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End of Life Issues

The_jackalope

(1,660 posts) Wed Dec 13, 2017, 09:15 PM Dec 2017

Three months later, and it all caves in on me. [View all]

There aren't any support groups yet for people who have helped their soulmate die.

I used to fly gliders. The one thing I dreaded most was a low level stall-spin. The internal dialogue would go like this:

"God damn it. Fuck. Shit. Center the stick! Apply full rudder against the direction of the spin. Hold it hold it hold it hold it in until the rotation stops. GENTLY ease back the stick to pull out of the dive. Not so hard! You'll rip the fucking wings off. Oh god dear god please let me have enough altitude to pull out. Shit that ground looks close. Shitshitshitshit I sure wish I'd worn a fucking parachute."

Welcome to my evening.

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Three months later, and it all caves in on me. [View all] The_jackalope Dec 2017 OP

So sorry to hear you are going through this RainCaster Dec 2017 #1

I'm so sorry. I can't fathom what you've been through and how sinkingfeeling Dec 2017 #2

Thanks you so much. No, no pastor. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #5

Does music or a good book help at all? MLAA Dec 2017 #3

I've written about it a fair bit actually - check my earlier posts here. Words don't help this. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #7

Ho Jackalope! Eko Dec 2017 #4

It's a humbling experience. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #6

As a non believer. Eko Dec 2017 #8

We are made of stars. That's a good, grounding thought. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #17

Stardust. Eko Dec 2017 #22

I don't generally post here, brer cat Dec 2017 #23

Thank you. That helps more than you know. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #24

Very sorry shenmue Dec 2017 #9

That reminds me True Dough Dec 2017 #10

That's me. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #11

Ahhh! I thought the similarities were quite remarkable True Dough Dec 2017 #13

Weird isnt it, the roller coaster of emotion cilla4progress Dec 2017 #12

Yes, that's close enough for horseshoes and heartache. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #14

Do you have a cilla4progress Dec 2017 #15

Yes. A wonderful little dog, a schnoodle named Buddha. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #16

Arent they cilla4progress Dec 2017 #18

She came into his life when he was a year old. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #20

Lovely! cilla4progress Dec 2017 #35

It helped me to think of it, too. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #36

Nice cilla4progress Dec 2017 #37

I remember your beautiful pictures of her at the end. I am also grieving a loss of life since OCT lunasun Dec 2017 #19

I'm sorry. Yes, it can really suck. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #21

In my grief support group central scrutinizer Dec 2017 #25

That's good to know. I'll keep looking. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #27

You might want to check out Diane Rehm's book. She went through that tragic situation. spooky3 Dec 2017 #26

Thanks, I just ordered it now. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #29

I hope it provides some comfort ++++++++++++++++++ to you. spooky3 Dec 2017 #31

Maintain thy airspeed lest the ground rise up and smite thee! VMA131Marine Dec 2017 #28

Thank you. No words are possible, but none are necessary. The_jackalope Dec 2017 #30

I don't know if hospice was involved catrose Dec 2017 #32

Thanks for the reminder. Yes, they were involved The_jackalope Dec 2017 #33

Oh good! I'm glad you're already connected. catrose Dec 2017 #34

You have us. And we have you. TygrBright Dec 2017 #38