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Bernardo de La Paz

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1. "I wish you remembered" is a thoughtless careless thing to say to anyone with memory deficits

Reply to Not Heidi (Original post)

Mon Feb 3, 2025, 04:15 AM

Feb 3

A brain scientist was talking about her mother with Alzheimers. She was constantly being asked "Does she recognize you?"

The speaker showed why that was the wrong question because, as she explained, her mother was just happy whenever she went to see her at the facility or go out on day trips.

Just being with each other was good enough for both. Memory tests or nagging about memories is not helpful, as your sweet OP illustrates.

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Remembering Memory [View all] Not Heidi Feb 3 OP

"I wish you remembered" is a thoughtless careless thing to say to anyone with memory deficits Bernardo de La Paz Feb 3 #1

oh dear Skittles Feb 3 #2

Skittles . . . Not Heidi Feb 3 #3

thanks, I hope so too Skittles Feb 3 #4

I'm very glad to hear that Not Heidi Feb 3 #5