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Elder-caregivers

RazBerryBeret

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26. My momma has Dementia

Reply to Ilsa (Reply #9)

Wed Jan 8, 2020, 10:40 PM

Jan 2020

We moved he to an assisted living facility after my dad passed (she didn't want to live with and of us, i'm only slightly offended). My dad was in the army and the veteran benefits are the only thing that covers part of her assisted living bill.

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My live-in-the-basement MIL has mild dementia, [View all] Ilsa Jan 2020 OP

Does she have medicaid? Faux pas Jan 2020 #1

No, she has Medicare and Tricare for life as Ilsa Jan 2020 #9

Be advised that when the time comes... Binkie The Clown Jan 2020 #13

Thank you! That really is great news. nt Ilsa Jan 2020 #14

You're not hosed on long term care. If she has no other funds, she'd be Medicaid eligible. hedda_foil Jan 2020 #17

Ok, thanks. More good news. nt Ilsa Jan 2020 #20

My momma has Dementia RazBerryBeret Jan 2020 #26

She is also likely entitled to long-term care at a veteran's home Maru Kitteh Feb 2020 #31

Definitely get your names on her bank accounts Siwsan Jan 2020 #2

My husband is on both of them, Ilsa Jan 2020 #7

Did the neurologist suggest what could help slow down the process, by any chance? JudyM Jan 2020 #23

She was first diagnosed about 7 years ago. Siwsan Jan 2020 #24

The neurologist tried a couple of meds with my dad that didn't help JudyM Jan 2020 #28

This curse runs in my mother's family Siwsan Jan 2020 #30

You need a Durable Power of Attorney, which is a bit different from a Health Care POA in my state. Poeraria Jan 2020 #3

Thank you, I'll check for that. nt Ilsa Jan 2020 #6

Watch for UTI's. They will decompensate Phoenix61 Jan 2020 #4

Excelkent ideas about the UTI business. Ilsa Jan 2020 #5

... handmade34 Jan 2020 #8

Whether or not you freeze her credit, get that account closed. eppur_se_muova Jan 2020 #10

I feel for you... dhill926 Jan 2020 #11

My mom with dementia lived with me for 6 years. Binkie The Clown Jan 2020 #12

Seconding this advice. JudyM Jan 2020 #25

If there is a danger of her wandering, buy a couple of tracking devices like "Tile." 3Hotdogs Jan 2020 #15

Thank you for all of that. Sadly, the nearest Ilsa Jan 2020 #18

Each county is supposed to have a VA office. 3Hotdogs Jan 2020 #21

I recently saw this article and saved it babylonsister Jan 2020 #16

Thank you. nt Ilsa Jan 2020 #19

It's like the person is sliding down a hill, ginnyinWI Jan 2020 #22

As noted by Binkie above, get to the bank ASAP. JudyM Jan 2020 #27

If her husband was a veteran... dawg day Jan 2020 #29