married to one. Anyway, I hope you find a measure of alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #16

Im so sorry! At least I was able to say good bye to my dad :( samnsara May 2019 #20

Thank you. BigmanPigman May 2019 #24

I'm so sorry about your dad Ohiogal Apr 2019 #6

So sorry for you, Samnsara, and Bigman Bayard Apr 2019 #7

My heart goes out to you samnsara. I had a similar antagonistic situation when my mother died. alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #8

Best of luck Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #10

I wish we knew you could do that ... Blue_playwright May 2019 #39

Terribly sorry to hear that things turned out as they did for your husband's family Sherman A1 May 2019 #40

Mom passed last month, Dad two years ago Dr Vegas Apr 2019 #12

was it even legal for your relatives to go in and take stuff? samnsara May 2019 #21

So sorry to hear that. 2naSalit Apr 2019 #14

If accounts were closed where did the money go? lettucebe Apr 2019 #17

my lawyer has it in probate now...we had him on a retainer for other business we did with him.. samnsara May 2019 #22

Condolences samsara. Sounds like you need that lawyer. Cleaned out the accounts? Terrible lunasun Apr 2019 #18

thank you samnsara May 2019 #23

My condolences MissMillie May 2019 #25

Forever in your heart, samnsara.....nt Heartstrings May 2019 #26

This message was self-deleted by its author sfwriter May 2019 #27

Very sad to hear of your loss PJMcK May 2019 #28

Let your dad's love sustain you through a most difficult time..you have friends at DU who asiliveandbreathe May 2019 #29

Get advice from responsible eldercare law firm. delisen May 2019 #30

My condolences for your your loss. awesomerwb1 May 2019 #31

They literally waited until the eleventh hour? Very sad for your Dad and you. IADEMO2004 May 2019 #32

Kids fight like vultures when parents pass at140 May 2019 #33

Sorry for your loss TEB May 2019 #34

If he died that close to the guardianship order and they did what you say you might be able in2herbs May 2019 #35

Sorry about your loss KT2000 May 2019 #36

I am so sorry. dewsgirl May 2019 #37

I am sorry to read your story samnsara. madaboutharry May 2019 #38

They can't change his Will, you're safe on that front, anyway. JudyM Jun 2019 #41

Strength to you... I'm very sorry this is happening. NurseJackie Aug 2019 #42