Remembering Memory [View all]
I have a problem memory - a seriously problem memory - which is due to six weeks of electro-convulsive therapy in 2023. I know it was in '23 because I couldn't remember whether my best friend,* Dale, had been at my 60th birthday bash that year. Of course he had, coming down from Portland, OR (to Orange Co., CA) to be with me and to be among my guests. But oh, how it killed me to have to ask him if he'd been there.
It's been especially bad to hear about a concert I "missed:" we saw Bette Midler in her Divine Intervention Tour at the Verizon Center in Washington, DC in 2015.
Kathy (my wife) and I watched The First Wives Club tonight, and after it ended, she said "I wish you remembered when we saw Bette Midler." I stared at the floor in disbelief, then began to cry. Kathy said "I shouldn't have told you." I don't remember what I said to her, besides disagreeing. I hope I didn't say something that hurt her.
I had no idea that I'd seen The Divine Miss M. 😢
The I missed another concert - Shawn Colvin's. Apparently I've seen her twice. I remember seeing her once, although I don't remember when or where. But to learn that I missed one of her shows was pretty rough on me because so much of her music moves me - her lyrics make their way into my heart and resonate there.
Have you experienced any thing that's cost you your memory?
* Fortunately, I will always remember that my other best friend, Lisa, from Maryland, had shocked my ass at the front door. That's when I learned she was coming to the bash. I had no idea. My family's very good at keeping secrets. I doubt I'd remember her being there if she hadn't shown up unannounced.
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