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94. I was about to say

Mon Apr 21, 2025, 10:25 AM

Apr 21

Granted, you have had a long time to get adjusted to this, but that begs the question whether it is possible to really get "adjested" to something that remains a moving target.

One of my best friends in Dallas has a B-I-L who gravely damaged his frontal lobes in a motorcycle accident when he was 20 (about 50 years ago), and whereas he is fully cognizant, he has little capacity for logic and no emotional stamina whatsoever. He flies off the handle if the shower water is off by 5 degrees in either direction, so obviously he hasn't been able to drive at all. Road rage gets you killed in Texas. If he sees a problem (the latest is black mold), if he decides it has been present in a car, he will never set foot in that car, whether or not there is any factual basis for this. My friend's wife is his twin sister, and she has been putting up with this as his unofficial caregiver for fifty years..

People can make light of this kind of affliction, but it is burden on both the caregivers and the victim, at least, as long as the victim is aware of the situation.

Kudos for your coping, no matter what the result this time. Far from everyone that travels this road does so as calmly.

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I was diagnoised in 2013... [View all] Omaha Steve Apr 20 OP

I wish you the best Shellback Squid Apr 20 #1

Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 20 #59

I'm sorry to hear it is progressing, Omaha Steve. Truly. And I wish you all the luck I can find... hlthe2b Apr 20 #2

Oh man. Scary news. MontanaMama Apr 20 #3

Good luck in your driving test. magicarpet Apr 20 #4

thinking about giving up driving CountAllVotes Apr 20 #5

Be sure to NEVER use cruise control if pavement is damp or wet. Attilatheblond Apr 20 #50

Thanks for the advice CountAllVotes Apr 20 #73

Understand completely Attilatheblond Apr 20 #77

Best of luck to you! KT2000 Apr 20 #6

You have done remarkably well jmbar2 Apr 20 #7

golf cart. my family had one for a while. just a thought Tetrachloride Apr 20 #8

The family at the top of the hill uses one in the neighborhood, especially as the dad's health declined Hekate Apr 20 #53

I'm using Uber more often. Costco occasionally has Uber deals. I'll take an Uber to the train station, and AnotherMother4Peace Apr 20 #58

You are taking this well. 1WorldHope Apr 20 #9

Immanuel Rehabilitation Institute Omaha Steve Apr 20 #12

Well, good luck. That is a more thorough test compared to 15 min with the dmv tester. 1WorldHope Apr 20 #13

3 hours? Akakoji Apr 20 #36

I wondered this too. An in-depth assessment TommyT139 Apr 20 #80

I was about to say DFW Apr 21 #94

You can't tell it from your posts. Good luck! 👍🍀 surfered Apr 20 #10

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Count me in on that comment too. I enjoy his valuable voice here. Nt lostnfound Apr 20 #75

thanks for the brief education on this OS peacebuzzard Apr 20 #11

That is a beautiful and heartfelt tale of your own. Thank you for sharing. erronis Apr 20 #21

thank you! it is a minor freak out of mine when I forget things, peacebuzzard Apr 20 #63

Praying you do well. My husband had to quit driving recently; I understand what a Ziggysmom Apr 20 #14

Wishing you the best of luck! jgo Apr 20 #15

Holding you in light and love, my friend. niyad Apr 20 #16

Keep checking because I swear I have heard recently that they have made strides in these Maraya1969 Apr 20 #17

Best wishes Omaha Steve. You got this 😍 Evolve Dammit Apr 20 #18

Good luck, OS gademocrat7 Apr 20 #19

Wishing you the best, Steve. As others here have already said, no one reading your posts would ever highplainsdem Apr 20 #20

Best of luck 🤞 I hope you will be ok 🙏 TommieMommy Apr 20 #22

You've got this, Steve! no_hypocrisy Apr 20 #24

I like this for a mantra. peacebuzzard Apr 20 #65

Oooooh, I like that too! calimary Apr 21 #89

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As someone above stated, you are a D.U. treasure. 3Hotdogs Apr 20 #27

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Omaha Steve, I'm sending you all the luck I can find, along with a lot of positive thoughts. Dem2theMax Apr 20 #30

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I really wish you the best. May the good angels of The Universe stay by your side. LoisB Apr 20 #32

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I wish you love and luck.Omaha Steve. debm55 Apr 20 #35

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praying. Groundhawg Apr 20 #38

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Best of luck Steve! GoneOffShore Apr 20 #44

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Driving tests are scary enough no matter one's age or health status. 3catwoman3 Apr 20 #47

I'm wishing you all the luck in the world, Steve! whathehell Apr 20 #48

Did you see the article about the link between liver function and.... bee_peaceful Apr 20 #49

Best of luck to you. beveeheart Apr 20 #51

sending you the best vibes I can stillcool Apr 20 #52

I hope you are still road-worthy, Steve True Dough Apr 20 #54

I wish you the best, amigo JoseBalow Apr 20 #55

Dear Omaha Steve ReRe Apr 20 #56

Hang in there, Steve! Good luck. Ocelot II Apr 20 #57

Steve, you're a DU gem. hamsterjill Apr 20 #60

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I definitely wish you good luck and anything else that may help! liberalla Apr 20 #66

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Wishing you the best and good luck, my friend. HeartsCanHope Apr 20 #68

Steve sent you DU mail BonnieJW Apr 20 #69

Much good luck Omaha Steve 🍀🍀🍀🍀 Clouds Passing Apr 20 #70

Hang tough. cachukis Apr 20 #71

I am sorry Omaha Steve. You've been a stalwart member of DU for almost 21 years. ------- Fla Dem Apr 20 #72

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Research in England shows that Trazodone helps slow the advance Omaha Steve Apr 20 #76

Hoping that all goes well for you. love_katz Apr 20 #78

Thank you for sharing and providing the link. You are a huge asset here at DU and to the Democratic Party. MLAA Apr 20 #79

Good luck. elleng Apr 20 #81

OmahaSteve I'm sorry to hear this and I wish you much luck FakeNoose Apr 20 #82

Driver's Written. kgray96057 Apr 20 #83

Very tough. Best wishes Easterncedar Apr 20 #84

So sorry. applegrove Apr 20 #85

Good luck! Dorothy V Apr 20 #86

Been pulling for you for years, I will continue pulling. marble falls Apr 20 #87

I have faith that you will pass this! Stay present. Best to you! 58Sunliner Apr 20 #88

Our thoughts are with you. Grumpy Old Guy Apr 21 #90

Good luck... BigmanPigman Apr 21 #91

Good Luck! electric_blue68 Apr 21 #92

Wishing you every success, Steve! Lots of those powerful DU vibes will see you through! Rhiannon12866 Apr 21 #93

I am so sorry, Omaha Steve. Bumbles Apr 21 #95

I too see my day coming Be The Light Apr 21 #96

I spoke with a doctor in our now walking group malaise Apr 21 #97

Wishing you all the best luck and results. Moostache Apr 21 #98

Im so sorry. You must be so scared :( My husband had an MRI last week.. samnsara Apr 21 #99

Best of luck Steve! Polybius Apr 22 #100

I turned 68 in January Omaha Steve Apr 22 #101

All the best to you Steve. JohnSJ Apr 22 #102