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157. I am so sorry Maeve

Mon Mar 2, 2026, 09:35 AM

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I lost my mother in Nov 2021. She was only 71 and we are a family with longevity genes in general. I am barely recovered.

Everything I do is dedicated to her memory as I am grimly determined to make sure I do my best by her and my dad in every way.

I was her caregiver for the first year she was ill and gave it all I had. So I understand how hard it is.

I wish you all the best with the work ahead. It took me about a year to get things in order and my mom was very organized. Good luck.

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