My live-in-the-basement MIL has mild dementia,

[Ilsa]

18. Thank you for all of that. Sadly, the nearest

VA hospital is probably an hour away, not so much because of miles, but traffic and slow roads. It may be our best option, though.

I just hope she didn't throw away his papers. (Another thing for the list.) We stopped her from throwing away her marriage license several months ago. I think I may have put it in my safe deposit box. She thought it wasn't needed because she's a widow. I explained to her that her birth certificate doesn't have the name she uses now on it, that her marriage license explains how she went from being Jane Doe on her bc to Jane Smith. It took forever for her to understand how ID works, and that she'd likely need it to get her new military ID card if/when this one expires.

She had cataract surgery almost five years ago, and had opth visits for a couple of years afterwards. As of last week she was complaining about her peripheral vision. I go with her to her PCP, cardiac, oncology, and other visits, and one is scheduled for later this week. I'll get a referral set up for her.