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highplainsdem

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45. I'm so sorry, Maeve. I lost my mother several years ago, after years of being her caregiver (including

Sun Mar 1, 2026, 07:37 PM

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a lot of time almost every day during her final months in a nursing home, because the staff there had so much trouble coping with her very rare swallowing disorder, achalasia, which some of the aides had never heard of and only one specialist in the city had any expertise with). It wasn't as sudden a loss for me, of course, but losing a parent is hard, and losing a loved one you've been a caregiver for is hard, and the combination is wrenching.

We're here for you. I'm praying your mother will be able to send you some signs to help comfort you.

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Just the love y'all have shown in this thread is sufficient Maeve 16 hrs ago #189

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Welcome to DU, MaineNative. calimary 18 hrs ago #185

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I've known some of you for the better part of 25 years. I trusted that you'd lift me up, and I was right! Maeve 16 hrs ago #196

My sincere sympathy at the loss of your mother. No matter how old we are we will always miss them. pazzyanne 17 hrs ago #188

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